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Blindsided By His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity

Author : Dr. Caroline Madden, Marriage Therapist

Publisher : Train of Thought Press

Page : 92 pages

File Size : 50,29 MB

Release : 2016-05-15

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 0986148520

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Your husband cheated on you, and now you don't recognize yourself. You feel crazy.You are NOT crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband's betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience. You're hurting, this book can help. Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity expert and licensed marriage therapist describes: *12 Actions that will help you get back to the woman you were *Posttraumatic Affair Syndrome (PTAS) *7 Actions you want to take but should NOT (as They May Backfire Horribly) *Understand the thoughts that plague you *The stupid things your husband says and why he says it This book is geared towards helping you deal with your tumultuous emotions so that you make better, more rational decisions.



After a Good Man Cheats:

Author : Dr. Caroline Madden, Marriage Therapist

Publisher : Train of Thought Press

Page : 119 pages

File Size : 44,70 MB

Release : 2015-02-17

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 0990772861

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This book is a practical action plan that will walk you through the first stages after your wife has discovered your infidelity.You'll learn the things your wife is going to feel, say, and do, giving you the following:* Insight into what she is thinking and why this is so hard for her to get over* Practical advice so you know exactly what to do at this important stage* Actual scripts so you know what to say in response to very specific situations* Clear explanations as to why certain words and actions you think will be helpful might be making this worse* Two self-administered quizzes to help you determine why you cheated so that you can get a better understanding of what triggered your affair. Included at the appropriate points are scripts of what to say and why you need to say those words at that time. Do not just memorize these words and parrot them back to your wife. You have already lost her trust; if you start using words you don't normally use, you'll sound like you're faking it. You will want to translate the scripts into your own natural wording, using the meaning of each script as a launching pad for productive, healing dialogue with your wife.Also, other these other questions are answered:* She doesn't know. I feel guilty. Should I tell her the truth?* We aren't married yet? How does that impact recovering from the affair?* I didn't have a physical relationship with my Affair Partner, why is my wife so upset?* What is an Emotional Affair?



Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?

Author : Dr. Caroline Madden, Marriage Therapist

Publisher : Train of Thought Press

Page : 52 pages

File Size : 28,70 MB

Release : 2014-12-05

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 0990772845

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You always said if your man cheated, you'd leave him so fast his head would spin. But now that it's happened it's not so black and white, is it?Caroline Madden, MFT is an affair recovery specialist. She has over a decade of experience in helping couples challenged by infidelity in marriage and teaching women how to survive their husband's affair. In Fool Me Once, she shares the criteria she uses to determine if a man is truly remorseful and determined to save his marriage or if he will continue to cheat and hurt you.Here is some of the information she shares:* 5 Things That Look Suspiciously Like Your Spouse is Still Cheating (But He Probably Isn't)* 5 Signs You Should Consider Giving Him A Chance to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy After infidelity * 7 Signs He is Going to Cheat Again (And You Will Be Hurt Again)Infidelity is traumatic, and you need to take time to assess the situation. Fool Me Once will give you the tools you need to evaluate your relationship. It will help you determine whether you should trust your husband or not and decide if your marriage is worth saving.Don't Make a Decision Now That You'll Regret Later ! As they say "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."Infidelity, Divorce Advice, Affairs In Marriage, affair recovery



