Divorced After 56 Years


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Divorced After 56 Years, Why Am I Sooo Happy? is a humorous primer that speaks directly to the reader with sage advice on avoiding the pitfalls of grey divorce. You've been served! How many people, after 56 years of marriage, and at the age of 75, have been served divorce papers? That chilling proclamation, followed by the dissolution of my marriage inspired me to create "Divorced After 56 Years, Why Am I Sooo Happy?" I always assumed, like finding out you have an incurable disease, "It will never happen to me." Assume nothing. My goal is to prevent other divorcees and singles like you from making mistakes I made while tripping and slipping to my finish line. I earned the right to give advice, with a smattering of zing and my own style of humor, resulting in this guide to the fun of being a party of one. I hope to help you Turn your "we" into a "me". Heal the pain of divorce, get past the grief and embrace what comes next Come up with ideas on how to reinvent yourself and trust your instincts Protect yourself financially and emotionally during divorce Let your libido come back to life Channel the pain of divorce into motivation and take advantage of the change to reposition yourself into a new life of your own creation. After reading Divorced After 56 Years, Why Am I Sooo Happy? you’ll be closer to flying solo.




Gray Divorce Stories


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In Gray Divorce Stories, 18 men and women who've gone through a divorce over age 50 talk about what they experienced in their marriages, their divorces, and their recoveries. Telling their own stories in their own words, each describes the good times and bad, their successes and failures, their regrets and their desires. And because they're anonymous, they do it with complete candor.Hundreds of thousands of Americans will go through a Gray Divorce this year. And they all have questions like, Are my feelings normal? What can I do to recover? What will my future be like? And so many more... The personal stories in this book can help answer those questions, as well as provide tips and guidance to make the divorce and recovery process go more smoothly. And, because so many of the interviewees have come through their divorces so well, the book can also offer inspiration and hope. In addition to those going through a Gray Divorce, common sense suggests plenty of long-married Over 50's must be considering it. Each is seeking to answer the one big question: Will I be better off if I get out? The stories in this book can provide that Divorce Curious (or "Di-Curious") reader a tremendous amount of useful information for reaching that decision.Among those who offer their stories: * Donna - She felt like a single mother during periods of her two decade marriage, knowing for years she wanted out. Finally she made the move, even though she was scared about struggling financially. Her advice to other women: You can do it. * Wendy - A successful corporate type, she was the breadwinner throughout her marriage. Though she did everything possible to support her struggling husband, she felt abandoned by him in every possible way. She was prepared to stick it out until her youngest left home, but then she met a man at a business conference... * Roger - He endured a 26 year marriage with a demanding, verbally abusive wife. The financial crash of '08 delayed his departure, but when real estate values bounced back, he got out. Roger expected to be emotionally wracked by the divorce; instead, he's thrilled to be in his apartment, golfing when he wants, with no yard work to do. * Gayla - Her long marriage was marked by poor communication and sex that felt like a chore. Finally divorced once her youngest graduated college, she spent a year working on herself before beginning to date again. Once she did, she discovered a world of sexuality unlike anything she'd ever imagined before. Any divorce is difficult and painful, but a Gray Divorce offers its own set of particular challenges. Anyone going through a divorce over 50, or considering one, can benefit from reading the first-hand experiences offered by Gray Divorce Stories.




Divorced Girl Smiling


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Smile! It's not just the end of your marriage, it's the beginning of your second chance!Missy Benson has a two and a half carat diamond engagement ring with color grade H, VS2 clarity and a value of $36,000. It's absolutely gorgeous, practically flawless, and let's be honest, really big!But what the successful Chicago realtor doesn't have anymore is a husband. After 12 years of marriage, her husband, Paul, a handsome, wealthy attorney has devastated her by breaking up their marriage for Priscilla Sommerfeld, a young, personal trainer, who according to Missy's sassy assistant, J.J., looks more like a Las Vegas stripper than a fitness expert.Not sure what to do with her ring, and with no financial issues to worry about, Missy decides to put it up for sale on Craigslist. The price: 99 cents! The catch: She gets to pick the buyer. In essence, she's looking for the perfect guy, but not for herself. Her hope is to regain faith that good men do exist, and that marriages can last forever.Now referring to herself as "the divorced girl," Missy interviews dozens of young men who are vying for the huge ring. It's a contest that includes outrageous characters, hilarious and sentimental stories, and two finalists, both of whom Missy adores and who she must choose between. Then there's Parker Missoni, the sexiest contestant by far, who drives her crazy with his brutal honesty, and at the same time stops her heart with his deep brown eyes.Divorced Girl Smiling is the story of a woman's journey to do whatever it takes to heal herself from divorce. It's about acceptance, reflection, taking accountability for mistakes, and appreciating all of life's wonderful gifts. In other words, if you have the guts to put the past behind, admit your mistakes, embrace your future, and give love another chance, you will surely be a divorced girl smiling.




