Young People and the Curse of Ordinariness


Book Description

Again and again, young people return to the question, "Am I the same as other people or am I different?" It's a difficult question to answer. Everyone knows that they're the same as other people in lots of ways yet they suspect that they might also be different. Or they want to be different... Or they accuse other people of being different... Or they get beaten up for being different... This book is about young people trying to find answers, or at least trying to live more comfortably with the question. Using dozens of recognisable vignettes, Luxmoore explores young people's anxieties about ordinariness and extraordinariness, anxieties that affect everything: their behaviour, choices, relationships, happiness. He describes ways of working supportively and imaginatively with young people so that they can begin to find a better balance, enjoying their lives and achieving all sorts of things without losing sight of the fact that - underneath everything and like everyone else - they're ordinary, and there's nothing wrong with that. This original and thought-provoking book will enable professionals in counselling, teaching, youth work and youth justice to support young people struggling with these anxieties and the eternal question, "Am I normal?"




Practical Supervision for Counsellors Who Work with Young People


Book Description

Counsellors working with young people often find it can feel like messy, complex work. What helps when counsellors themselves are stuck? This book recalls those moments when supervision sessions have been crucial to puzzling out the complexities of counselling young people. The assorted supervision stories in this book explore the important issues that counsellors working with young people face, and look at how supervision can help them overcome these issues. Thoughtful and engaging, each story is a snapshot from a counsellor's career. They address questions such as 'What gets talked about?', 'What issues recur with young people and how are they addressed in supervision?' and 'What helps counsellors to move on when they're stuck?' As a veteran counsellor and supervisor with 40 years' experience, Nick Luxmoore vividly recounts moments of highs and lows, of uncertainties and of breakthroughs, and of the unique dilemmas experienced by counsellors and supervisors working with young people.




School Counsellors Working with Young People and Staff


Book Description

What is it like to work as a counsellor in schools? What relationship might a counsellor have with staff? How can a counsellor become a positive, integral part of school life? In this book, Nick Luxmoore shows how school counsellors can make a positive difference to the whole life of the school. Rather than being a service hidden behind closed doors, he shows how to take a whole-school approach to counselling, making it a normal part of school life. The book demonstrates how staff as well as students can benefit from counselling, and how professional boundaries and relationships can be maintained. Key therapeutic aims and how to develop the service are also covered. Drawing on over 26 years' experience as a school counsellor, Luxmoore combines vivid case material with psychotherapeutic theory to show counsellors how to provide an excellent service and make a positive contribution to the school. The book will be essential reading for school counsellors, headteachers, teachers, and anyone interested in effective counselling in schools.




Young People, Death and the Unfairness of Everything


Book Description

This book explores the problems that arise when death is not openly discussed with young people and offers invaluable advice about how best to allay concerns without pretending that there are easy answers. It covers all of the key issues and supports professionals in asking young people the difficult question, Do you think much about death? "




The Art of Working with Anxious, Antagonistic Adolescents


Book Description

This is a series of surprising and candid conversations held between veteran counsellor Nick Luxmoore and professionals working with young people. Based entirely on stories from the author's experience of supervising frontline professionals, it looks at how to approach young people, the stumbling blocks faced on both sides, and offers invaluable guidance to anyone working with teenagers. Luxmoore posits ways forward for practitioners which are adaptive and allow them to respond personally, practically and theoretically. From suicide to disordered eating, watching pornography to love in therapeutic relationships, Nick Luxmoore covers a range of problems and phenomena encountered by counsellors, teachers, school social workers and youth workers. One chapter sees a counsellor struggling for questions to ask a boy whose father abandoned his family only to return two years later, another a teacher finding it impossible to know how to speak to a fourteen-year-old with an inoperable brain tumour. Recounted in a style that motivates, engages and inspires, The Art of Working with Anxious, Antagonistic Adolescents allows professionals to gain a better understanding of their capacity, particularly developmentally and pastorally, and not reach for easy answers or a quick fix. These are lessons in the art of working with today's teenagers.




Essential Listening Skills for Busy School Staff


Book Description

How do you listen effectively when you're already late for a meeting? How do you respond to a girl who's so angry that she's threatening to hit someone? Or to a boy who feels like giving up altogether? How do you listen, not only to students, but also to parents and to colleagues? Whatever your role in school, listening will be at the heart of what you do. Your school will be measured, in part, by the quality of its daily relationships and those relationships will depend on how confidently people are able to listen to each other. This book answers all the difficult questions about how to listen, what to say, confidentiality and more. Helping with particular issues such as bullying, relationship difficulties, depression and self-harm is also covered. With over 35 years' experience in a variety of school roles, Nick Luxmoore offers practical, realistic answers, advice and guidance. This book will be essential reading for teachers and non-teachers alike.




Surviving Girlhood


Book Description

This practical resource is designed to prevent teenage girl bullying by tackling its root causes. Part 1 explores girl bullying and its complexities. Part 2 includes over 60 tried-and-tested activities to help girls aged 11--16 understand their needs and values, and build self-esteem, positive attitudes, and relationships skills.




Ethical Maturity in the Helping Professions


Book Description

Ethical Maturity in the Helping Professions provides a comprehensive overview of the most influential ideas in ethical thinking across the ages. It explores the ethical challenges through an interdisciplinary approach and presents a brand new model for becoming ethically mature professionals in the process.




Effective Supervision for the Helping Professions


Book Description

Using features such as case studies, exercises and points for reflection, this is an ideal introduction to managing the supervisory relationship for both trainee and supervisor. This second edition of the book formerly titled Counselling Supervision now covers new and contemporary areas of supervision such as ethical maturity, insights into supervision from neuroscience, the organisational demands from the various contexts in which supervision takes place. It widens the concept of supervision to include professions such as coaching, organisational development consulting, counselling and psychology.




The Ordinary Princess


Book Description

Along with Wit, Charm, Health, and Courage, Princess Amy of Phantasmorania receives a special fairy christening gift: Ordinariness. Unlike her six beautiful sisters, she has brown hair and freckles, and would rather have adventures than play the harp, embroider tapestries . . . or become a Queen. When her royal parents try to marry her off, Amy runs away and, because she's so ordinary, easily becomes the fourteenth assistant kitchen maid at a neighboring palace. And there . . . much to everyone's surprise . . . she meets a prince just as ordinary (and special) as she is! "This delightful fairy tale is sure to please young romantics . . . Neither Kaye's princess nor her book should be considered ordinary." (School Library Journal)