The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity

Author : Scott Haltzman

Publisher : JHU Press

Page : 336 pages

File Size : 34,33 MB

Release : 2013-06-01

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 1421409437

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The secret to surviving infidelity can be summed up in one word: trust. Along with changes in the workplace and the explosive growth of electronic communications, there has been a skyrocketing rate of infidelity. Today, up to forty percent of American marriages endure the pain of a cheating partner. The media is filled with stories of married politicians finding their “soul mates” and titillating instances of unfaithful celebrities. But in the homes of ordinary people everywhere, infidelity triggers complex emotions and events that affect everyone involved. Many marriage and personal therapists have adopted a “me first” mentality, prompting hurt spouses to end their relationships. Psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, retired Brown University professor, recommends exactly the opposite. The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity teaches both the victim and the perpetrator of infidelity how to acknowledge their feelings, reduce their sense of despair, and begin the difficult task of rebuilding a strong relationship. People who cheat act much like those who have other addictions, and brain scans of love-struck individuals show a dramatic increase in the release of dopamine, the same brain neurochemical associated with cocaine abuse. Haltzman does not excuse infidelity by labeling it a sex addiction; it’s not orgasm that drives a partner to cheat. Instead, Haltzman coins the term "flame addiction" to describe how, like a moth drawn to the light, people feel compelled to have extramarital intimacy despite all the negative consequences. People who have been cheated on feel shame, rage, and injured self-esteem. Many of them fear abandonment and find it hard to cope. When both partners have made a commitment to move forward together, however, Dr. Haltzman validates each person's feelings and puts them into perspective, offering sound advice on how to recover their equilibrium and reestablish a committed, trust-filled relationship.



Persuasive Acts

Author : Shari Stenberg

Publisher : University of Pittsburgh Press

Page : 455 pages

File Size : 47,34 MB

Release : 2020-03-03

Category : Language Arts & Disciplines

ISBN : 0822987511

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In June 2015, Bree Newsome scaled the flagpole in front of South Carolina’s state capitol and removed the Confederate flag. The following month, the Confederate flag was permanently removed from the state capitol. Newsome is a compelling example of a twenty-first-century woman rhetor, along with bloggers, writers, politicians, activists, artists, and everyday social media users, who give new meaning to Aristotle’s ubiquitous definition of rhetoric as the discovery of the “available means of persuasion.” Women’s persuasive acts from the first two decades of the twenty-first century include new technologies and repurposed old ones, engaged not only to persuade, but also to tell their stories, to sponsor change, and to challenge cultural forces that repress and oppress. Persuasive Acts: Women’s Rhetorics in the Twenty-First Century gathers an expansive array of voices and texts from well-known figures including Hillary Rodham Clinton, Malala Yousafzai, Michelle Obama, Lindy West, Sonia Sotomayor, and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, so that readers may converse with them, and build rhetorics of their own. Editors Shari J. Stenberg and Charlotte Hogg have complied timely and provocative rhetorics that represent critical issues and rhetorical affordances of the twenty-first century.



Surviving Infidelity

Author : Rona B. Subotnik

Publisher : Simon and Schuster

Page : 250 pages

File Size : 35,69 MB

Release : 2005-05-01

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 144052095X

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What Now? Nothing your marriage has sustained in the past compares to the pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal, rage, sadness, and jealousy is unlike anything you've experienced before. And yet it is possible to move forward, decide what to do in your marriage, and most important, heal. For more than 10 years, Surviving Infidelity has been offering sage advice and compassionate, nonjudgmental analysis. Based on the private practices of licensed marriage and family therapist Rona B. Subotnik and clinical psychologist Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D., this third edition has been completely updated and gives you strategies to: Understand the different kinds of affairs and why they happen, including Internet and emotional affairs Cope with your emotions, from grief to rage Repair the marriage if you choose to Learn what it takes to be a survivor Surviving Infidelity, 3rd Edition brings you the new hope and the empathy you need in this difficult time.



