What Does a Real Man Look Like?


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An email I received from a frustrated woman, and the circumstances I faced in my life, inspired me to write this book. The email read: "Hello, Enrique. My name is Brittany {name changed for privacy}. I am looking for real love. I am so hurt and frustrated. My last three relationships have sucked the life out of me. I am just sick, tired, and fed the heck up!!! One guy was married and never told me, the other ran up my credit cards, and the other is on the down-low {Living a gay lifestyle}. I had no idea. What does a real man look like? Please help me. I am a frustrated woman with a major issue. Brittany"What Does A Real MAN Look Like? This question is the million-dollar inquiry. Surprisingly, it is asked by as many men as women. Quite a few ladies are experiencing tremendous pain because they are involved with men, who have no real sense of being a responsible man. To make matters worse, society gives us conflicting messages, regarding this issue. The quest to discovering a real man is dark, troubling, and painful. What Does A Real MAN Look Like? Quite often, this question is answered with physical descriptions, such as tall, dark, handsome, blond hair, or blue eyes. Society is so fixated with the physical appearance of people, that we overlook, or pay very little attention to their emotional, mental, and spiritual state.Genuine beauty is on the inside of an individual, not on the outside. A person can have stunning features, yet, have an unattractive heart. Let us follow the model that is laid out for us by God. "But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" {1st Samuel 16:7 AMP}.What Does A Real MAN Look Like? This question echoed in my mind. The haunting sounds steered me, in the wrong direction. I was intrigued by drug dealers, womanizers, and men who represented power. Having the example or experience with a positive male is vital when a boy is in search of his identity. I became those who I admired. Living out my daydreams was a complete nightmare. The roller coaster ride was far from fun and joyous.The stomach-turning journey became unbearable, resulting in me becoming depressed and suicidal. I was filled with constant frustration because I was trying to do the right thing, but I kept failing, no matter how hard I worked. It is difficult to know what is right if you were never introduced to the rules for good living. This statement is not an excuse. I am not attempting to hide behind my shortcomings. Simply put, my life was on the job training, and my wife was on the verge of saying those dreadful words, "You are fired." I should have been fired. I was doing a terrible job at being a responsible adult and a good husband. I struggled with my transformation; however, I was determined to change my ways for the better, and become - "A Real MAN."I did not write this book to bash men or to pat myself on the back. I wrote this book to be helpful. For this reason, I exposed it all - the good, the bad, the ugly, my losses, and my gains. Many have tried and failed to define a real man. The information I am going to share with you has changed my life for the better. I am excited for you because it is going to change your life for the better as well.My journey led me to the most significant discovery in the world - the love of God. For the first time in my life, I surrendered to the Father, Who loves me more than I could ever imagine. His love for me is the reason why I made this life-changing conversion. It is the reason why I wrote this book. The love He has for you has drawn you to this book, and it is the reason why you are reading it.I encourage you to allow this book to read you, as you read it. If you do, you are going to unearth priceless treasures that are buried within!




The 5 Masculine Instincts


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Don’t trust your instincts—there is a better path to becoming a better man. It’s no secret: today’s men face a dilemma. Our culture tells them that their instincts are either toxic or salvific. Men are left with only two options: deconstruct and forfeit masculine identity or embrace it with wild abandon. They’re left to decide between ignoring their instincts or indulging them. Neither approach helps them actually understand their own masculine experiences nor how those experiences can lead them to become better men of God. The Bible doesn’t shy away from the reality of masculine instincts nor all of the ways those instincts can lead to destruction. Examining the lives of five men of the Bible, The 5 Masculine Instincts shows that these men aren’t masculine role models or heroes but are men who wrestled with their own desires and, by faith, matured them into something better. Through this book you’ll discover your own instincts are neither curse nor virtue. They are the experiences by which you develop a new and better instinct—an instinct of faith. By exploring sarcasm, adventure, ambition, reputation, and apathy, The 5 Masculine Instincts shows you how to better understand yourself and how your own instincts can be matured into something better. This is the path by which we become better men.




