Confessions of a Funeral Director


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“Wise, vulnerable, and surprisingly relatable . . . funny in all the right places and enormously helpful throughout. It will change how you think about death.” —Rachel Held Evans, New York Times–bestselling author of Searching for Sunday We are a people who deeply fear death. While humans are biologically wired to evade death for as long as possible, we have become too adept at hiding from it, vilifying it, and—when it can be avoided no longer—letting the professionals take over. Sixth-generation funeral director Caleb Wilde understands this reticence and fear. He had planned to get as far away from the family business as possible. He wanted to make a difference in the world, and how could he do that if all the people he worked with were . . . dead? Slowly, he discovered that caring for the deceased and their loved ones was making a difference—in other people’s lives to be sure, but it also seemed to be saving his own. A spirituality of death began to emerge as he observed the family who lovingly dressed their deceased father for his burial; the nursing home that honored a woman’s life by standing in procession as her body was taken away; the funeral that united a conflicted community. Through stories like these, told with equal parts humor and poignancy, Wilde’s candid memoir offers an intimate look into the business of death and a new perspective on living and dying. “Open[s] up conversations about life’s ultimate concerns.” —The Washington Post “As a look behind the closed doors of the death industry, as well as a candid exploration of Wilde’s own faith journey, this book is fascinating and compelling.” —National Catholic Reporter “[A] stunner of a debut.” —Rachel Held Evans, author of Inspired




Conduct Gospel-Centered Funerals


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Bring Gospel Hope in the Midst of Death The phone rings: “Pastor, can you do my mother’s funeral?” Or, “Please help us—our baby just died.” Death comes unexpectedly, giving you two to three days of time to prepare a sermon—in the midst of caring for a grieving family. This helpful book walks a pastor through the logistics of memorial services, burials, and working with funeral homes—using the four P’s: Plan, Prepare, Preach, and Perform. It shows how to magnify Christ and the gospel in the midst of all the details, demands, and sorrow that surrounds the death of a loved one. The Practical Shepherding series of books provides pastors and ministry leaders with advice and practical help to do the work of pastoral ministry in a local church. In Conduct Gospel-Centered Funerals, experienced pastors Brian Croft and Phil A. Newton offer readers a concise guide to conducting funerals that glorify God and offer a timely message of hope.




Flee, Be Silent, Pray


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What if prayer could be simple rather than strenuous? Anxious, results-driven Christians can never pray enough, serve enough, or study enough. But what if God is calling us not to frenzied activity but to a simple spiritual encounter? What if we must merely receive what God has already given us? In Flee, Be Silent, Pray, writer and contemplative retreat leader Ed Cyzewski guides readers out of the anxiety factory of contemporary Christianity and toward a God whose love astounds those quiet long enough to receive it. With helpful guidance into solitude, contemplative prayer, and practices such as lectio divina and the Examen, Cyzewski guides readers toward the Christ whose yoke is easy and whose burden is light. Ready to shed the fear of the false self and the exhaustion of a duty-driven faith? Flee. Be silent. Pray.




A Pastor's Guide to Conducting a Funeral


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A Pastors Guide to Conducting a Funeral: Things Every Pastor Needs to Know, But May Have Been Afraid to Ask gives pastors, chaplains, and other caregivers clear and concise guidance for responding to the profound needs of people facing the deaths of loved ones. It is a tool that every ministry student and pastor can benefit from. Dr. Gregory F. Jackson, senior pastor of the First Southern Baptist Church in Camden, Ohio, has shared over two hundred funerals with the people of his rural community during the past seventeen years. These experiences shape the books research and guide its practical and timely advice. Young pastors may wonder, What should I say and do at the funeral home or at the grave? What will help families face their losses with faith and trust in God? Older pastors might ask, How can I refresh my ministry at the time of death? No matter what stage of ministry you find yourself in, this book can be your companion. It can help you when you are uncertain about the best approach to a familys grief or when you need insight into to a familys special needs. This is a book that every pastor needs to read. Each chapter includes results of surveys of pastors and funeral directors and ends with a short list of insights pastors need to know to serve more compassionately and effectively. As an added bonus, the book concludes with A Bakers Dozen of Funeral Director Nuggets, sharing the most important tips funeral directors wished pastors knew about how to lead thoughtful funeral services with dignity. My friend Greg Jackson has given every pastor not only a guide for conducting funerals, but a gift! His personal and practical insights will assist us in ministering to the hurting. THIS is a winner! Dr. Ernest L. Easley, Senior Pastor Roswell Street Baptist Church Marietta, Georgia Conducting A Funeral is a must read for every pastor. Pastor Greg Jackson offers so many helpful tips on how a pastor can effectively and intentionally minister to families who are dealing with death. I believe you will also find, as I did, the chapter on the importance of the pastors relationship with a funeral director to be especially helpful. As important as this moment of ministry is in the lives of those trying to make sense of the painful reality of death, it is vital that every pastor be prepared. This book is very well written and will assist both the novice as well as the experienced pastor in maximizing their effectiveness in ministry. I recommend you read it. Dr. Michael Landry , Senior Pastor, Sarasota Baptist Church Thank you Greg!!! Your honesty, compassion, and obvious wisdom as a Senior Pastor at the same church for an extended number of years comes through on every page! Funerals and death are always a challenge, even for the most seasoned pastor. Thus, I whole-heartedly recommend this book for any person in ministry, especially if you are just starting out! Dr. David Wheeler, Associate Director of Ministry Training Center, Professor of Evangelism Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary




The Funeral


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This liturgical resource will help guide pastors and other church workers as they help church members through the bereavement process. The Presbyterian Supplemental Liturgical Resource (SLT) series includes liturgies that were used on a trial basis in preparation for the development of the Book of Common Worship. Though superseded by the Book of Common Worship, SLR resources remain valuable, both for the variety of liturgical texts they contain and for the commentary on the text, which contains rich historical, theological, and practical background.




Funerals


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Death will strike your congregation. Are you ready? Are they? Death has become a four-letter word. Whereas in previous generations, the practice of memento mori ("remember death") was embedded in family life, people today have found ways to distance themselves from death. As Western culture becomes increasingly more secular, the Christian understanding of death and the funeral appear more and more strange. Fear of death affects us all, and so pastors have significant hurdles to overcome. What Christians need today is a renewed vision of the traditional Christian funeral liturgy. In Funerals, Tim Perry recovers the rich theology inherent to the Christian funeral: communion with the saints in death, peace in forgiveness, hope in the resurrection, and joy in life eternal. Perry guides pastors through the practice of funerals, from planning the service to preaching the eulogy, and offers wisdom for the hard cases. Perry's Funerals will help pastors disciple their people to see through the valley of the shadow of death and into the hope beyond.




Accompany Them with Singing


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Reviews the beliefs, customs, and rituals associated with Christian funerals; discusses the growing acceptance of cremation and memorial services; and explains how to plan a spiritually meaningful funeral service.







The Pastor's Manual


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Suggestions for performing the various tasks of the pastor. Includes vital information and examples for all types of services and ceremonies.




The Funeral and Wedding Handbook


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If you're looking for a planning resource to help you deal with funerals and weddings, this book is worth its weight in gold. Pastors are repeatedly called on to perform these ceremonies in an infinite variety of circumstances, yet there's no "one-size-fits-all" service, so it's a constant challenge to come up with meaningful and appropriate material that witnesses to the Lord's power. In this book an experienced minister shares a wealth of ideas that help you tailor services to individual needs, making these complicated occasions ones of impact and success for your ministry. The Funeral And Wedding Handbook shows you how to ... * Deal with difficult funerals ... suicides, infants, non-Christians, and many more * Effectively comfort the hurting * Plan memorable weddings from premarital counseling to the recessional march * Be prepared for the overlooked details and unexpected events that often arise during funeral and wedding services Robert Blair's book stands alone as a comprehensive resource for both ministers and caregivers. Though systematic, the book is filled with examples from Blair's 40-plus years in the ministry, which makes the book dynamic, credible, and filled with wisdom. Underlying this work is Blair's humble, but all-encompassing devotion to Christ. An essential resource for all involved in funerals and weddings, this book is one of a kind. Mike Inman Chaplain, Hospice of Siouxland Sioux City, Iowa I have found Robert Blair's The Funeral And Wedding Handbook to be very helpful. It is well-written, informative, practical, and contemporary for today's minister. It is a great resource book, both for students preparing for ministry and those who have for many years served the Lord's people during these very important stages in life. Having this book is like having a good friend who's always ready to answer the "how to" and "what to" questions that come up in these situations. I highly recommend it to all ministers. Ron Bontrager Instructor, Sunset International Bible Institute Lubbock, Texas For 28 years, Robert Blair pastored the Church of Christ in Hollywood, California. A graduate of Pepperdine University (B.A., M.A.), Blair now resides in Cleghorn, Iowa. His writings have appeared in Leadership and Leadership Handbooks of Practical Theology.