Book Description
The idea for this story came out of a viral Instagram Reel I made about how moms are often so consumed with the needs of their families that they have no space to even think their own thoughts anymore. The video was an encouragement to husbands to step up and share in more of the household work, and to see themselves as guardians of their wife’s personhood. I had reels that had a few thousand views, this video went to 4 million views in under 2 weeks. The responses were overwhelming. It was a video addressed to men, but it resonated with literally millions of women. I got comments like, “My marriage wouldn't have ended if my husband done this.” “I’m crying because you said what I’ve been feeling so long but never found words to say.” “How can I talk to my husband about this?” There is much more to say on the topic than can even be said in a book let alone a 1minute Instagram video. The purpose of this story is to help people start having the conversation. That has to be the first step. It was heartbreakingly clear that there is an aloneness that many women feel but have no place to start from to address it. That is why I wrote this story. It is for husbands and wives to read together to start having this conversation and create a shift towards healing and balance in their marriage. there are things on both sides of the table that are hard to say, and extremely hard to hear. While it was women who commented on the reel, this story is written by a man and so also addresses the heart of men who feel alone inside their marriage. My hope is that by hearing it through the lives of David and Janie, it will be easier to hear without being offending or getting defensive. My hope is that this book will be a gateway towards empathy.