True Love Dates


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It is possible to find true love through dating. In True Love Dates, Debra Fileta encourages singles not to "kiss dating goodbye" but instead to experience a season of dating as a way to find real love. Through powerful, real-life stories and Fileta's personal journey, this book offers profound insights from the expertise of a professional counselor. Christians are looking for answers to finding true love. They are disillusioned with the church that has provided little practical application in the area of love and relationships. They're bombarded by Christian books that shun dating, idolize courting, fixate on spirituality, and in the end, offer little real relationship help. True Love Dates provides honest help for dating by providing a guide into vital relationship essentials. Debra is a professional Christian counselor who reaches millions with her popular blog, Truelovedates.com, and her book offers sound advice grounded in Christian spirituality. She delivers insight, direction, and counsel when it comes to entering the world of dating and learning to do it right the first time around. Drawing on the stories and struggles of hundreds of young men and women who have pursued the search for true love, Fileta helps readers bypass unnecessary pain while focusing on the things that really matter in the world of dating.




The Guy's Guide to Feminism


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Written by and for men, the ultimate guide to becoming a strong male ally in the 21st century In just one generation, age-old ideas about women have been swept aside . . . but what does that have to do with men? Authors Michael Kaufman and Michael Kimmel, two of the world's leading male advocates of gender equality, believe it has everything to do with them -- and that it's crucial to educate men about feminism in order for them to fully understand just how important and positive these changes have been for them. Kaufman and Kimmel address these issues in The Guy's Guide to Feminism. Hip and accessible, it contains nearly a hundred entries -- from "Autonomy" to "Zero Tolerance" -- written in varying tones (humorous, satirical, irreverent, thoughtful, and serious) and in many forms ("top ten" lists, comics, interviews, mini-stories, and more). Each topic celebrates the ongoing gains that are improving the lives of women and girls -- and what that really means for men. Informal and fun yet substantive and intelligent, The Guy's Guide to Feminism illustrates how understanding and supporting feminism can help men live richer, fuller, and happier lives.




Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others


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A groundbreaking book--based on years of the same thorough research that made the "Dress For Success" books national bestsellers--about how women can statistically improve their chances of getting married.




Becoming a Man


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A “scrupulously honest” (O, The Oprah Magazine) debut memoir that explores one man’s gender transition amid a pivotal political moment in America. Becoming a Man is a “moving narrative [that] illuminates the joy, courage, necessity, and risk-taking of gender transition” (Kirkus Reviews). For fifty years P. Carl lived as a girl and then as a queer woman, building a career, a life, and a loving marriage, yet still waiting to realize himself in full. As Carl embarks on his gender transition, he takes us inside the complex shifts and questions that arise throughout—the alternating moments of arrival and estrangement. He writes intimately about how transitioning reconfigures both his own inner experience and his closest bonds—his twenty-year relationship with his wife, Lynette; his already tumultuous relationships with his parents; and seemingly solid friendships that are subtly altered, often painfully and wordlessly. Carl “has written a poignant and candid self-appraisal of life as a ‘work-of-progress’” (Booklist) and blends the remarkable story of his own personal journey with incisive cultural commentary, writing beautifully about gender, power, and inequality in America. His transition occurs amid the rise of the Trump administration and the #MeToo movement—a transition point in America’s own story, when transphobia and toxic masculinity are under fire even as they thrive in the highest halls of power. Carl’s quest to become himself and to reckon with his masculinity mirrors, in many ways, the challenge before the country as a whole, to imagine a society where every member can have a vibrant, livable life. Here, through this brave and deeply personal work, Carl brings an unparalleled new voice to this conversation.




