Dealing with People You Can't Stand, Fourth Edition: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst


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The classic guide to bringing out the best in people at their worst—fully updated for a world that’s meaner, nastier, and more polarized than ever Today, new technologies, the increased role of social media, and the ubiquity of remote work have resulted in more polarized workplaces, the breakdown of social mores, and downright rude behavior. These days, it seems like there are more people we can’t stand—not fewer—and, too often, if we aren’t yelling at each other, we’ve just quit talking altogether. The global bestseller Dealing with People You Can’t Stand has been helping people make the best of tough situations for nearly three decades, and this new edition has been fully updated to address the needs of our time. You'll learn how to get along and get things done when you’re dealing with people who have the uncanny ability to sabotage, derail, and interfere with your plans, needs, and wants. Brand-new chapters cover: Narcissism Polarization Remote work Meetings Video communication Social media communication Communicating with relatives The authors explain how to use sophisticated listening techniques to unlock the doors to others’ hearts and minds; turn conflict into cooperation by reducing the differences between us; and mitigate the destructive behavior of all types of difficult people. Whether you’re dealing with a manager who won’t let you get a word in edgewise in a virtual or hybrid meeting, a coworker who holds beliefs you find extreme, a family member who doesn’t respect your boundaries, or trolls on social media, Dealing with People You Can’t Stand provides the tools for bringing out the best in people at their worst.




Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, Revised and Expanded Third Edition: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst


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The classic guide to bringing out the best in people at their worst—updated with even more can’t-standable people! Dealing with People You Can’t Stand has been helping good people deal with bad behavior in a positive, professional way for nearly two decades. Unfortunately, as the world becomes smaller and time more compressed, new difficult people are being made all the time. So Kirschner and Brinkman have updated their global bestseller to help you wring positive results from even the most twisted interactions you’re likely to experience today. Learn how to get things done and get along when you’re dealing with people who have the uncanny ability to sabotage, derail, and interfere with your plans, needs, and wants. Learn how to: Use sophisticated listening techniques to unlock the doors to people’ s minds, hearts, and deepest needs Apply “take-charge” skills that turn conflict into cooperation by reducing the differences between people Transform the destructive behavior of Tanks, Snipers, Know-It-Alls, Whiners, Martyrs, Meddlers, and other difficult types of people This enhanced eBook includes features you won’t find in the print edition, including: 7 comic book style presentations embedded with audio that depict different scenarios of dealing with toxic personalities—illustrating tips and strategies for making the best of the situation 16 entertaining and engaging videos showing how to resolve conflict situations with demonstrated positive and negative strategies Link to the Lens-of-Understanding Self-Assessment you can complete to evaluate your relationships with people in your life Access to a 27-minute audio of the authors explaining on how to change your overall attitude, so you can use the tools in the book even more effectively Whether you’re dealing with a coworker trying to take credit for your work, a distant family member who knows no personal bounds, or a loud cell phone talker on line at the grocery store, Dealing with People You Can’t Stand gives you the tools for bringing out the best in people at their worst.




Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, Revised and Expanded Third Edition: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst


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Dealing With People You Cant Stand offers practical tactics for resolving relationship challenges at work and home. It shows readers how to get things done, even when they are dealing with rude, crude, and inconsiderate people who have the ability to derail anything good that can happen




Dealing with People You Can't Stand: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst


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The international bestseller--­­more than 500,000 copies sold! With their 1994 international bestseller, Dealing with People You Can't Stand, Drs. Rick Brinkman and Rick Kirschner armed a civility-starved world with no-nonsense strategies for dealing with difficult people with tact and skill. Since then, cell phones, the Internet, voice mail, and other technological wonders designed to bring people closer together have only made it that much harder to avoid "people you can't stand;" even worse, they've also created exciting new ways for annoying people to realize their talent for being pains in the butt. Updated and revised for the digital age, this new edition of Brinkman and Kirschner's bestselling guide shows readers how to successfully combat the whiners, grenades, tanks, snipers, close-talkers, pedants, and other rude, crude, and inconsiderate people who can ruin your day at work, in stores, on the street, in restaurants, at the movies, in waiting rooms, by fax, phone, and E-mail, and in cyberspace.




