Making Sense of Loss, Stress, Resilience, Empowerment, Perception of Resources, and Health in Grandparents Raising Grandchildren


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In 2012, 10% of children in the US lived with a grandparent, rising from 7% in 1992; 2.7 million grandparents were raising their grandchildren and about 39% of these grandparents had been doing so for 5 years or more. Although there are many benefits of grandchildren living with their grandparents (e.g., love, structure, safety, maintenance of connections), the events leading up to the transition are often traumatic and/or unanticipated, which compounded by the responsibilities of caregiving, can leave grandparents feeling loss and stress. In this study, family stress theory was used to explore the relationships between grandfamily demographics; various characteristics (e.g., length of caregiving, number and ages of grandchildren, etc.); their experience of loss, stress, resilience, and empowerment; their perceived informal supports and formal resources; and their overall health. Hypotheses were tested using multiple regression, hierarchical regression, and path analysis. Results indicate that age, marital status, rurality, custody arrangement, and parental involvement all might play a role in predicting stress, loss, empowerment, perceived informal resources, and perceived formal resources. Income and parental involvement might also play a role in predicting grandparent health before and while raising their grandchild(ren). The role of perception of informal resources as it relates to loss, stress, resiliency, and empowerment indicate that having personal supports, such as family and friends, is very important for grandparents raising grandchildren. Future research, utilizing this survey and other data collection methods, should continue to investigate these complex relationships and families.




Resilient Grandparent Caregivers


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The study of grandparents raising grandchildren, now almost two decades old, has tended to have a negative bias, emphasizing the difficulties such people face and the negative impact that grandparent caregiving has on them physically, socially, and emotionally. This edited book seeks to reverse this trend by taking a positive approach to understanding grandparent caregivers, focusing on their resilience and resourcefulness. This method reflects a strengths-based approach and the importance of benefit-finding and positive coping. Chapters feature information from both qualitative and quantitative studies and are written by a diverse range of professionals, such as counselors, psychologists, geriatric social workers, and nurse practitioners, to provide multidisciplinary persepctives for practitioners working with grandparent caregivers. Part one discusses the positive qualities that custodial grandparents possess - resilience, resourcefulness, and benefit finding. The second part considers the sociocultural aspects of resilience and resourcefulness in grandparent caregivers. Finally, part three presents strengths-based interventions for working with custodial grandparents. Practitioners will find this to be a valuable resource in their work and the field as a whole, stimulating positive changes in attitudes toward and practices with grandparent caregivers.




Parenting the Custodial Grandchild


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Grandparents have long played important roles in the lives of their adult children and their grandchildren in our own as well as in many other cultures. Yet it has only been in the last 3 or 4 decades that grandparents have received the kind of academic scrutiny that other family members--especially mothers--have been receiving a century or more. This groundbreaking collection has targeted the essence of what occurs in the context of grandparents' efforts at parenting their grandchildren as well as the nature of these interactions. Indeed, grandparent's views on the adequacy of their parenting skills and the nature of their relationships with their grandchildren are at the heart of many of the difficulties and satisfactions associated with the resumption of the parenting role in middle and later life, and are of central importance in the lives and well-being of both custodial grandparents and their grandchildren. The volume, which will be of vital interest to family counselors, mental health practitioners, educators, school counselors, social workers, psychologists, and social service providers, approaches this issue from novel theoretical perspectives, presents new empirical data, and provides valuable suggestions for therapists who are treating grandparent-grandchild dyads. It is methodologically diverse, relying upon case studies, empirical findings, and national datasets. Additionally, it incorporates longitudinal work, which has been absent in research with grandparent caregivers to date. Most importantly, it defines new areas of understanding of custodial grandparents that are relevant to both researchers and practitioners, e.g., dealing with grief and loss, a focus on grandchildren, the interactional style of caregiving, parenting education, intergenerational ambivalence, and therefore, should provide fertile ground for work regarding these issues which are so central to the lives of custodial grandparents and their grandchildren. Highlighted coverage includes: Intergenerational relationships/intergenerational transmission of values and their implications for parenting among custodial grandparents the adjustments custodial grandchildren must make in the school system, viewed from the perspective of school personnel (an assistant principal and school counselor) the experiences/perceptions of adult children raised by their grandparents- impact on relationships with grandparents and the parenting of their own children the role of the adult parent in the context of grandparents raising grandchildren Each of these chapters will be written from an applied, practitioner perspective and stress the clinical implications of each issue.




