Author : Dee Brown
Publisher : Xulon Press
Page : 240 pages
File Size : 46,11 MB
Release : 2010-06
Category : Religion
ISBN : 1609573498
Help for women who are impacted by passive-aggressive men.
Author : Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW
Publisher : Sounds True
Page : 204 pages
File Size : 47,50 MB
Release : 2021-04-20
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 1683647696
Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.
Author : Andrea Brandt
Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 22,67 MB
Release : 2013-10-08
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 0393708462
Guidance for dealing with this common and frustrating form of behavior. Many people often say “yes” to something when they’d rather say “no.” They offer cooperation through words but follow up with how they really feel—in actions that contradict their words. That’s passive-aggression. At its heart, passive-aggression is about being untrue to oneself, which makes it impossible to have a clean relationship with others. Passive-aggression as a communication method doesn’t make someone “bad.” It is simply a strategy learned in childhood as a coping mechanism, a hard-to-break habit. Changing passive-aggressive behavior requires knowledge, tools, and practice, as outlined here. The book offers effective methods for transforming passive-aggression into healthy assertiveness to communicate in constructive ways through eight keys: Recognize Your Hidden Anger; Reconnect Your Emotions to Your Thoughts; Listen to Your Body; Set Healthy Boundaries; Communicate Assertively; Interact Using Mindfulness; Disable the Enabler; and Problem-Solve for Better Outcomes. Hands-on exercises are featured, enabling readers to better understand themselves.
Author : W. Robert Nay
Publisher : Guilford Press
Page : 273 pages
File Size : 44,28 MB
Release : 2010-04-22
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 1606236431
Has your relationship become a battlefield? Does your partner's sarcasm, irritability, or hostility make you wonder where the closeness and trust have gone—and how much more you can take? If anger is poisoning your relationship, this book offers a powerful antidote. Anger expert W. Robert Nay provides clear-cut, practical techniques for responding productively to inappropriate expressions of anger. Learn how anger gains a foothold in a couple's life, why your usual responses may unwittingly reward bad behavior, and how to stand up for yourself in ways that promote lasting change. Self-quizzes and step-by-step suggestions for dealing with different types of angry behavior are illustrated with true-to-life examples. Grounded in psychological science, the strategies in this book are simple yet surprisingly effective. Try them for yourself—and for the person you love. See also Dr. Nay's Taking Charge of Anger, Second Edition, which helps you understand and manage destructive anger in all its forms, and The Anger Management Workbook: Use the STOP Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior, which builds core anger management skills using interactive exercises.
Author : Rosie Peggy Greenwood
Publisher : owubooks
Page : 130 pages
File Size : 12,36 MB
Release :
Category : Psychology
ISBN :
In Breaking the Cycle: How to Heal Generational Trauma and Rewrite Your Story, Rosie Peggy Greenwood offers a compassionate and empowering guide to understanding and healing from the deep wounds of generational trauma. This transformative book explores how the unspoken pains and unresolved issues of our ancestors can shape our lives in profound ways, influencing our relationships, mental health, and overall sense of self. With a blend of personal stories, scientific research, and practical exercises, Greenwood provides readers with the tools they need to break free from the past and create a brighter, healthier future for themselves and future generations. Understanding Generational Trauma: Generational trauma, also known as intergenerational trauma, refers to the transmission of traumatic experiences and emotional pain from one generation to the next. It can manifest in various ways, such as patterns of abuse, addiction, anxiety, depression, and emotional disconnection, often without the individual understanding the root cause of their struggles. Breaking the Cycle delves into the science behind this phenomenon, drawing on research in epigenetics, psychology, and family systems theory to explain how trauma can be passed down through the generations and how it impacts our lives today. The Healing Journey: This book is not just about understanding trauma; it’s about healing it. Greenwood guides readers through a step-by-step process of identifying and addressing the generational patterns that may be holding them back. With chapters dedicated to