It Wasn't Your Fault


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Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault. In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this book, you’ll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences. Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination. This book is based on the author’s powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this book, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You’ll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you’ll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion—pride.




AARP Healing Your Emotional Self


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AARP Digital Editions offer you practical tips, proven solutions, and expert guidance. In Healing Your Emotional Self, Beverly Engel provides a program to help readers raise their self-esteem, quiet their inner critic, and overcome their shame. Those who were emotionally abused or neglected in childhood tend to suffer from self-criticism, low self-esteem, self-doubt, a poor body image, perfectionism, and unhealthy shame. Now renowned psychotherapist Beverly Engel presents a psychologically sound, step-by-step program to help adult survivors heal the damage to their self-image caused by negative parental messages and treatment. Healing Your Emotional Self shows readers how to become reunited with their true self, quiet their inner critic, raise their self-esteem, and begin to love their body. Engel also teaches survivors how to separate emotionally from their parents and provide for themselves what they missed as a child.




How to Raise Your Self-Esteem


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Of all the judgments you make in life, none is as important as the one you make about yourself. The difference between low self-esteem and high self-esteem is the difference between passivity and action, between failure and success. Now, one of America's foremost psychologists and a pioneer in self-esteem development offers a step-by-step guide to strengthening your sense of self-worth. Here are simple, straightforward and effective techniques that will dramatically improve the way you think and feel about yourself. You'll learn: How to break free of negative self-concepts and self-defeating behavior. How to dissolve internal barriers to success in work and love. How to overcome anxiety, depression, guilt and anger. How to conquer the fear of intimacy and success. How to find -- and keep -- the courage to love yourself. And much more.




Emotional Healing


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In this instructive and uplifting narrative, Dr. Barry explores how to recover from loss, trauma, grief, and loneliness by helping readers identify their emotions and providing the steps to emotionally heal yourself. When we experience trauma, loss or grief the pain can feel as if it will last forever. We begin to wonder if our old selves—the ones who felt hope and happiness and joy—are lost to us. And our emotions can lead us into damaging behaviours that compound our problems. Dr Harry Barry acknowledges there is no magic wand that will take our pain away completely, but he uses his clinical experience, combined with cognitive behavioural therapy, to show that emotional healing is always possible. You can put yourself back together with the simple exercises and straightforward advice that have helped countless others. Healing is the process of restoring the healthy mind and body of someone in distress, and Dr. Barry offers a holistic approach to the whole person. Emotional Healing is a practical, compassionate companion for anyone who feels that their emotional wounds are preventing them from fully embracing life. Learn to feel like yourself again.




The Black Girl's Guide to Healing Emotional Wounds


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"I wish my father had been present in my life, so I would not have accepted a lot of crap from men." "Growing up, I didn't feel loved by my mother which caused...." "It is hard to find and maintain a solid group of trustworthy girlfriends to do life with." "I was devastated by a previous lover and that hurt changed me for the worse." "I often don’t feel loved." "I’m not happy with how my life turned out." If you have ever said any of the above, then this book is for you! This means there may be emotional wounds that are stopping you from living your best life. Disappointments, rejection, competition, overthinking, and family secrets are some of the emotional wounds that cause inner chaos and damage our sense of self. As black girls, we suffer differently, and our history is complex. Nijiama Smalls is all too familiar with the suffering of black girls and shares her personal journey of uncovering the origin of Black girl trauma while also addressing the ongoing process of healing and recovery from wounds caused by past hurts.The beauty of this book is that it provides a prescription for healing in the form of a soul-cleansing process. Enter this journey so that you can be set free to live the life God has planned for you. Sis, it’s time to heal and end the suffering.







The Little Stick Figures Technique for Emotional Self-Healing


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• Explains the 7 simple steps of the Little Stick Figures Technique and how to achieve maximum results and lasting changes • Provides more than 150 examples of successful uses of this method, including how to improve relationships, how to attract your soulmate and abundance, how to resolve problems at work, and how to detach from a toxic situation • Details a general cleansing and rebalancing protocol for your conscious and unconscious programming ARE YOU LOOKING TO DETACH from an unhealthy situation or a person in your life and regain inner freedom with unconditional love? This easy energetic cord-cutting tool serves to free yourself from dependencies, fears, and your conscious and unconscious attachments. Created by therapist Jacques Martel in 1993, the Little Stick Figures Technique moves beyond mere visualization to a physical practice, easily applied in 7 steps. It draws its effectiveness from the power of the conscious as well as the subconscious, helping you to set intentions for truly lasting change and letting go. More than 150 examples show how to successfully apply this method, whether you want to improve relationships with a partner or an ex-partner, disengage from family entanglements, attract your soulmate and abundance, resolve problems at work, or detach from a toxic situation and start the process of emotional self-healing. This regular cleansing and rebalancing protocol for your conscious and unconscious inner programs helps harmonize your relationships and supports you to be more centered, calm, and in control of your life.




Healing for Damaged Emotions


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Events in our lives, both good and bad, form rings in us like the rings in a tree. Each ring records memories that affect our feelings, our relationships, and our thoughts about God. In this classic work, David Seamands encourages us to live compassionately with ourselves as we allow the Holy Spirit to heal our past. As he helps us name hurdles in our lives—such as guilt, poor self-worth, and perfectionism—he shows us how we can find freedom from our pain and enjoy the abundant life God wants for us.




The Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing


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Tap Your Troubles Away It's that simple. Meridian Therapy is a self-healing system that can be learned in minutes and can relieve a lifetime of emotional pain. A cutting-edge technique based on the ancient art of acupressure, it involves stimulating the energy meridians in the body by tapping on specific energy points and awakening their healing power. In Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing, noted therapist Gloria Arenson explains the scientific basis of Meridian Therapy and teaches readers the five easy-to-follow steps that will allow them to break free from stress and negative emotions. Meridian Therapy can be practiced any time, anywhere, in order to Improve performance in sports, work, and the bedroom Stop the fears that limit activities and ruin relationships Eliminate the urge to procrastinate Conquer cravings and compulsions Heal emotional scars and painful memories Improve self-esteem Dissolve panic attacks before they start




It's Not Always Depression


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Fascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self. Sara suffered a debilitating fear of asserting herself. Spencer experienced crippling social anxiety. Bonnie was shut down, disconnected from her feelings. These patients all came to psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeking treatment for depression, but in fact none of them were chemically depressed. Rather, Jacobs Hendel found that they’d all experienced traumas in their youth that caused them to put up emotional defenses that masqueraded as symptoms of depression. Jacobs Hendel led these patients and others toward lives newly capable of joy and fulfillment through an empathic and effective therapeutic approach that draws on the latest science about the healing power of our emotions. Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement). Fully experiencing core emotions allows us to enter an openhearted state where we are calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear. In It’s Not Always Depression, Jacobs Hendel shares a unique and pragmatic tool called the Change Triangle—a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true self. In these pages, she teaches lay readers and helping professionals alike • why all emotions—even the most painful—have value. • how to identify emotions and the defenses we put up against them. • how to get to the root of anxiety—the most common mental illness of our time. • how to have compassion for the child you were and the adult you are. Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients’ remarkable breakthroughs. She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement.