A Young Woman's Guide to Setting Boundaries


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The teen years, when you’re no longer a child but not yet an adult, can be hard. How do you deal with the stress of school, home life, boys, teen depression, peer pressure, and so much more? It’s never been easy to be a teen, but today’s world brings special challenges that require special skills. The good news is you can learn how to cope with all your stresses when you understand the power and freedom of setting healthy boundaries. You can experience God’s unconditional love and acceptance, and find the courage, confidence, and hope that will transform your teen years and become the foundation of your life for years to come. When you discover how to begin setting boundaries, you’ll be joining thousands of readers of all ages who have benefited by Allison’s popular Setting Boundaries® series.




Boundaries


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This book invites teens to examine their lives and relationships within a religious context. It begins by helping you define what physical, emotional, spiritual, and sexual boundaries are. Stories of other teens illustrate how personal space and feelings can be either respected or violated in relationships with others. The book's journal format encourages you to reflect on and record feelings about your own relationships. Do people respect your boundaries? Has anyone ever made you feel uncomfortable in some way? Have you ever felt manipulated, intimidated, or mistreated by someone you regarded as a friend? How can you get a friendship that has gone wrong back on track? Use Boundaries: A Guide for Teens to help assess your relationships with family, friends, classmates, and God. Learn how to build close and satisfying friendships while guarding against being used or abused by others. Learn what it takes for you to be a good friend in return.




Setting Boundaries® for Women


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Women who have trouble setting and enforcing appropriate boundaries with the people in their lives will find help and inspiration in the latest offering in Allison Bottke’s popular Setting Boundaries® series. Her six steps to SANITY are: S…Stop your own negative behavior A…Assemble a support group N…Nip excuses in the bud I…Implement rules and boundaries T….Trust your instincts Y…Yield everything to God Allison’s new book will help women who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries, whether it’s a spouse, an adult child, a boss, a parent, a neighbor or a friend. Setting Boundaries® For Women is designed to inspire, empower, and equip women with the tools to transform lives.




Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People


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Continuing her popular Setting Boundaries® series, Allison Bottke offer her distinctive “Six Steps to SANITY” to readers who must deal with difficult people. S…Stop your own negative behavior A…Assemble a support group N…Nip excuses in the bud I…Implement rules and boundaries T….Trust your instincts Y…Yield everything to God Whether it’s a spouse, in-law, boss, coworker, family member, neighbor, or friend, readers who have allowed others to overstep their boundaries will learn how these six steps can help them reset those boundaries and take back their life…for good. Setting Boundaries® with Difficult People is designed to inspire, empower, and equip readers with the tools to transform lives.




The Assertiveness Guide for Women


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Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.




Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children


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This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)




Setting Boundaries® with Food


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For the fourth book in her popular Setting BoundariesTM series, Allison Bottke turns to our relationship with food, and a problem that affects more than 200 million Americans (68 percent of the adult population)—obesity. Setting Boundaries® with Food is a very personal book for Allison. She knows from personal experience about the struggle against obesity—feeling trapped in a seemingly never-ending cycle of dieting, deprivation, and despair. At one time in her life, Allison’s scale hit the 300-pound mark. Her overweight status resulted in Allison being the first full-figure model ever signed by the prestigious Wilhelmina modeling agency, where she worked for some of the biggest names in fashion, such as Gloria Vanderbilt and Alfred Angelo. From her struggle, Allison offers more than just hope for the future. By introducing readers to her popular S.A.N.I.T.Y. steps, she encourages readers to turn away from the insanity of dieting and deprivation and to focus instead on establishing healthy relationships with food, self, others, and God. Her words will strike a chord with millions who have struggled for years to lose weight as they are encouraged to examine the emotional and spiritual aspects of their bondage to food and obsession with weight.




Setting Boundaries® with Your Aging Parents


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This important book from the author of Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children (more than 40,000 sold) will help adult children who long for a better relationship with their parents but feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of chaos, crisis, or drama. With keen insight and a passion to empower adult children, Allison charts a trustworthy roadmap through the often unfamiliar territory of setting boundaries with parents while maintaining personal balance and avoiding burnout. Through the use of professional advice, true stories, and scriptural truth, readers learn how to apply the “6 Steps to SANITY”: S-STOP your own negative behavior A-ASSEMBLE a support group N-NIP excuses in the bud I-IMPLEMENT rules and boundaries T-TRUST your instincts Y-YIELD everything to God Resources are available at the ministry website: www.settingboundaries.com




Setting Boundaries® with Negative Thoughts and Painful Memories


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Find Lasting Freedom from Past Emotional Pain If you wait long enough, difficult and traumatic experiences from your past will go away on their own...right? Except they won't. Time doesn't heal all wounds. Instead, we hoard our hurts. We rehash our sorrows and wonder how they could have been prevented. This keeps us from making brand-new memories and embracing the richer life we crave. Now is the time for setting healthy boundaries with the past. Allison Bottke will help you... tame the triggers that stir painful memories by replacing negative thoughts with biblical hope identify lingering communication issues so you can release them and grow in your relationships take six simple S.A.N.I.T.Y. steps to find peace in the midst of emotional chaos Don't let the past dictate your present feelings. Follow this achievable advice and discover the freedom your captive heart desperately needs.




Boundaries


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When to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life.