He's History, You're Not


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In He’s History, You’re Not: Surviving Divorce After 40, Erica Manfred shares her own divorce experience, as well as the advice of experts, with specific sections tailored to women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. Manfred was left for a younger woman in 2003, and eventually learned to both survive and thrive. After educating herself in the areas many women have barely even thought of when considering divorce, she is the kind of girlfriend a woman needs when facing both menopause and the trauma of divorce. She can help save divorcees lots of anguish, and lots of cash. HE’S HISTORY, YOU’RE NOT discusses how to: • Avoid “kiss of death” marriage counselors to determine if reconciliation is possible. • Find an affordable divorce lawyer who does not snort scornfully at the word “mediation.” • Survive the first, worst, year. • Deal with your adult or teen kids (who can be just as devastated as small children). • Get back to work or find a new career. (Age discrimination does not have to stop you.) • Use the Internet to date the Viagra generation. • Restore your self-esteem despite body parts that have succumbed to gravity. • Forgive the bastard (and yourself) and finally move on…and much more.




The Life-Saving Divorce


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You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In "The Life-Saving Divorce" You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books.




Home Will Never Be the Same Again


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Adult children are often overlooked and forgotten when their parents divorce later in life, but in these pages they will find comfort and understanding for the many feelings, frustrations, and challenges they face. For more than two decades, a silent revolution has been occurring and creating a seismic shift in the American family and families in other countries. It has been unfolding without much comment, and its effects are being felt across three to four generations: more couples are divorcing later in life. Called the “gray divorce revolution,” the cultural phenomenon describes couples who divorce after the age of 50. Overlooked in the issues that affect couples divorcing later in in life are the adult children of divorcing parents. Their voices open this book, and they are the voices of men and women, 18 to 50 years old. Some of them are single; some are married. Some have children of their own. All of them are in different stages of shock, fear, and sudden, dramatic change. In Home Will Never Be the Same: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce, Carol Hughes and Bruce Fredenburg share their deep understanding gained during the innumerable hours they have spent with these women and men in their clinical practices. The result is a valuable resource for these too often forgotten adult children, many of whom find that, whenever they express their feelings and experiences, the most important people in their lives frequently ignore and dismiss them. As the divorce rate for older adults soars, so too does the number of adult children who are experiencing parental divorce. Yet, these adult children frequently say that they are the only ones who are aware of what they are going through, no one understands what they are experiencing, and they feel painfully alone.




Gray Divorce


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After 20, 30, or even 40 years of marriage, countless vacations, raising well-adjusted children, and sharing property and finances, what could go wrong? Gray Divorce is a provocative look at the rising rate of marital splits after the age of 50. Renowned author and researcher Jocelyn Elise Crowley uncovers the reasons why men and women divorce—and the penalties and benefits that they receive for their choices. From the outside, many may ask why couples in mid-life and readying for retirement choose to make a drastic change in their marital status. Yet, nearly one out of every four divorces in the United States is “gray.” With a deft eye, Crowley analyzes the differing experiences of women and men in this mid-life transition—the seismic shift in individual priorities, the role of increased life expectancy, and how women are affected economically while men are affected socially. With a realistic yet passionate voice, Crowley shares the personal positive outlooks and the necessary supportive public policies that must be enacted to best help the newly divorced. Engaging and instructive, Gray Divorce is a must-read for anyone interested in contemporary American culture.




Growing Through Divorce


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"Growing Through Divorce is one of the most practical, insightful, and helpful books available today." H. Norman Wright More than 600,000 copies sold! Now with a brand-new cover, Jim Smoke's compassionate and supportive book will help many thousands more. Jim has counseled single-again people for more than 30 years. Drawing on this experience, he offers men and women the practical, step-by-step help they need to survive the turmoil of divorce and come out healthy and secure. Readers are encouraged to: look at divorce recovery as a healing process develop a solid support system give themselves time and permission to experience the myriad emotions provide support and understanding to their children take care of themselves financially, physically, and emotionally Although devastating, divorce doesn't mean life is over. Joy and love will come again. Growing Through Divorce helps readers transform a difficult ending to a fresh beginning.




Divorce


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This comprehensive book provides a balanced overview of the current research on divorce. The authors examine the scientific evidence to uncover what can be said with certainty about divorce and what remains to be learned about this socially and politically charged issue. Accessible to parents and teachers as well as clinicians and researchers, the volume examines the impact of marital breakup on children, adults, and society. Alison Clarke-Stewart and Cornelia Brentano synthesize the most up-to-date information on divorce from a variety of disciplinary perspectives with thoughtful analysis of psychological issues. They convey the real-life consequences of divorce with excerpts from autobiographies by young people, and they also include guidelines for social policies that would help to diminish the detrimental effects of divorce.




How to be a Good Divorced Dad


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Positive advice for divorced dads and their families The country's leading authority on fathers' rights Jeffery M. Leving presents a definitive how-to resource for divorced dads of any age, background, and marriage history. Leving offers targeted guidance and suggests techniques for staying connected with children and dealing with ex-wives—and in some cases a new girlfriend or the wife's new boyfriend—during the divorce and afterwards. This upbeat book offers good news for divorced dads and counters many of the myths that paint divorcing fathers as alienated, irresponsible, or absent. Includes advice for overcoming limited access to children with cooperative responses and legal remedies if necessary Reveals how to avoid depression and feelings of guilt that can cause a divorced dad to give up and lose connection with his kids Offers ideas for responding to an ex-wife's remarriage, moving, unfounded accusations, and other common issues Contains guidance for engaging in new relationships and possibly remarriage How to Be a Good Divorced Dad is practical and down-to-earth and offers dozens of real life examples of dads who have discovered the importance of staying involved in their children's lives.