Why Can't I Just Leave


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Do you feel fiercely loyal toward your partner although your partner has put you through unspeakable acts of cruelty and betrayal? Has your partner lied so much that sometimes you aren't sure you know what's real or who your partner really is? Have you tried to break off the relationship yet feel powerless to stop your partner from walking in and out of your life? Do you alternate between believing that your partner is the love of your life and questioning your sanity or even feeling your life may be in danger? Using the stories of survivors and social psychological research on compliance, cognitive dissonance, and thought control, Why Can't I Just Leave? explains how relationships with pathological partners can create impossible dilemmas that trap you in a distorted dream-state and hijack your thoughts and emotions. Learn what those who are conscience-impaired don't want you to know and find out how to wake up and walk out of your partner's invisible prison forever.




Why Can't I Just Leave


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Book description: More than 60 million people have been in a pathological love relationship with someone who has an impaired conscience. Are you one of them? Do you feel fiercely loyal toward your partner although your partner has put you through unspeakable acts of cruelty and betrayal? Has your partner lied so much that sometimes you aren't sure you know what's real or who your partner really is? Have you tried to break off the relationship yet feel powerless to stop your partner from walking in and out of your life? Do you alternate between believing that your partner is the love of your life and questioning your sanity or even feeling your life may be in danger? Using the stories of survivors and social psychological research on compliance, cognitive dissonance, and thought control, Why Can't I Just Leave? explains how relationships with pathological partners can create impossible dilemmas that trap you in a distorted dream-state and hijack your thoughts and emotions. Learn what those who are conscience-impaired don't want you to know and find out how to wake up and walk out of your partner's invisible prison forever. Foreword by Sandra L. Brown, M.A., author of Women Who Love Psychopaths Advance Praise: "Kristen Milstead provides a social psychological analysis of narcissistic abuse using the empathetic voice of a survivor. Survivors who read this book will be able to trust the "lightbulb" moments this rare perspective offers." -Bree Bonchay, LCSW, author of I Am Free: Healing Stories About Surviving Toxic Relationships with Narcissists and Sociopaths and founder of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD) "Kristen has a straightforward way of explaining the complex topic of narcissistic abuse. Her book shares both insights from her personal experiences and a clear and compassionate framework for understanding the complex ways that ostensibly loving relationships can morph into something utterly corrosive and dangerous." -Dan Partland, Emmy-award winning director of UNFIT: The Psychology of Donald Trump "In Why Can't I Just Leave? author Kristen Milstead provides you with the answers you need to understand why you're stuck in a relationship with a narcissist, sociopath, or other exploiter so you can finally make your escape." -Donna Andersen, author of Lovefraud.com and Red Flags of Love Fraud: 10 Signs You're Dating a Sociopath "The truth is often hard to face. Getting free from an emotionally abusive relationship and facing that truth will be the hardest thing you ever do. This book is packed with been-in-the-trenches wisdom and the key to your freedom." -Tracy A. Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support, Author, and Coach "With the courageous use of her own intimate relationship, Kristen Milstead provides both an exploration and explanation of every aspect of "pathological love relationships." . . . Every aspect is covered in both practical and theoretical detail, as well as by example." -David M. Reiss, M.D., Psychiatrist (Private Practice-San Diego, Boston, NYC) and Co-Author, The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump




Why Doesn't She Just Leave?


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Why would a woman stay in an abusive relationship? Doesnt she have any self-respect? Any intelligence? Does she like being mistreated? How can she protect her children? If its so bad, why doesnt she just leave? Why Doesnt She Just Leave? is the actual journal of an abused woman, a woman probably very much like someone you know. Through the authors vivid descriptions, you will feel as if you are sharing her thoughts, emotions, and experiences, and you will come to understand why abused women might stay and how they can, as the author did, finally triumph over abuse.




Tiny Beautiful Things


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NATIONAL BESTSELLER • Soon to be a Hulu Original series • The internationally acclaimed author of Wild collects the best of The Rumpus's Dear Sugar advice columns plus never-before-published pieces. Rich with humor and insight—and absolute honesty—this "wise and compassionate" (New York Times Book Review) book is a balm for everything life throws our way. Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills—and it can be great: you’ve had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the courage to write your novel. Sugar—the once-anonymous online columnist at The Rumpus, now revealed as Cheryl Strayed, author of the bestselling memoir Wild—is the person thousands turn to for advice.




