Encountering Life's Endings


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If you wish to live well, practice dying. Death and dying are universal human experiences. All that lives is transitory and will depart this life. Encountering Life’s Endings encompasses the practical, psychological, philosophical, cultural and spiritual aspects of dying and death viewed through the prism of the passing of the author’s mother (94), father (89), brothers Al (69), Joe (46), Eddie (44) and numerous friends and colleagues. Interspersed throughout the book are the thoughts and insights of leading figures in the field of thanatology as well as diverse and illuminating teachings by eastern and western sages and spiritual teachers, ranging from Thich Nhat Hanh to Stanley Keleman. Readers are provided with meditations and visualizations that serve to lessen the pain and suffering associated with death and dying, thus enhancing the possibility of experiencing the last stages of our lives as a final gift to self and others. Other types of life’s endings are also dealt with in this book. For example, the death of love; facing the possible death of a child, the necessity of allowing parts of ourselves to die in order to be more fully alive; birth as a form of dying; letting go of pain and suffering in order to experience pleasure; the casting off of normality to attain sanity; and the dying of the earth, Written largely in the form of a personal narrative, hearts will open, emitting compassion for all sentient beings, and minds engaged, resulting in the deepening of how we think about, approach and experience the ebb and flow of our lives. ********************************* Louis Silverstein’s Encountering Life’s Endings: Practice Dying Live Well offers compelling testimony about basic but overlooked truths. As someone who has experienced the tragic, untimely death of a child, I have searched far and wide for words that would help me to process and recover from such profound loss. With beautifully descriptive prose, Silverstein provides guidance and wisdom, delving deeply into what is for the most part unspeakable in Western culture—the relationship between life and death. It is a gentle and honest book that weaves personal narrative with illuminating teachings from a variety of spiritual writers that provide the tools for transforming suffering into strength. Alvina Quintana, Associate Professor Women’s & Latin American Studies, University of Delaware In his fearless exploration into the meaning of dying and death, Louis weaves his way through a maze of tragic historic and current family losses, makings stops along the way in a sensuous paradise of philosophic wisdom. The answers found and the meanings revealed are richly satisfying, as is the journey through the book. Loretta Downs, Founder, Chrysalis End-Of-Life Inspirations In this personal account of meeting the death of others, Silverstein brings to light how we can imagine dying and wonder about our own. People will be moved by this book and gain insights. Stanley Keleman, The Center For Energetic Studies If you wish to live fully, practice dying is the Platonic advice that grounds much of Louis Silverstein’s pithy and personal guide for turning our fears of death and dying into explorations of the of the arts of living: forgiveness, creativity and love. Reflecting on his years of study and teaching and his own experiences with death and dying in his family, he offers us insight into how death awakens emotional and spiritual reserves that not only open the gates of grief and provide healing, but also miraculously shatter the life-long patterns of thinking that contributes to the real tragedy in life-- death of our spirit. Michael McColly, The After-Death Room: Journey Into Spiritual Activism




Encountering Life's Endings


Book Description

If you wish to live well, practice dying. Death and dying are universal human experiences. All that lives is transitory and will depart this life. Encountering Life's Endings encompasses the practical, psychological, philosophical, cultural and spiritual aspects of dying and death viewed through the prism of the passing of the author's mother (94), father (89), brothers Al (69), Joe (46), Eddie (44) and numerous friends and colleagues. Interspersed throughout the book are the thoughts and insights of leading figures in the field of thanatology as well as diverse and illuminating teachings by eastern and western sages and spiritual teachers, ranging from Thich Nhat Hanh to Stanley Keleman. Readers are provided with meditations and visualizations that serve to lessen the pain and suffering associated with death and dying, thus enhancing the possibility of experiencing the last stages of our lives as a final gift to self and others. Other types of life's endings are also dealt with in this book. For example, the death of love; facing the possible death of a child, the necessity of allowing parts of ourselves to die in order to be more fully alive; birth as a form of dying; letting go of pain and suffering in order to experience pleasure; the casting off of normality to attain sanity; and the dying of the earth, Written largely in the form of a personal narrative, hearts will open, emitting compassion for all sentient beings, and minds engaged, resulting in the deepening of how we think about, approach and experience the ebb and flow of our lives. ********************************* Louis Silverstein's Encountering Life's Endings: Practice Dying Live Well offers compelling testimony about basic but overlooked truths. As someone who has experienced the tragic, untimely death of a child, I have searched far and wide for words that would help me to process and recover from such profound loss. With beautifully descriptive prose, Silverstein provides guidance and wisdom, delving deeply into what is for the most part unspeakable in Western culture the relationship between life and death. It is a gentle and honest book that weaves personal narrative with illuminating teachings from a variety of spiritual writers that provide the tools for transforming suffering into strength. Alvina Quintana, Associate Professor Women's & Latin American Studies, University of Delaware In his fearless exploration into the meaning of dying and death, Louis weaves his way through a maze of tragic historic and current family losses, makings stops along the way in a sensuous paradise of philosophic wisdom. The answers found and the meanings revealed are richly satisfying, as is the journey through the book. Loretta Downs, Founder, Chrysalis End-Of-Life Inspirations In this personal account of meeting the death of others, Silverstein brings to light how we can imagine dying and wonder about our own. People will be moved by this book and gain insights. Stanley Keleman, The Center For Energetic Studies If you wish to live fully, practice dying is the Platonic advice that grounds much of Louis Silverstein's pithy and personal guide for turning our fears of death and dying into explorations of the of the arts of living: forgiveness, creativity and love. Reflecting on his years of study and teaching and his own experiences with death and dying in his family, he offers us insight into how death awakens emotional and spiritual reserves that not only open the gates of grief and provide healing, but also miraculously shatter the life-long patterns of thinking that contributes to the real tragedy in life-- death of our spirit. Michael McColly, The After-Death Room: Journey Into Spiritual Activism




