Not a Victim, Not a Survivor, I'm Now a Warrior Thriver


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When we lose a person or a relationship ends, it is usually very upsetting, unsettling and can take time to not only process this event in our life but also about how we move on or how we learn to live with it.For some people, they never move on, they become what is known as 'stuck' in a comfort zone, a place they prefer to be but this isn't healthy and no personal growth takes place from being in this frame of mind or state of being.Life throws many obstacles our way and no matter what, we keep going, it's what we do, hopefully learning from each situation and adding to our own enlightenment and eventually wisdom. Some incidents can change us completely and give us a new set of priorities or a completely new path, one such event happened to me in November 2020.If we feel we are being attacked, played or there are personal agendas or insincerities from others, this can be very difficult to understand or manage in our everyday life, after all, being honest and with good intentions comes naturally to most of us but not all and when faced with these approaches, it is often a projection of another's insecurities and may have little or nothing to do with us personally, this is what is termed 'reverse psychology' and demonstrates that the person has issues which is also their problem, when this happens, it can damage friendships forever.Sometimes we need to rise up, stop with the negative thoughts, no labelling, no victim state or survivor tag but a warrior thriver.'Amongst any chaos, we must find calm'




Is Rape a Crime?


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Longlisted for the 2020 National Book Award for Nonfiction TIME's 100 Must-Read Books of 2020 Publishers Weekly, Best Books of 2020 New York Times New & Noteworthy Audiobooks Lit Hubs Most Anticipated Books of 2020 Starred Review Publishers Weekly Starred Review Shelf Awareness "Is Rape a Crime? is beautifully written and compellingly told. In 2020, we were all looking for solutions and this book was right on time. It is one we should all be reading." —Anita Hill "This standout memoir marks a crucial moment in the discussion of what constitutes a violent crime." —Publishers Weekly, Best Books of 2020 She Said meets Know My Name in Michelle Bowdler's provocative debut, telling the story of her rape and recovery while interrogating why one of society's most serious crimes goes largely uninvestigated. The crime of rape sizzles like a lightning strike. It pounces, flattens, destroys. A person stands whole, and in a moment of unexpected violence, that life, that body is gone. Award-winning writer and public health executive Michelle Bowdler's memoir indicts how sexual violence has been addressed for decades in our society, asking whether rape is a crime given that it is the least reported major felony, least successfully prosecuted, and fewer than 3% of reported rapes result in conviction. Cases are closed before they are investigated and DNA evidence sits for years untested and disregarded Rape in this country is not treated as a crime of brutal violence but as a parlor game of he said / she said. It might be laughable if it didn’t work so much of the time. Given all this, it seems fair to ask whether rape is actually a crime. In 1984, the Boston Sexual Assault Unit was formed as a result of a series of break-ins and rapes that terrorized the city, of which Michelle’s own horrific rape was the last. Twenty years later, after a career of working with victims like herself, Michelle decides to find out what happened to her case and why she never heard from the police again after one brief interview. Is Rape a Crime? is an expert blend of memoir and cultural investigation, and Michelle's story is a rallying cry to reclaim our power and right our world.




Survivor Song


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A propulsive and chillingly prescient novel of suspense and terror from the Bram Stoker award–winning author of The Cabin at the End of the World and A Head Full of Ghosts. “Absolutely riveting.” — Stephen King In a matter of weeks, Massachusetts has been overrun by an insidious rabies-like virus that is spread by saliva. But unlike rabies, the disease has a terrifyingly short incubation period of an hour or less. Those infected quickly lose their minds and are driven to bite and infect as many others as they can before they inevitably succumb. Hospitals are inundated with the sick and dying, and hysteria has taken hold. To try to limit its spread, the commonwealth is under quarantine and curfew. But society is breaking down and the government's emergency protocols are faltering. Dr. Ramola "Rams" Sherman, a soft-spoken pediatrician in her mid-thirties, receives a frantic phone call from Natalie, a friend who is eight months pregnant. Natalie's husband has been killed—viciously attacked by an infected neighbor—and in a failed attempt to save him, Natalie, too, was bitten. Natalie's only chance of survival is to get to a hospital as quickly as possible to receive a rabies vaccine. The clock is ticking for her and for her unborn child. Natalie’s fight for life becomes a desperate odyssey as she and Rams make their way through a hostile landscape filled with dangers beyond their worst nightmares—terrifying, strange, and sometimes deadly challenges that push them to the brink. Paul Tremblay once again demonstrates his mastery in this chilling and all-too-plausible novel that will leave readers racing through the pages . . . and shake them to their core.