The Anxious Truth : A Step-By-Step Guide To Understanding and Overcoming Panic, Anxiety, and Agoraphobia


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You're anxious all the time, experiencing panic attacks over and over, and maybe afraid to leave your house or to be left alone for even a few minutes.. You are avoiding simple things like driving, eating in restaurants, attending family functions, or going to the supermarket. You are terrified of the next wave of anxiety or the next panic attack. Your anxiety problems are ruining your relationships, your family life, and your career. Your anxiety problems have you afraid, confused, lost, and feeling hopeless. How did you get here? What went wrong? You've tried so many things, but nothing has cured your anxiety? What can you do now? The Anxious Truth is a step-by-step guide to understanding and overcoming the anxiety problems that have plagued you for so long. This book, written by a former anxiety sufferer, best-selling author of "An Anxiety Story", and host of the The Anxious Truth podcast will walk you through exactly how you got to where you are today, why you are not broken or ill, and what the true nature of your anxiety disorder is. Next, the book will walk you through what it takes to solve your anxiety problems, how to make an anxiety recovery plan, then how to correctly execute that plan. The Anxious Truth isn't always what you want to hear, but it's what you NEED to hear in order to solve this problem once and for all and move toward the life you so desperately want. Based firmly on the principles of cognitive behavioral therapies that have been shown over decades to be most effective in treating anxiety problems, the Anxious Truth will teach you how to move past your anxiety symptoms, past endless digging for hidden "root causes", and into an action oriented plan that will help your brain un-learn the bad reaction and fear habits that have gotten you into this predicament. The Anxious Truth will take the cognitive mechanism that got you into a corner, throw it in reverse, and use it to your advantage, backing you out of this jam and into a life free from irrational fear and needless avoidance. More than just a book, The Anxious Truth goes hand-in-hand with The Anxious Truth podcast (https://theanxioustruth.com) and the growing and vibrant social media community surrounding it. Read the book, listen to five years worth of free podcasts chock full of helpful advice and information, and join a large online community of fellow anxiety sufferers that are done talking about this problem and ready to actually take action to solve it. Change is possible. No matter how long you've suffered with your anxiety issues, you can get better. The Anxious Truth will tell you what you need to hear and will arm you with the information, understanding, and skills you need to get the job done. Let's do this together!




Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay


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There are many books that promise to help you fix a bad relationship. This groundbreaking bestseller is the first one to help you choose whether you should even try—or if you need to go. Psychotherapist Mira Kirshenbaum draws on years of research and her work with real-life couples to help you make the right decision. She shows you how to diagnose your unique situation with self-analysis and questions like these, which get to the very heart of your problems: • What sins are forgivable and which ones are unpardonable? • Is your partner questioning your opinions to the point where you doubt yourself? • What is your sex life really like, and how important is it? • Is there real love left between you, and how does it stack up against all that you find unlovable? Mira Kirshenbaum provides expert guidelines that are the key to making all your choices, concrete steps that you can implement right now, and the ultimate way to determine your personal bottom line—what you need to be happy. This remarkably insightful and probing guide offers advice that lets you see the truth about your relationship—and with wisdom and compassion, it helps you act with the confidence of knowing that whether you decide to go or stay, you are doing the very best thing.




Ask a Manager


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From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together




Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage


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By using his unique blend of humor and tell-it-like-it-is honesty, he helps couples get along and have fun doing it.




Why don't you just leave him?


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This honest and open autobiography is the true story of a young woman trapped in a relationship that was violent and abusive. Coercive control drove her to the depths of despair. Stacey Jameson had a lack of self-esteem derived from her early childhood. Growing up and dealing with her parents’ divorce, she felt she was nothing more than an inconvenience to her depressive mother. With severe feelings of inadequacy, she was desperate to be loved and feel that she belonged. When she was a teenager, she met Leon and fell in love. She had never been so happy. They had one common denominator; they were both brought up in volatile homes. This was the foundation for a turbulent and destructive relationship. Stacey was welcomed with open arms into the bosom of Leon’s dysfunctional family; naive and impressionable, she finally felt secure and loved. Stacey’s childhood had made her timid and compliant. Leon’s childhood had made him controlling and narcissistic. Gradually Stacey found herself in an unhappy relationship where her partner thrived on being abusive, yet she still loved him. Coercively controlled into doing things that were not part of her character, she was so manipulated, she believed she did not deserve any better. So often people look on with judgement at others who are in an abusive relationship and say, “Why don’t they just leave?”. Stacey’s story, just one of millions, describes her journey and why it’s not so simple to "Just leave" for people who find themselves caught up in a destructive relationship that they cannot escape from. 2nd Edition




Crazy Love


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In this gripping, compulsively readable story of romantic love and its dreadful underside (Susan Cheever), "Crazy Love" recounts Steiner's experiences as an abused wife--and how she found the courage to leave.