The Sense of an Ending


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BOOKER PRIZE WINNER • NATIONAL BESTSELLER • A novel that follows a middle-aged man as he contends with a past he never much thought about—until his closest childhood friends return with a vengeance: one of them from the grave, another maddeningly present. A novel so compelling that it begs to be read in a single setting, The Sense of an Ending has the psychological and emotional depth and sophistication of Henry James at his best, and is a stunning achievement in Julian Barnes's oeuvre. Tony Webster thought he left his past behind as he built a life for himself, and his career has provided him with a secure retirement and an amicable relationship with his ex-wife and daughter, who now has a family of her own. But when he is presented with a mysterious legacy, he is forced to revise his estimation of his own nature and place in the world.




Change the Story of Your Health


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Change the Story of Your Health is a guide to thinking differently. The story of our health is more in our control than we might think. We can not only reframe our experiences but actually achieve less stress, a sense of well-being and better physical health if we are willing to identify our health story and start to rewrite it. Through Carl Greer's journaling exercises and expanded-awareness practices, anyone can tap into hidden resources for healing. Readers will learn how to let go of obstacles, change their habits, release what is no longer serving them, and bring in what they need to experience greater wellness. Discover practical ways to interact with nature, and work with dreams, your inner healer, your symptoms, and more. Whether you are dealing with aging, unexpected health challenges or ongoing concerns, you will find the tools for writing and bringing to life a new health story. Discover self-healing practices from alternative medical traditions that will transform your health and well-being. The story of our health is more in our control than we might think. We can not only reframe our experiences but actually achieve less stress, a sense of well-being, and better physical health, if we are willing to identify our health story and start to rewrite it. Through Carl Greer's journaling exercises and expanded-awareness practices, anyone can tap into hidden resources for healing. Readers will learn how to let go of obstacles, change their habits, release what is no longer serving them, and bring in what they need to experience greater wellness. Discover practical ways to interact with nature, and work with dreams, your inner healer, your symptoms, and more. Whether you are dealing with ageing, unexpected health challenges, or ongoing concerns, you will find the tools for writing and bringing to life a new health story.




The Story of Never Ending Coincidences Conundrums and Encounters That Encompassed Me and Thee


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What if the pieces of life's jigsaw could be rearranged in a differing pattern? How would this new mosaic appear? Could we improve the picture, or would it be distorted by Would we like what we discovered, or would it vary from our hopes and dreams? This is the saga, of the many facets of a relationship, and the ambitions of a couple engaged in their race up the corporate ladder. It is about the effect of these events, which compound their relationship. One miserable morning, when Mike is on the way to his weekly confrontation with his boss; he sees and falls for a most beautiful girl, Angie. He has never met her, yet feels that he knows her well. After a disastrous introduction, he discovers to his dismay, that they are to set up part of a new look business at Raymonds behest, the start of his scheme to become the most successful director in Norway. There is an uneasy standoff until, Angie walks in to Mikes office late one evening, and starts to talk to him. It seems as though they have been friends for many years this throws Mike completely. They form a team, and succeed in implementing Raymonds scheme, to everyones delight. Initially, as the workplace becomes pressurised Angie seems to thrive in this atmosphere. After a euphoric start, Mike becomes more nervous and reticent. The determination of Angie intensifies his anxieties, and he seeks professional help. They delve into his earlier life, his feelings for Angie, and his aspirations. She discovers accidentally while trying hypnotherapy that Mike and Angie appear to have shared memories of a past experience. Circumstances complicate matters further. On a crucial business trip to England, Mike is hospitalized after an accident; Angie tries to piece everything together, and save the deal, but she also discovers the extent of her business talent and acumen. Mike is a disoriented person who falls in Love with Angie all over again, but has huge difficulties in trying to rebuild his mind. He is sidetracked by other affairs. His recovery is hastened in business venture by, Ibrahim, a unique friendship ensues. Angie in contrast, develops, into a powerful businesswoman. Mike, sinks to his lowest ebb and contemplates suicide, and is rescued again in a surprising fashion.