Conflict Is Not Abuse


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From intimate relationships to global politics, Sarah Schulman observes a continuum: that inflated accusations of harm are used to avoid accountability. Illuminating the difference between Conflict and Abuse, Schulman directly addresses our contemporary culture of scapegoating. This deep, brave, and bold work reveals how punishment replaces personal and collective self-criticism, and shows why difference is so often used to justify cruelty and shunning. Rooting the problem of escalation in negative group relationships, Schulman illuminates the ways cliques, communities, families, and religious, racial, and national groups bond through the refusal to change their self-concept. She illustrates how Supremacy behavior and Traumatized behavior resemble each other, through a shared inability to tolerate difference. This important and sure to be controversial book illuminates such contemporary and historical issues of personal, racial, and geo-political difference as tools of escalation towards injustice, exclusion, and punishment, whether the objects of dehumanization are other individuals in our families or communities, people with HIV, African Americans, or Palestinians. Conflict Is Not Abuse is a searing rejection of the cultural phenomenon of blame, cruelty, and scapegoating, and how those in positions of power exacerbate and manipulate fear of the "other" to achieve their goals. Sarah Schulman is a novelist, nonfiction writer, playwright, screenwriter, journalist and AIDS historian, and the author of eighteen books. A Guggenheim and Fulbright Fellow, Sarah is a Distinguished Professor of the Humanities at the City University of New York, College of Staten Island. Her novels published by Arsenal include Rat Bohemia, Empathy, After Delores, and The Mere Future. She lives in New York. This publication meets the EPUB Accessibility requirements and it also meets the Web Content Accessibility Guidelines (WCAG-AA). It is screen-reader friendly and is accessible to persons with disabilities. A Simple book with few images, which is defined with accessible structural markup. This book contains various accessibility features such as alternative text for images, table of contents, page-list, landmark, reading order and semantic structure.




Not a Victim... But a Survivor


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I lived my life in the shadows, I lived my life in shame. For years I hid my secrets from everyone that I cared about, because I didn't want them to consider me broken. I am not broken, I am a survivor. This is a compilation of both books written by Desire Night. I Love You Baby Girl, and I Learned to Love Myself. The author has added new text, and has also included some distressing child abuse statistics.Child Abuse Statistics:A report of child abuse is made in the United States every 10 seconds.More than five children die each day as a result of child abuse.80% of those children that die from child abuse are under the age of 4.50-60% of child fatalities due to abuse are not even recognized and documented on death certificates.90% or more of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator.Child abuse has no socioeconomic barriers, it crosses all lines, and can be found in all religions and educational levels.Approximately 30% of abused and neglected children will continue the cycle of abuse by abusing their own children.It costs the United States an estimated $124 billion a year to help children of abuse and neglect.




I Have the Right To


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“A bold, new voice.” —People “A nuanced addition to the #MeToo conversation.” —Vice A young survivor tells her searing, visceral story of sexual assault, justice, and healing in this gutwrenching memoir. The numbers are staggering: nearly one in five girls ages fourteen to seventeen have been the victim of a sexual assault or attempted sexual assault. This is the true story of one of those girls. In 2014, Chessy Prout was a freshman at St. Paul’s School, a prestigious boarding school in New Hampshire, when a senior boy sexually assaulted her as part of a ritualized game of conquest. Chessy bravely reported her assault to the police and testified against her attacker in court. Then, in the face of unexpected backlash from her once-trusted school community, she shed her anonymity to help other survivors find their voice. This memoir is more than an account of a horrific event. It takes a magnifying glass to the institutions that turn a blind eye to such behavior and a society that blames victims rather than perpetrators. Chessy’s story offers real, powerful solutions to upend rape culture as we know it today. Prepare to be inspired by this remarkable young woman and her story of survival, advocacy, and hope in the face of unspeakable trauma.




Asking for It


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The first non-academic, single-author book since the 1990s to examine sexual assault as a social phenomenon: noted blogger and author Kate Harding s provocative, sharp and yes, funny book tackling rape culture, also offering some suggestions for moving toward a culture that fully respects and supports victims, while protecting the rights of the accused. "




When Thoughts and Prayers Aren't Enough


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Taylor Schumann survived a school shooting, yet she was left with permanent wounds, both visible and invisible. Weaving her own incredible story into a larger conversation about gun violence in America, Taylor shares another painful truth: Christians have largely been silent on this issue. With compassion and honesty, she encourages readers to join her in taking action for a safer future.




I Am Me: Survivor of Child Abuse and Bullying Speaks Out


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I AM ME"Survivor of Child Abuse and Bullying Speaks Out" The true story about a person that chooses no longer to live as a victim but became a survivor.Do you view yourself as a victim and unaware how to overcome abuse? Do you need help conquering your demons and coming to terms with the nightmare of your past?Are you clueless on how to walk away from the individuals that hurt you and stand up for yourself?"In this book you will: "You will learn how to achieve strategies for survival and healing.Discover ways to help survivors identify and validate their childhood experience with child abuse and bullying.Identify and come to terms with your sexuality and not to hide who you really are to please others. Learn that suicide is not the way out and choosing to survive and take control of your life.Find the person you were meant to be and accept who you are and love yourself.




That's Not What Happened


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From New York Times bestseller Kody Keplinger comes an astonishing and thought-provoking exploration of the aftermath of tragedy, the power of narrative, and how we remember what we've lost. It's been three years since the Virgil County High School Massacre. Three years since my best friend, Sarah, was killed in a bathroom stall during the mass shooting. Everyone knows Sarah's story--that she died proclaiming her faith. But it's not true. I know because I was with her when she died. I didn't say anything then, and people got hurt because of it. Now Sarah's parents are publishing a book about her, so this might be my last chance to set the record straight . . . but I'm not the only survivor with a story to tell about what did--and didn't--happen that day. Except Sarah's martyrdom is important to a lot of people, people who don't take kindly to what I'm trying to do. And the more I learn, the less certain I am about what's right. I don't know what will be worse: the guilt of staying silent or the consequences of speaking up . . .