Courageous Love


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Raising grandchildren can be challenging for many reasons. Often, the children have experienced complicated family dynamics, heartbreaking loss, abuse, and neglect - all of which may affect their emotions, behavior, and development. In Courageous Love, author Laura Montané Bailey draws on both professional and personal experience to offer grandparents the hero status they deserve and the encouragement they need, to continue to fight for the lives of the grandchildren they love. This book explores the devastating impact of trauma to brain development and function, and provides instructions for helping grandchildren to experience Post Traumatic Growth rather than Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Bailey presents the idea of the Healing Circles to provide what traumatized children need most: - Safety, basic needs, and structure - Family gatherings that create identity and foster a sense of belonging - Clear rules, authority agreements and non-toxic relationships These Healing Circles provide a protective structure that becomes the container for joy, empathy, and love, a powerful combination for delivering hope and healing to children of trauma. Bailey discusses the three key responsibilities of raising grandchildren in a high tech, high stress, unpredictable world: take care of yourself, un-break the hearts of your grandchildren, and re-wire their brains for success. Presenting easy-to-understand solutions, Courageous Love gives grandparents the tools and confidence they need to run this parenting marathon.




The Grandfamily Guidebook


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Are you one of nearly 3 million grandparents across North America raising your grandchildren as part of a grandfamily? You may have done all this parenting stuff before, but times have changed since you raised your own kids, and you likely never thought you’d be raising kids again. What has led to all these family issues and the growing need for grandparents to step up? Now more than ever, substance use and addiction have made many birth parents simply unfit for the job, whether the problem is alcohol, opioids, or other drugs. Family dynamics might also be undermined by parents’ mental health or medical problems, incarceration, or a simple lack of preparedness for family responsibilities. Whatever the reason for your new role, you must now help your grandchildren adjust to their extended family as part of their everyday life, through the best care you are able to provide. While your new role means that you will likely have to change the way you live, the kinship care you provide your grandchildren might make all the difference in the world. In The Grandfamily Guidebook—which leading medical experts have called a “must-have” resource for grandparents raising grandchildren—authors Andrew Adesman, MD, and Christine Adamec offer expert medical advice, helpful insights gleaned from other grandparents, and data mined from the 2016 Adesman Grandfamily Study—the broadest and most diverse research study of its kind to date. You’ll also find hands-on tips you’ll be able to reference whenever you need them, including how to cope with difficult birth parents, school issues and social-life challenges, problem behaviors that stem from a difficult past, and your own self-care. Starting with its foreword by the renowned Dr. William Sears, across this book you will find practical, inspiring help as you navigate the financial impacts, legal considerations, and medical issues that commonly arise when grandparents and grandchildren start becoming a grandfamily.







Grandparents as Parents


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If you're among the millions of grandparents raising grandchildren today, you need information, support, and practical guidance you can count on to keep your family strong. This is the book for you. Learn effective strategies to help you cope with the stresses of parenting the second time around, care for vulnerable grandkids and set boundaries with their often-troubled parents, and navigate the maze of government aid, court proceedings, and special education. Wise, honest, moving stories show how numerous other grandparents are surviving and thriving in their new roles. Updated throughout, and reflecting current laws and policies affecting families, the second edition features new discussions of kids' technology use and other timely issues.




Raising the Future


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Steer the Ship of Tomorrow: A Guide for Grandparents Imagine holding the compass to a journey that shapes the future--one where the treasure is the laughter, growth, and wisdom of your grandchildren. "Raising the Future: Grandparents at the Helm" is the map that guides you through the uncharted waters of modern grandparenthood, helping you to become the steadfast captain your family needs. Dive into the heart of your new role with an in-depth exploration of today's family dynamics. Learn about the evolving legal and societal landscape that impacts grandparent caregivers. The transitioning to this vital role doesn't come without its storms. Accept the challenge with grace, adapt your home and life, and anchor yourself firmly within your expanding household. Build lasting relationships not just with your grandchildren, but also bridge the gap with the middle generation. Find your unique balance in the dance of parenting versus grandparenting, and keep communication lines as open as the ocean. Set sail through the educational landscape and advocate for your grandchild's schooling, leveraging resources to support their learning journey. Manage health and wellness with a focus on physical activity, nutrition, and mental health, ensuring your grandchild's holistic development. The voyage ahead requires astute financial navigation. Create a budget for your new household size and understand your rights and benefits. Champion community and technology by building a reliable support network, integrating digital tools for childcare, and ensuring online safety. Overcoming common obstacles like generational gaps and criticism is part of the expedition. Find solace in self-care and set boundaries to maintain your peace on deck. Most importantly, hold dear the joys of grandparenting--celebrate the milestones, share the family heritage, and relish the love that only a grandparent can give. As you near the end of the book, embrace the journey of personal growth and resilience. Reflect on your achievements and understand when it's time to pass the torch. With a treasure trove of resources and advocacy groups, the conclusion of "Raising the Future: Grandparents at the Helm" equips you to confidently raise the sails for future generations. Embark on this heartwarming adventure and emerge as the guardian of your family's legacy. Join the fraternity of grandparent's steering the ship of tomorrow.




Grandparenting


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Empowering Grandparents Raising Grandchildren


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A practical and supportive manual containing a 14-session workshop designed to help grandparents who are raising their grandchildren alone, written by a social services professor at Fordham University. Intended to be used by group leaders teaching a workshop, themes covered may be expanded or revised to fit the needs of a particular work group.