Extraordinary Encounters


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Given the anthropological focus on ethnography as a kind of deep immersion, the interview poses theoretical and methodological challenges for the discipline. This volume explores those challenges and argues that the interview should be seen as a special, productive site of ethnographic encounter, a site of a very particular and important kind of knowing. In a range of social contexts and cultural settings, contributors show how the interview is experienced and imagined as a kind of space within which personal, biographic and social cues and norms can be explored and interrogated. The interview possesses its own authenticity, therefore—true to the persons involved and true to their moment of interaction—whilst at the same time providing information on human capacities and proclivities that is generalizable beyond particular social and cultural contexts.




Forms and Functions of Endings in Narrative Digital Games


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This book looks closely at the endings of narrative digital games, examining their ways of concluding the processes of both storytelling and play in order to gain insight into what endings are and how we identify them in different media. While narrative digital games share many representational strategies for signalling their upcoming end with more traditional narrative media – such as novels or movies – they also show many forms of endings that often radically differ from our conventional understanding of conclusion and closure. From vast game worlds that remain open for play after a story’s finale, to multiple endings that are often hailed as a means for players to create their own stories, to the potentially tragic endings of failure and "game over", digital games question the traditional singularity and finality of endings. Using a broad range of examples, this book delves deeply into these and other forms and their functions, both to reveal the closural specificities of the ludonarrative hybrid that digital games are, as well as to find the core elements that characterise endings in any medium. It examines how endings make themselves known to players and raises the question of how well-established closural conventions blend with play and a player’s effort to achieve a goal. As an interdisciplinary study that draws on game studies as much as on transmedial narratology, Forms and Functions of Endings in Narrative Digital Games is suited for scholars and students of digital games as well as for narratologists yet to become familiar with this medium.




Ending the Pursuit of Happiness


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We all have a right to the pursuit of happiness - but could we actually be happier if we gave that whole thing up? This surprising new book from Zen teacher, psychoanalyst, and critical favorite Barry Magid inspires us - in gentle and winking prose - to move on and make peace with the perfection of the way things actually are, including ourselves. Magid invites us to consider that our "pursuit of happiness" may actually be a source of our suffering. He takes an unusual look at our "secret practices" - what we're really doing when we say we're meditating-like trying to feel calmer, or more compassionate, or even "enlightened" (whatever we imagine that means!). He also uncovers our "curative fantasies" about spiritual practice - those ideas that we can somehow fix all the messy human things about ourselves that we imagine are bad or wrong or unacceptable. In doing so, he helps us look squarely at-and avoid-such pitfalls. Along the way, Magid lays out a rich roadmap of the new "psychological-minded Zen" - a Zen that includes our entire life, our entire personality - as pioneered by his teacher, bestselling author Charlotte Joko Beck.




Never-Ending Prayer


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Is Christian ‘tradition’ to be maintained as the absolute body of truth? Can it be used selectively depending on the preferences of individual believers? What can ‘religious truth’ possibly mean in our age of opinions and overwhelming cultural diversity? These are unsettling questions for Christians, their effect aggravated by our daily encounter with non-western cultures and non-Christian religions, and by the increasing presentation of secularism and atheism as the ‘normal’ way of life. In Never-Ending Prayer, Bert Hoedemaker outlines the continuing importance of tradition, while showing that in facing these challenges our understanding of tradition needs a ‘reset’. Drawing on his own experiences of world Christianity, he reconstructs the Christian tradition in such a way that it no longer defines and defends itself as a specific body of concepts and practices over against ’the world’ but as a living community originating in and remaining in interaction with humanity’s permanent struggles. It is presented as a system of religious imagination in which prayer is the driving force and reconciliation is seen as the destination of humankind.




The never-ending Brief Encounter


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This is a book for all those who have been absorbed and moved by Brief Encounter in the seventy or so years since its first appearance. It explores the central relationship of the film, where two people who fall unexpectedly in love come to realise that there is more to life than self-gratification. Mores have undoubtedly changed, for better or worse, but that essential moral choice has never lost its power. While acknowledging this, the book goes further in an effort to account for the way the film has passed into the wider culture. People born decades after its first appearance are now adept at picking up references to it, whether a black-and-white scene in a much later film or a passing joke about a bald man in a barber’s shop.