Remaking Manhood


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Remaking Manhood is a collection of Good Men Project Executive Editor Mark Greene's most popular articles on American culture, relationships, family and fatherhood. It is a timely and balanced look at the life affirming changes emerging from within the modern men's movement."This is writing that unites men rather than dividing or exploiting them. It speaks to the very best part of men and asks them to bring that part to the fore-as fathers, as sons, as brothers, as husbands, as friends, as lovers, and as citizens of life." -Michael Rowe, author of Other Men's Sons"Read this book, but don't mistake it as a defense of men. Remaking Manhood is going to be considered a go-to piece of literature on the new "Male Revolution."" -Jason Grant, CityDadsGroup.com"Mark interweaves his own deeply personal stories with a salient and powerful deconstruction of manhood in America."-Lisa Hickey, CEO, Good Men Project




Real Men Don't Text


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Late-night texts. Mixed signals. Dead-end relationships. This doesn’t have to be your love life. Welcome to dating in the digital world—where phone conversations followed by dinner and a movie have been replaced by last-minute texts, ambiguous relationships, and vague group hangouts. While technology makes it faster and easier to connect than ever before, it has also created confusion . . . And heartbreak. Ruthie and Michael Dean have heard the same story from thousands of women: the disappearing men, the cryptic messages, the disappointing relationships, and the false intimacy of on-screen connection. In a no-holds-barred narrative style, the husband-and-wife team chronicles their dating mishaps, hilarious attempts to find love, and many mistakes—helping women understand just what men are thinking and how to attract Mr. Right. Real Men Don’t Text offers game-changing perspectives, bringing a fresh approach to love, sex, and dating. You don’t need to spend one more night staring at a phone screen. It’s time to take back your love life!




The Mask of Masculinity


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‘This is one of the most important topics today that seemingly no one is talking about: how men can take care of their emotional health in a 21st century that demands it. Crucial reading for any young or struggling man.’ - Mark Manson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck At 30 years old, Lewis Howes was outwardly thriving but unfulfilled inside. He was a successful athlete and businessman, achieving goals beyond his wildest dreams, but he felt empty, angry, frustrated, and always chasing something that was never enough. His whole identity had been built on misguided beliefs about what "masculinity" was. Howes began a personal journey to find inner peace and to uncover the many masks that men – young and old – wear. In The Mask of Masculinity, Howes exposes: · The ultimate emptiness of the Material Mask, the man who chases wealth above all things; · The cowering vulnerability that hides behind the Joker and Stoic Masks of men who never show real emotion; and · The destructiveness of the Invincible and Aggressive Masks worn by men who take insane risks or can never back down from a fight. He teaches men how to break through the walls that hold them back and shows women how they can better understand the men in their lives. It's not easy, but if you want to love, be loved and live a great life, then it's an odyssey of self-discovery that all modern men must make. This book is a must-read for every man – and for every woman who loves a man.




You Throw Like a Girl


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The former NFL quarterback examines the roots of masculinity gone awry and how it promotes violence against women. In You Throw Like a Girl, former Syracuse University quarterback and NFL veteran Don McPherson examines how the narrow definition of masculinity adversely impacts women and creates many “blind spots” that hinder the healthy development of men. Dissecting the strict set of beliefs and behaviors that underpin our understanding of masculinity, he contends that we don’t raise boys to be men, we raise them not to be women. Using examples from his own life, including his storied football career, McPherson passionately argues that viewing violence against women as a “women’s issue” not just ignores men’s culpability but conflates the toxicity of men’s violence with being male. In You Throw Like a Girl, McPherson leads us beyond the blind spots and toward solutions, analyzing how we can engage men in a sustained dialogue, with a new set of terms that are aspirational and more accurately representative of the emotional wholeness of men. “One of the most important books ever written by a former elite male athlete.” —Jackson Katz, author of The Macho Paradox “An essential exploration of what’s holding men and sports back—and how to overcome it.” —The Washington Post “Don McPherson is a quarterback for a wider community.” —Newsday “A crucial read for anyone interested in learning more about how sports culture informs limited definitions of masculinity, and how such definitions are destructive for boys and men, and dangerous to girls and women.” —The Undefeated (A Can’t Miss Book of 2019)