Married to the Military


Book Description

Now revised to reflect the reality of military and economic unrest around the world, Married to the Military remains an invaluable resource for any military spouse or significant other. When you marry a military service member, whether a reservist or active—you may feel as if you’ve also married the United States military! While there are plenty of orientation books on military training, there is not much information available about handling the personal aspects of military life. Married to the Military demystifies the often confusing military world so you can make the right choices for yourself and your family. Meredith Leyva, an experienced military wife and founder of CinCHouse.com, the Internet’s largest community for military wives, girlfriends, and women in uniform, offers time-tested advice on everything you need to know—from relocation to deployment, protocol to finances, and career to kids, including: -Keeping your love life together during deployments -Relocating yourself and your family around the world -Maintaining your own career when you're expected to move every three years -Understanding what pay and benefits you're entitled to—and how to maximize them -Dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and other threats to your partner’s well-being Whether you’re figuring out military protocol or trying to understand the medical system, this savvy, friendly yet authoritative guide details just what you need to know to manage day-to-day issues and get on with the adventure of military life.




Marriage During Deployment


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Since combat operations began in October 2001, more than 2.1 million U.S service members have been deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan, and over half of them were married. Marriage During Deployment, a memoir about a military family during wartime deployment, offers a window into the homelife and emotional world of a military family during deployment. During her husband’s Army deployment to Afghanistan, Marna Ashburn shows the mother handling everything – teaching the child to drive, attending little league games and school events solo, fixing broken dishwashers and cars, and celebrating holidays without dad. Marriage During Deployment depicts how the children and mother cope during the absence of their military member and how they stay connected to him while he is six thousand miles away from them. But while families try to stay connected during deployment, it can certainly be tough on them, and even tougher on the relationship. The truth is that geographical distance allows habits and coping mechanisms to fall away, revealing some long-ignored issues. In the end, Marriage During Deployment becomes a meditation on marriage, relationships, and identity, prompting the reader to question whether the couple can survive the life-changing year of deployment. The accumulation of missed moments inevitably creates a distance which may prove irreparable. Between the heartbreaking send-offs and the joyful reunions, there’s this – a year of separation, distance, challenges, anxiety, and loneliness. While providing you with an honest portrayal of resilient kids and a can-do military wife, Marna Ashburn also reveals the hidden costs of Army service.




Army Wives


Book Description

Army Wives goes beyond the sound bites and photo ops of military life to bring readers into the hearts and homes of today's military wives. Biank tells the story of four typical Army wives who, in a flash, find themselves in extraordinary circumstances that ultimately force them to redefine who they are as women and wives. This is a true story about what happened when real life collided with army convention. Army Wives is a groundbreaking narrative that takes the reader beyond the Army's gates, taking a close look at the other woman—the Army itself—and how its traditions, rules and war-time realities deeply impact marriage and home life.




Warrior Wife


Book Description

When you hold the hand of a warrior, youre joining him on a questone that traverses glory and pain. Its a journey traveled by few, and fewer make it through till completion. Extraordinary men have run our colors across the battlefields of history, but behind them have been the women who have held vigil as they go. This passage in matrimony is unique in the way the military will change you, your husband, and your marriage. PTSD, deployments, or never-ending household moves are just some ways a new normal lifestyle will challenge even the strongest foundations. But what doesnt break you will make you stronger if you let it! This book will illustrate the courage, support, and faith it takes to overcome the challenges of military marriages, as well as the tools, understanding, and insight to enter into the rewarding experience of being a warrior wife.