Dealing With Difficult People


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Explains how to: Identify 10 bothersome behaviors and deal successfully with each of them Understand why people become difficult Use sophisticated techniques to neutralize whining, negativity, attacks, tantrums and more Cultivate the nine "take-charge" skills that prevent people from becoming difficult




Dealing with People You Can't Stand, Fourth Edition: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst


Book Description

The classic guide to bringing out the best in people at their worst--fully updated for a world that's meaner, nastier, and more polarized than ever Today, new technologies, the increased role of social media, and the ubiquity of remote work have resulted in more polarized workplaces, the breakdown of social mores, and downright rude behavior. These days, it seems like there are more people we can't stand--not fewer--and, too often, if we aren't yelling at each other, we've just quit talking altogether. The global bestseller Dealing with People You Can't Stand has been helping people make the best of tough situations for nearly three decades, and this new edition has been fully updated to address the needs of our time. You'll learn how to get along and get things done when you're dealing with people who have the uncanny ability to sabotage, derail, and interfere with your plans, needs, and wants. Brand-new chapters cover: Narcissism Polarization Remote work Meetings Video communication Social media communication Communicating with relatives The authors explain how to use sophisticated listening techniques to unlock the doors to others' hearts and minds; turn conflict into cooperation by reducing the differences between us; and mitigate the destructive behavior of all types of difficult people. Whether you're dealing with a manager who won't let you get a word in edgewise in a virtual or hybrid meeting, a coworker who holds beliefs you find extreme, a family member who doesn't respect your boundaries, or trolls on social media, Dealing with People You Can't Stand provides the tools for bringing out the best in people at their worst.




Ask a Manager


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From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together




Internet Dating Just Bytes


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This is a humorous approach for finding a good recipe. Learning how to write a great personal ad. It will show you what to put in your ad, and most importantly what to leave out. How to read personal ads to know what they are really saying and reading between the lines, for what they dont say. Dating and relationships is like making a cake. You should start with a good recipe. A recipe that does not include any foiled Bundt cakes, fruitcakes, and no half-baked nut wonders. What we really need is a human Mixmaster, where you can gather up all of the ingredients you want and throw them in there to make the perfect mate, but then that would take all of the fun and surprise out of searching the Internet now wouldnt it? Even with a good recipe things can still go awry: Great growling grizzly! I had a date with Wild Man Mike from the Klondike. An extremely nice guy, but short of coming to the date with a weed eater for beard trimming I was not equipped to handle what I had unearthed. Mother Mary, he was wild and hairy. The only sparks that arose in this situation came from the undercarriage of my car when I hit a speed bump driving away at 85 miles an hour. In this book, you will discover some of the pitfalls and the pratfalls of online romance. We have endeavored in creating this book to show you a little of both. Many of the things that we discuss are through observations and stories from people that have been there and done that. We truly hope that you enjoy reading our somewhat comic romp through the world of matchmaking in cyber-space as much as we enjoyed creating it. On-line dating can be interesting and fun but all of the stars have to align perfectly for that to happen. Finding that perfect someone is not the norm its kind of like winning the lottery. You run the ball hopper and see what pops out. Maybe if youre lucky youll get a winner but more often than not youll get a loser. This is both a man and a womans perspective about Internet Dating and relationships.




A Little Life


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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A stunning “portrait of the enduring grace of friendship” (NPR) about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. A masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century. NATIONAL BOOK AWARD FINALIST • MAN BOOKER PRIZE FINALIST • WINNER OF THE KIRKUS PRIZE A Little Life follows four college classmates—broke, adrift, and buoyed only by their friendship and ambition—as they move to New York in search of fame and fortune. While their relationships, which are tinged by addiction, success, and pride, deepen over the decades, the men are held together by their devotion to the brilliant, enigmatic Jude, a man scarred by an unspeakable childhood trauma. A hymn to brotherly bonds and a masterful depiction of love in the twenty-first century, Hanya Yanagihara’s stunning novel is about the families we are born into, and those that we make for ourselves. Look for Hanya Yanagihara’s latest bestselling novel, To Paradise.




The 48 Laws of Power


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Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature. In the book that People magazine proclaimed “beguiling” and “fascinating,” Robert Greene and Joost Elffers have distilled three thousand years of the history of power into 48 essential laws by drawing from the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, and Carl Von Clausewitz and also from the lives of figures ranging from Henry Kissinger to P.T. Barnum. Some laws teach the need for prudence (“Law 1: Never Outshine the Master”), others teach the value of confidence (“Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness”), and many recommend absolute self-preservation (“Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally”). Every law, though, has one thing in common: an interest in total domination. In a bold and arresting two-color package, The 48 Laws of Power is ideal whether your aim is conquest, self-defense, or simply to understand the rules of the game.