A Society Without Fathers Or Husbands


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A fascinating account of the Na society, which functions without the institution of marriage. The Na of China, farmers in the Himalayan region, live without the institution of marriage. Na brothers and sisters live together their entire lives, sharing household responsibilities and raising the women's children. Because the Na, like all cultures, prohibit incest, they practice a system of sometimes furtive, sometimes conspicuous nighttime encounters at the woman's home. The woman's partners--she frequently has more than one--bear no economic responsibility for her or her children, and "fathers," unless they resemble their children, remain unidentifiable. This lucid ethnographic study shows how a society can function without husbands or fathers. It sheds light on marriage and kinship, as well as on the position of women, the necessary conditions for the acquisition of identity, and the impact of a communist state on a society that it considers backward.




Quest for Harmony


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In this long-awaited ethnography, Chuan-kang Shih details the traditional social and cultural conditions of the Moso, a matrilineal group living on the border of Yunnan and Sichuan Provinces in southwest China. Among the Moso, a majority of the adult population practice a visiting system called tisese instead of marriage as the normal sexual and reproductive institution. Until recently, tisese was noncontractual, nonobligatory, and nonexclusive. Partners lived and worked in separate households. The only prerequisite for a tisese relationship was a mutual agreement between the man and the woman to allow sexual access to each other. In a comprehensive account, Quest for Harmony explores this unique practice specifically, and offers thorough documentation, fine-grained analysis, and an engaging discussion of the people, history, and structure of Moso society. Drawing on the author's extensive fieldwork, conducted from 1987 to 2006, this is the first ethnography of the Moso written in English.




Families without Fathers


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The American family is changing. Divorce, single parents, and stepfamilies are redefi ning the ways we live together and raise our children. Many "experts" feel these seemingly inevitable changes should be celebrated; they claim that the "new" families, which often lack a strong father, are actually healthier than traditional two-parent families—or, at the very least, do children no harm. But as David Popenoe shows in Families Without Fathers this optimistic view is severely misguided. Examining evidence from social and behavioral science, history, and evolutionary biology, Popenoe shows why fathers today are deserting their families in record numbers. The disintegration of the child-centered, two parent family—especially in the inner cities, where as many as two in three children are growing up without their fathers—and the weakening commitment of fathers to their children that more and more follows divorce, are central causes of many of our worst individual and social problems. Juvenile delinquency, drug and alcohol abuse, teenage pregnancy, welfare dependency, and child poverty can be directly traced to fathers' lack of involvement in their children's lives. Our situation will only get worse, Popenoe warns, unless men are willing to renew their commitment to their marriages and to their children. Yet he is not just an alarmist. He suggests concrete policies, and new ways of thinking and acting that will help all fathers improve their marriages and family lives, and tells us what we as individuals and as a society can do to support and strengthen the most important thing a man can do.




The Kingdom of Women


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In a mist-shrouded valley on China's invisible border with Tibet is a place known as the "Kingdom of Women," where a small tribe called the Mosuo lives in a cluster of villages that have changed little in centuries. In a mist-shrouded valley on China's invisible border with Tibet is a place known as the "Kingdom of Women," where a small tribe called the Mosuo lives in a cluster of villages that have changed little in centuries. This is one of the last matrilineal societies on earth, where power lies in the hands of women. All decisions and rights related to money, property, land and the children born to them rest with the Mosuo women, who live completely independently of husbands, fathers and brothers, with the grandmother as the head of each family. A unique practice is also enshrined in Mosuo tradition--that of "walking marriage," where women choose their own lovers from men within the tribe but are beholden to none.




Childless by Marriage


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First you marry a man who does not want children. He cheats and you divorce him. Then you marry the love of your life and find out he does not want to have children with you either. The three he has are more than enough. Although you always wanted to be a mother, you decide he is worth the sacrifice, expecting to have a long happy life together. But that's not what happens. This is the story of how a woman becomes childless by marriage and how it affects every aspect of her life. This is the book of my heart, the one I had to write. Ever since I realized I was not going to have children, I have felt recurring grief and an emptiness in my heart. I am different from most women, but I have found that I am not alone. There are many of us childless women, and I think it's important to share our stories about what it's like when you don't have children in a world where most girls grow up to become mothers. I hope this book offers comfort to those who are childless and understanding to those who are not. If it makes you smile here and there, even better.




