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Secrets to Coping with Emotionally Unavailable Parents

Author : Bella Gibson Anderson

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Page : 60 pages

File Size : 31,62 MB

Release : 2020-08-22

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ARE YOU A CHILD OR AN ADULT EMOTIONALLY NEGLECTED BY YOUR FOLKS? KEEP READING!! Did you grow up with an emotionally unavailable, or self-centered parent? Over time you may have encountered and endured feelings of anger, rejection, betrayal, or abandonment arising from the sense of emotional neglect by your parents. your childhood might have been a time when your emotional, psychological and mental needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed and played down on, or when you started early in life as a child to assume adult responsibilities due to emotional detachment of your folks. These are wounds that have stayed over time in your heart that you might have thought it will be difficult or impossible to heal, hence developing some unintended hate and indifference towards your folks. However, the emotional injury can be healed, and you can move forward in your life understanding your parents the more. In this amazingly insightful book, Bella Gibson Anderson with her wealth of knowledge as a family therapist in the United States of America has exposed the complicated nature of parents who are emotionally unavailable for their children. Due to popular demands, she tried her best in creating a lasting solution to the emotional problems of people, (both adults and children) who feel cheated damaged by their parents hence the publication of Secrets to coping with emotionally unavailable parents. Secrets to coping with emotionally unavailble parents will help you to discover amazing simple and practicable secrets that can help both the children of the emotionally unavailable parents and the parents of such victims in making amends. This is because most of these parents where also victims of parental neglect and dismissiveness. In this book, you will discover: How to identify emotionally unavailable parents The effects of having emotionally detached/unavailable parents. Grown-up practices or attributes of people who had emotionally distant parents. The lasting secret but practicable solutions to this disorder. In Short: this book is amazing and good for parents who wants to understand why they act in certain unlikable manners towards their children, children who wants to heal from the effects of emotional unavailability of their parents and soon to be parents who do not want to make the mistakes of their parents with their own children. Give your heart a chance of healing by getting this book. Amazing results awaits you. Kindly scroll up and click on the BUY button to have your own copy.



Daughter Detox

Author : Peg Streep

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Page : 272 pages

File Size : 34,60 MB

Release : 2017

Category : Mothers and daughters

ISBN : 9780692973974

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A self-help book based in science, the result of more than a decade of research, Daughter Detox offers the daughters of unloving mothers vital information, guidance, and real strategies for healing from childhood experiences, and building genuine self-esteem. Writer Peg Streep lays out seven distinct but interconnected stages on the path to reclaim your life from the effects of a toxic childhood: DISCOVERY, DISCERNMENT, DISTNGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, and RECOVER. Each step is clearly explained, and richly detailed with the stories of other women, approaches drawn from psychology and other disciplines, and unique exercises. The book will help the reader tackle her own self-doubt and become consciously aware of how her mother's treatment continues to shape her behavior, even today. The message of the book is direct: What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort. The book begins with DISCOVERY, opening up the reader's understanding of how she has been wounded and influenced by her mother's treatment. Recognizing the eight toxic maternal behaviors-dismissive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unreliable, self-involved or narcissistic, combative, enmeshed, or role-reversed-lays the foundation for the daughter's awareness of how her way of looking at the world, connecting to others, and ability to manage stress were affected. DISCERNMENT delves into the patterns of relationship in her family of origin and how they played a part in her development, and then shifts to looking closely at how the daughter adapted to her treatment, either silencing or losing her true self in the process. Next up is DISTINGUISH, seeing how the behavioral patterns we learned in childhood animate all of our relationships in the present with lovers and spouses, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. The act of distinguishing allows us to see why so many of us end up in unsatisfying relationships, chose the wrong partners, or are unable to develop close friendships. Active recovery begins with DISARM as the daughter learns how to disconnect unconscious patterns of reaction and behavior and substitute actions that will foster the growth of self-esteem. Understanding the triggers that set us off, the cues that put us on the defensive, and the default positions of blaming ourselves and making excuses for other people's toxic behavior are addressed, as are unhealthy behaviors such as rumination, rejection sensitivity, and more. RECLAIM is the stage at which the reader begins to actively make new choices, preparing herself so that she can live the life she desires by seeing herself as having agency and being empowered. Making new choices and figuring out how to manage her relationship to her unloving or toxic mother is the focus of REDIRECT. There are stories to inspire and challenge your thinking, exercises that show you how to swap out self-criticism for self-compassion, guidance on how to use journaling as a tool of self-discovery and growth, and advice on goal setting.Finally, RECOVER challenges the reader to come up with a new definition of what it means to heal, suggests tools to overcome the obstacles she places in her own way, and strategies to become the best, most authentic version of herself.