self-awareness, mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), family systems therapy, and narrative therapy, Breaking the Cycle offers a comprehensive toolkit for healing. Each chapter is filled with practical exercises, reflection prompts, and actionable strategies designed to help readers uncover hidden wounds, challenge limiting beliefs, and rewrite their personal and family narratives. Inspiring Stories of Transformation: Throughout the book, readers will find inspiring stories of individuals and families who have successfully broken the cycle of generational trauma. These stories illustrate the diverse paths to healing and demonstrate that transformation is possible, no matter how deep the pain or how long the trauma has been present. By sharing these real-life examples, Greenwood offers hope and encouragement, showing that it is possible to overcome the past and build a new legacy rooted in resilience, empowerment, and love. Building a New Legacy: Breaking the Cycle is also a guide to building a new legacy—one that is free from the constraints of the past and rich with possibility for the future. Greenwood emphasizes the importance of cultivating positive habits, establishing healthy relationships, and engaging in communities that foster growth and healing. The book provides specific guidance for parents on how to raise children in a way that prevents the transmission of trauma, ensuring a healthier emotional and psychological environment for the next generation. A Lifelong Commitment to Healing: Healing from generational trauma is not a one-time event; it is a lifelong journey. Breaking the Cycle reinforces the idea that healing is a continuous process, with its own set of challenges and rewards. Greenwood encourages readers to stay committed to their path of transformation, offering words of empowerment and hope. She reminds readers that they have the power to change their story, break free from the past, and create a future that is defined by strength, resilience, and hope. Who Should Read This Book: Breaking the Cycle is for anyone who feels burdened by the weight of their past or the struggles of their family history. Whether you are aware of the trauma in your lineage or have only recently begun to explore these issues, this book offers valuable insights and tools for healing. It is also an essential resource for therapists, counselors, and mental health professionals who work with clients dealing with generational trauma. Conclusion: In Breaking the Cycle: How to Heal Generational Trauma and Rewrite Your Story, Rosie Peggy Greenwood offers a compassionate, insightful, and practical guide to breaking free from the chains of generational trauma. With a focus on empowerment and transformation, this book provides readers with the knowledge, tools, and inspiration needed to heal from the past and create a legacy of hope, strength, and resilience for future generations. Whether you are at the beginning of your healing journey or well on your way, this book will serve as a trusted companion, guiding you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.
Author : Scott Wetzler
Publisher : Simon and Schuster
Page : 214 pages
File Size : 23,26 MB
Release : 2011-01-18
Category : Psychology
ISBN : 145164017X
With more than 100,000 copies in print, Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man draws on case histories from clinical psychologist Scott Wetzler’s practice to help you identify the destructive behavior, the root causes and motivations, and solutions. Do you know one of these men? The catch-me-if-you-can lover... Phil’s romantic and passionate one minute, distant and cold the next. The deviously manipulative coworker or boss... Jack denies resenting Nora’s rapid rise in the company, but when they’re assigned to work together on a project, he undermines her. The obstructionist, procrastinating husband... Bob keeps telling his wife he’ll finish the painting job he began years ago, but he never seems to get around to it. These are all classic examples of the passive-aggressive man. This personality syndrome—in which hostility wears a mask of passivity—is currently the number one source of men’s problems in relationships and on the job. In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, Scott Wetzler draws upon numerous case histories from his own practice to explain how and why the passive-aggressive man thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Dr. Wetzler also offers advice on: • How to avoid playing victim, manager, or rescuer to the “P-A” • How to get his anger and fear into the open • How to help the “P-A” become a better lover, husband, and father • How to survive passive-aggressive game playing on the job Living with a man’s passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But armed with this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings.