Divorce Busting


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A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.




The Human Dilemma


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Who has never wondered why people behave the way they do? They create glorious music, art and literature. They have uncovered the secrets of the universe and disease, yet have not been able to figure out how to get along with each other without war. The Human Dilemmasets out to find out why. It describes how humans evolved, how their wonderful brains work, and what they are like when they are born. The author explores the reasons individuals grow up with different personalities, depending on the societies in which they mature, from hunter-gatherers in Africa to industrial Americans. She then turns to relationships between the sexes, the temptations of power, and why religious differences lead to violence. The Human Dilemma explains, in simple, readable language, how human nature, customs and beliefs interfere with mankind's ability to resolve the overwhelming problems facing the world today. Violent conflicts between cultures have become more volatile over the years. Many believe it is man's nature to fight, yet ancient civilizations like Crete were peaceful and everyone was treated equally, women as well as men. The same is true of two hunting gathering tribes in Africa that have followed the same way of life for thousands of years. Perhaps it is just as human to cooperate peacefully in solving problems as it is to fight over them, and just as human to see our fellows as equal instead of superior or inferior. Why then do men regard women as inferior in so many societies? And why do so many nations plunge into battle, especially since the invention of nuclear bombs makes it possible to wipe out our entire species? The newest peril is global warming, caused by the spewing of carbon into the atmosphere from burning fossil fuels, which may eventually change our climate back to the days before mankind existed. Some animals have already become extinct because they cannot adjust to warmer weather. Humans may not survive such a drastic change. Our magnificent brains are capable of inventing solutions to all the problems confronting us and entrepreneurs are eager to put these inventions into practice. Why, then, don't we do it? Is there some flaw in our nature that makes it easier to blame each other instead and find excuses for relieving our frustrations in warfare? As the author studied the sciences for answers to her questions, she became convinced that only by fully understanding our nature and the reasons why it is difficult for us to confront our problems can we hope to resolve them and continue to survive. Her conclusions are found in The Human Dilemma. "An original and thought-provoking book which will appeal to a very wide audience." -Richard Edelman, Psychoanalyst "In her wonderfully wide-ranging exploration of human nature, Barbara Larsen has distilled her research into a lucid and absolutely fascinating book." -Richard Edelman, Psychoanalyst "The writer's style is open and exploratory, warmly self-sharing, and it is an enjoyable as well as a searching and provocative learning experience." -Saul L. Brown, Emeritus Chairman, Department of Psychiatry, Cedars Sinai Medical Center, Los Angeles, CA "Larsen skillfully weaves together current theory and research from an impressive variety of sources." -Arthur A. Dole, Emeritus Professor of Education, University of Pennsylvania




The Group


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On a mid-October evening, a group of fathers gathered around a conference table and met each other for the first time. None of the men had ever thought of himself a "support group kind of guy" and each felt entirely out of place. In fact, nothing about their lives felt normal anymore. The Group: Seven Widowed Fathers Reimagine Life chronicles the challenges and triumphs of seven men whose wives died from cancer and were left to raise their young children entirely on their own. Brought together by tragedy, the fathers - Neill, Dan, Bruce, Karl, Joe, Steve, and Russ - forged an uncommon bond. Over time, group meetings evolved into a forum for reinvention and transformed the men in unexpected ways. Through the fathers' poignant interactions, The Group illustrates that while some wounds never fully heal, each of us has the potential to construct a new and meaningful future. Rosenstein and Yopp, co-leaders of the support group, weave together the fathers' stories with contemporary research on grief and adaptation. The Group traces a compelling journey of healing and personal discovery that no book has ever captured before. The men's touching efforts to care for their families, grieve for their wives, and reimagine their futures will inspire anyone who has suffered a major loss.




Life Without Father


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The author of Disturbing the Nest: Famiy Change and Decline in Modern Society reveals how the disintegration of the child-centered, two-parent family, and the weakening commitment of fathers to their children that usually follows, are a central cause of many of America's worst individual and social problems.




Men and Marriage


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A chilling indictment on the state of the American family, and the recent drive to deny the fundamental differences between the sexes, Men and Marriage is "an outstandingly important and well-argued book, strangely moving in its combination of scholarly dilligence, common sense, courage, and devotion to the res publica of human civilization".--National Review.