Making Peace with Your Parents

Author : Harold H. Bloomfield

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Page : 246 pages

File Size : 50,61 MB

Release : 1985

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 9780345309044

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"No one book resolves a lifetime of hurts and misunderstandings, but it can remove the blinders from our eyes. Make an effort now." LOS ANGELES TIMES No matter how old you are and whether or not your parents are alive, you have to come to terms with them. This wise and practical book will show you how to deal with the most fundamental relationships in your life and, in the process, become the happy, creative, and fulfilled person you are meant to be.



Healing for Daughters of Emotionally Absent Fathers

Author : Vincenzo Venezia

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Page : 223 pages

File Size : 42,53 MB

Release : 2023-05-23

Category : Family & Relationships

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Has your father caused you immense pain? Did the man who was supposed to cherish, support, and shield you from harm inflict traumas that still impact your life today? Do you find yourself struggling daily to recover from the harm he has caused? Growing up as a daughter with an emotionally distant father can be a challenging and isolating experience; you may suffer from low self-worth, anger, depression and feelings of worthlessness. There are numerous ways in which fathers can be emotionally detached from their daughters, such as through divorce, career obligations, military service, addictions, severe physical or mental illness or even death. It is possible that such men are narcissists who constantly criticised you, attempted to manipulate and control you, or were abusive. Alternatively, they could have been old-fashioned fathers who communicated their desires through actions rather than words. Perhaps they were unresponsive when you needed them the most. They may have provided for your basic needs but were otherwise absent. Adult daughters with emotionally distant fathers often recognise that something is amiss but fail to see the long-term consequences on themselves, their romantic relationships, their friendships and their professional lives. Consider reading this book if you identify with any of these behaviours in your father: · They only acknowledge your physical needs, not your emotional ones. · They speak to you in a monotonous, disinterested voice. · They make harsh and critical remarks. · They do not listen or show interest in your life. · They never praise or celebrate your accomplishments. · They never spend time alone with you. · They rarely express affection through hugs or smiles. · They are preoccupied when with you, due to work, TV, or their phone. · They struggle with addiction to alcohol or other substances. · They prioritise unnecessary expenses over your needs. · They are unable to manage their emotions or express their feelings. · They are defensive and reluctant to accept differing opinions. · They blame you for their shortcomings or errors. · They refuse to take accountability for their actions. · They deny reality when confronted about their behaviour, making you feel irrational. These are just a few examples of the most prevalent indicators. Family dynamics can be complex and diverse. The damaging effects of an emotionally absent father are rarely discussed. It is crucial to bring attention to these types of fathers! You may be experiencing the following as a result: · Anger and disappointment due to the lack of affection and support you deserved. · Feelings of being unloved, inadequate, and worthless. · Isolation, without the support of a network of caring family members. · Confusion regarding your experiences and emotions. In romantic relationships, women with absent fathers may recreate past patterns, struggling to form lasting connections with partners who don't value or respect them. Can you heal from the unseen childhood wounds caused by an emotionally absent father? Thankfully, this guide offers methods to enable you to recognise and break negative patterns while fostering healthier ones that suit you. It is crucial to do this for yourself, your loved ones and your future children. This book was written for you and it will aid your healing process.



Understanding the Borderline Mother

Author : Christine Ann Lawson

Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield

Page : 350 pages

File Size : 10,99 MB

Release : 2002

Category : Borderline personality disorder

ISBN : 0765703319

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Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.



Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Author : Lindsay C. Gibson

Publisher : New Harbinger Publications

Page : 284 pages

File Size : 13,23 MB

Release : 2015-06-01

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 162625172X

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Now a New York Times bestseller! If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory



Absent

Author : Olivia K Rice

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Page : 180 pages

File Size : 43,75 MB

Release : 2021-03-03

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What the kid inside you was never told about healing from abuse... Do you feel like your relationship with your parents is always bringing you down? Do they blame you for their problems, for being a thorn in their shoes, always endeavouring to make you feel like the most massive burden they've ever had to carry? Do they want to control all aspects of your life, continually being dissatisfied with the choices you make? Do they tend to humiliate and manipulate you, making you feel like nothing you do is good enough, that none of your efforts pay off, all while making themselves out to be exceptionally gifted and talented? Abusive parents tend to share common traits--they are constantly negatively reactive, lack empathy, are extremely controlling, always critical, and continuously transfer blame to you. If your parent ticks any of those boxes, then you are likely already aware of who and what you're dealing with. But from here on, things can only get better if you let them. Did you know that an average of 6.6 million children are reported victims of abuse every year, and that about 80% of those people met the criteria for having at least one psychological disorder? Those numbers may seem alarming, but they only cover part of the whole reality. Unfortunately, very few of those people ever get the help and support they need to heal and move forward with their lives properly. This doesn't have to be the case for you, for it is never too late to work for a toxic-free life. Removing yourself from the status quo and accepting your current reality is the most powerful step you can take towards regaining your life--from there on, you will slowly but surely start disentangling the knots that have been holding you down. In Absent, you will discover: How to tend to your inner child, and give them the care and compassion they have always been longing for The art of letting go as a way to empower you on your healing journey The importance of self-compassion and how to effectively practice it to stop all forms of self-blame for things you never had any control over Why freeing yourself from anger and resentment will help you better understand and be more accepting of your parent's behaviour The secrets to self-love you should have learned long ago to offer yourself the best gift every person deserves A new perspective on the act of forgiveness that will finally give you the upper hand when your dealing with your parent(s) How to create a mental space to help you feel safe enough to face your most potent demons and succeed The most crucial thing you need to do to become entirely free of old patterns and finally make conscious choices out of love for yourself and not fear of your parents And much more. It's time to stop suffering from the consequences of past events you never even had control over, remove yourself from the fog that's been blinding your whole being, and step into a burden-free life. It may feel like too much to deal with at first, but all you need are small steps to feel tremendous change. As the saying goes, "Little strokes fell great oaks." If you're ready to explore the deepest and darkest parts of your childhood and come out empowered, then scroll up and click the "Add to Cart" button right now.



Toxic Parents

Author : Susan Forward

Publisher : Bantam

Page : 322 pages

File Size : 47,85 MB

Release : 2009-12-16

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 0307575322

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BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.



The Emotionally Absent Mother, Second Edition: How to Recognize and Cope with the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect (Second)

Author : Jasmin Lee Cori

Publisher : The Experiment, LLC

Page : 353 pages

File Size : 14,56 MB

Release : 2017-04-18

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 1615193839

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The groundbreaking guide to self-healing and getting the love you missed “Years ago, I was on vacation and read The Emotionally Absent Mother. That book was one of many that woke me up. . . . I began the process of reparenting and it’s changed my life.”—Dr. Nicole LePera, New York Times–bestselling author of How to Do the Work Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects. Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains: Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children).



Secret Pains

Author : Judith G. Arndell Psy D.

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Page : 104 pages

File Size : 10,48 MB

Release : 2008-08-01

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 9781434392381

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Secret Pains gives hope for persons who were left behind by migrating parents or just simply abandoned by a parent. This book focuses on how the unresolved hurts and emotional pains resulting from abandonment affect your personality, your relationships, and your adult life. It offers tools, strategies, and insights for letting go of past anger and emotional pains and recommendations for embracing a happier and more fulfilled life.