Author : Patrick M. Reilly
Publisher :
Page : 68 pages
File Size : 28,23 MB
Release : 2002
Category : Anger
ISBN :
Author : Beverly Engel
Publisher : Wiley + ORM
Page : 224 pages
File Size : 20,52 MB
Release : 2015-10-23
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 1119235146
This “clear, empathetic self-help book . . . is an excellent choice for readers who come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future”(Publishers Weekly). If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support. Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family. “A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees.” —Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That? “In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel . . . offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships.” —Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail
Author : Sharon Rivkin
Publisher : Rowman & Littlefield
Page : 241 pages
File Size : 35,43 MB
Release : 2009-10-01
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 0762758171
Revealing where the real conflict lies in a relationship—and resolving it * Breaking the Argument Cycle is a book for all those who've ever found themselves arguing with their significant other, again and again, about money, sex, or even a seemingly trivial topic—when, at its core, the conflict is about something completely different. A longtime marriage and family therapist, Sharon Rivkin has helped hundreds of couples fix their relationships by understanding why they fight. Here, she shows how anyone can use the tools of therapy to break the cycle of destructive fighting—namely, by resolving the core issues of early arguments, which have their roots in childhood and get repeated over time. Presenting real-life stories and easy exercises, Rivkin sets forth a simple, three-step process—Peel, Reveal, Heal—to empower couples to identify and then resolve their core issues themselves, shedding light on what they're really arguing about. This is then followed up with healing exercises. By thus breaking the argument cycle, confusion and chaos turn into clarity and healing—and everyone can learn how and why they get hooked into an argument, how to unhook, and how to develop lasting tools to turn conflict into intimacy . . . even after years of fighting.
Author : Peter Banning
Publisher : Xlibris Corporation
Page : 258 pages
File Size : 32,95 MB
Release : 2000-09-01
Category : Self-Help
ISBN : 1469111276
This book presents a fresh look at stopping the cycle of child molestation by attacking the source, the child molester, instead of trying to deal with the end product of abuse, the victim/survivor. The book is broken into two parts. Chapters 1 through 4 address the issues of the child molestor and what can be done to stop the molestor's cycle of abusing children. Chapters 5 through 8 are to help those who are dealing with either the offender or the survivor of the child sexual abuse. Parents of sexually abused children may find the answers they are seeking. Spouses of offenders may come to understand a part of their offending spouse that has been a dark mystery. Various victims of sexual abuse should find this book of interest. It deals with the offenders of sexual abuse and what can and should be done to stop them. This is done by exposing the faulty logic used by offenders. It attacks their basic personality, life style, and erroneous thought processes. There is no attempt to justify the behavior of the child offender. There is no softening of the effect of the abusers' past behavior. It exposes the make-up of the offender and suggests a path of recovery from this dysfunctional behavior. This approach opens a door long closed to look beyond the therapeutic treatment of child molesters to reveal what works and what does not and why. The hope is to develop answers for the generic question many victims ask - "WHY?", as well as answer the specific question - "WHY ME?" Although a lot of research has been done on this subject, this book is not one of theory but of experiences. It relates to the therapeutic experience with examples. This should not be considered a 'How-to' book but more a guide for those wanting to recover. This book also addresses the concerns of those close to the offender. If you have been thrown into having to deal with child sexual abuse, you will find answers to many of your questions. What you can or should expect from the legal system, from therapy, from social welfare department is discussed. It addresses such questions as "Why didn't I see it?" or "How could they!?!" in a light seldom revealed. Some questions as "Will I ever be 'normal'?" or "Will anyone ever be able to love me for who I really am?" are on the minds of offenders and victims. Some of these answers lie within this book. A very fundamental area facing the issue and treatment of sexual abuse is gender. Historically, the male is the stereotypical abuser and the female is the stereotypical victim. This is one of the many myths of childhood sexual abuse. Female child molestors make up almost 40% of the child molesting population. For every two girls sexually abused slightly more than one boy is abused. While the book was written with stereotypical male offender in mind, it can be used by female child molestors and male victims. This book tries to address the gender problem by avoiding gender terms unless appropriate. Avoiding gender terms is not possible without some redefinition of the use of pronouns. The only non-gender singular possessive pronoun is its. This is also a non-human possessive term and inappropriate in describing the issues of already wounded individuals. The non-gender pronouns used throughout this book are they, them, their which are normally used as plural forms. In this book, these terms are used as non-gender singular as well as non-gender plural forms. While this is not proper usage, the narrative is easier to read than if the alternate forms of s/he or he/she or his/hers were used. There is no easy solution to this problem. Examples and experiences used to demonstrate a point may be a composite of experiences from various victims and offenders. The names used have been changed unless permission was granted otherwise. Gender terms used in the examples are correct. Abstr
