Book Description

In a recent study, half of all Americans rated their relationship with at least one parent as either "poor" or "terrible," and more than a third felt this way about both parents. As we continue to live longer and the parent-child relationship extends further into adulthood, this problem has reached epidemic proportion. Now, psychologist Dale Atkins presents a step-by-step plan for adults trying to come to terms with parents who are demanding yet generous, infuriating yet lovable -- and entirely human. In I'm OK, You're My Parents, Dr. Atkins applies the same intelligent, no-nonsense approach that's made her a frequent guest on top-rated TV shows and explains how you can radically restructure the longest long-term relationship of your life -- with or without your parents' help. With Atkins as your guide, you'll learn to formulate surefire ways to deal with your parents, become sensitive to their vulnerabilities and sore spots, and seek "points of entry" for what were once awkward or difficult conversations. Her practical, specific advice shows how to effectively set limits on parents' demands for time and attention, set personal boundaries, and untangle stress-inducing financial arrangements, leaving you free to create a sense of yourself as truly independent. I'm OK, You're My Parents will help you leave behind childhood roles and fantasies about what you wish your parents were like and develop a new, empathetic relationship of equals. Drawing on Dr. Atkins's twenty-five years of experience as a relationship expert, the book is a comprehensive, articulate guide for everyone who is desperate to break free of fruitless, frustrating interactions and build a life that they and their parents can live with -- forever. Book jacket.