Surviving Your Worst Nightmare

Author : Patti Snodgrass

Publisher : Createspace Independent Pub

Page : 324 pages

File Size : 30,94 MB

Release : 2011-07-01

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 9781456334079

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“Your world has collapsed; your life dreams have crashed. It feels as if your heart has been wounded deeply—shattered—broken beyond repair. You wonder when your heart will stop bleeding. I understand. I too have stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now. Walk with me through the background stories of my personal experience with infidelity. I vulnerably share my private journal entries and short vignettes of how I survived my husband's betrayal. You will identify with my pain and confusion during the difficult stages of recovery. My story of survival is dramatic, hopeful, and instructive; it will help you as you process through the wide variety of emotions and if you choose, you can eventually move beyond the hurt and devastation that this nightmare has caused. It is possible to survive nightmares in the heart, and upon awakening, a new life will be waiting for you.”-Patti SnodgrassAuthor Patti Snodgrass shares the intimate details of her personal journey with infidelity and what it took to overcome her suffering. Patti's story of survival brings clarity and sanity to the emotional injuries caused by an unfaithful spouse and offers immeasurable hope to those whose hearts has been wounded by an act of betrayal. Candid journal entries are interspersed with engaging chapters, where, among other directives, readers are encouraged to be angry but also embrace a wide range of emotions on a journey towards recovery. Patti questions the past and ponders what might have been, but also brings clarity in being able to identify the truth behind the transgression in order for one to begin moving on. Snodgrass' main objective is to bring stability and hope to the wounded heart. In a very meaningful way, this resource is a guide to the aftershocks of infidelity. It's a true compass to help those in the midst of their own wilderness walk to know that they're not alone—that they will survive. With spirited encouragement Snodgrass provides fellow survivors a tremendous lifeline. Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is a dramatic, hopeful, and instructive guide that helps readers work through the wide variety of emotions and move beyond the hurt. Yes you are changed forever, but this is not fatal, and the journey chronicled in this book will help the wounded survive nightmares of the heart.



Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life

Author : Tracy Schorn

Publisher : Running Press Adult

Page : 240 pages

File Size : 26,22 MB

Release : 2016-05-10

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 0762459050

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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.



How to Catch a Cheating Spouse & Survive Infidelity

Author : Kristine C. James

Publisher : Enlightened Publishing

Page : 63 pages

File Size : 42,21 MB

Release : 2015-03-25

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN :

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Do you feel that your spouse or partner is cheating on you? Does he/she begin to act differently at home? Are you noticing your partner starts spending more time at work for no obvious reason? Is he/she suddenly having regular overnight business trips? Strange items on credit card or phone bills that your partner can't explain? No longer having intimacy or even sex drive like he used to? I myself know the sting of a cheating spouse. I had been with my first husband for over 6 years and I thought I knew him better than anyone. But it turned out I was more deceived than most of the people around him. But discovering infidelity is more than just a gut instinct - it is also a willingness to face the truth; a truth that can shatter everything you hold to be true. That alone can be a dark and fearful thing and requires a bravery you may not even know you have. And what do you do if your partner is cheating on you? Do you stay or leave? How do you handle the emotional stress? Fortunately for me, I have gone from the shock of discovering my ex-husband's cheating to full recovery from this nightmare to finding love and being happily married again. I am here to share my experience and everything I have learned throughout my journey. I have helped my friends with this knowledge and I know I can help you too. In "How to Catch a Cheating Spouse & Survive Infidelity", you will discover all the answers you need to uncover the truth and get through the heartbreak. Here's what you'll learn in this book: - Understand the tell tale signs of infidelity... - 3 little known, yet simple ways to know for sure if he/she is cheating... - Secrets from experts that few people ever know about... - 3 proven steps to understanding how to interpret the evidence... - 2 simple keys (that are right in front of your eyes) to housing finches in an aviary... - WARNING: 3 things you should never do when it comes to confronting a cheating partner... - You'll discover in just a few short minutes how to handle negative emotions... - 6 time tested and proven strategies for dealing with betrayal... - When to seek professional help when it comes to letting out your emotions... - 7 everyday but often overlooked tips and tricks for letting out your anger... - A pennies on the dollar approach to seeking help... - How often to investigate a cheater on your own... - How to create a support group... - The once famous but forgotten secret that instantly allows you to move on with your life after it is shattered by a cheating spouse... - And much more...



Surviving Infidelity

Author : Rona Subotnik

Publisher : Bob Adams Incorporated Publishers

Page : 196 pages

File Size : 27,95 MB

Release : 1994

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 9781558502994

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Drawing on their clinical experience, Subotnik and Harris offer a nonjudgmental and compassionate look at infidelity from the spouse's point of view, emphasizing practical approaches to recovery. Their work is certain to bring new hope to couples who confront these painful issues.