Following the Flag


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Based on personal interviews with military spouses, as well as current articles and statistics and studies from the Department of Defense and Rand National Defense Research Institute, this book provides an objective look at America's military family in the 21st century, and explains how the military is attempting to improve family life. Following the Flag discusses both the problems and perks of today's armed forces families. It particularly looks at the military family since America has become involved in peace-keeping missions in Africa and combat in Afghanistan and Iraq. Studies on family stress connected with deployment (depression, divorce, domestic violence) are presented. A special focus is the families of the National Guard and Reserves who are often unprepared, emotionally and financially, for family members to be called to duty. In addition, the book provides current information on nontraditional military families. These include female military personnel married to civilian males, who many times must place their careers second and follow their wives to new assignments, and families where both spouses are military personnel who can be deployed at any time. Many changes have occurred in the American armed forces over the past three decades. An all-volunteer military came into being after the end of conscription in 1973; women have joined the force in ever increasing numbers; service personnel today are again involved in combat situations around the world; reserve and guard units have been called to active duty. With these developments, the role of military families has changed as well. This book explains what the those changes have been, and what they have meant to the families involved.




Military Spouse Journey


Book Description

Military spouses: Craft your best life possible! "... This great resource is full of practical advice as well as real-world examples that will empower spouses to have a life of their own while supporting their partners in the military lifestyle ..."—Ellie Kay, author, military spouse, and CEO of Heroes at Home The unique components of military life can make it challenging for military spouses to pursue careers and other personal dreams. This encouraging book, written by two experienced military spouses, shares lessons learned, success stories of fellow military spouses, life exploration exercises, and research-based ideas that can be applied to any stage of life's journey. Although this book shares examples specific to military life, the information and approach can be used by anyone to pursue your life dreams. Ready to follow your dreams? This book will help you: • Learn five keys to happiness you can apply every day, anywhere. • Explore your passions, strengths, and goals. • Discover possibilities for the life you want to live. • Create an action plan to move forward, even when you think it’s impossible. • Build valuable friendships and support systems along the way. • Enjoy the journey! First Lady of the Marine Corps Recommended Reading List Midwest Book Awards Silver




The Military Marriage Manual


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At a time when divorce and suicide rates are at record levels in the military, The Military Marriage Manual: Tactics for Successful Relationships is an invaluable aid to members of the military and their spouses and families. The book presents advice for couples on a range of issues, both extraordinary and mundane, both those specific to military marriages and those common to all marriages, such as: -the ceremony -relationships with friends and family -household responsibilities -finances -dealing with tension and conflict -raising a family -domestic violence -deployment -long periods apart -injuries -depression -relocating -and much more The information in the book is presented chronologically, beginning from the day a couple decides to get married. It follows them through the engagement, ceremony, and marriage, and discusses the many issues that arise, offering guidance on how to overcome them and strengthen a couple's marriage, as well as their relationships with those around them. There is no better, more comprehensive resource for those who are dealing with the pressures and problems unique to marriage in the military.




You Are Not Alone


Book Description

You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse is a book of 30 daily readings designed to encourage, strengthen, and uplift military spouses in the unique challenges they face. Whether it's a deployment, move, or raising military kids, find real-life solutions and inspiration from someone who's been there. In the words of Cindy, Marine Corps spouse: "Reading You Are Not Alone: Encouragement for the Heart of a Military Spouse touched me in a way few books do. As I read page after page, I kept thinking, "Oh my goodness, she is living my life!" or "Yes! That is EXACTLY how I felt!" There is a kinship that military spouses have, and reading this book of encouragement brought that home for me."




Married to the Military


Book Description

Focusing on military wives' contribution to family income, the authors find that, in contrast to civilian wives, military wives are willing to accept lower wages rather than search longer for jobs. They work less than civilian wives if they have young children but more if their children are older; are less probable to work as they get older; and respond to changes in the unemployment rate as workers with a permanent attachment to the work force, not as "added workers."




Defending the Military Marriage


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Servicemen and women get first class training to complete their mission. But sometimes they find that they're ill-equipped to complete the lifelong mission spelled out in their wedding vows-- especially while facing the unique challenges, pressures, and transitions of military life. To help military couples cope in this assignment, FamilyLife and the Military Ministry has developed this small-group study. With the collaboration of other couples, you and your spouse will study practical biblical principles that will foster intimacy, teamwork, and commitment.--Back cover.