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Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships

Author : Darlene Lancer

Publisher : Carousel Books

Page : 183 pages

File Size : 43,64 MB

Release : 2022-04-18

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN :

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Do you feel trapped between your love and your pain, long for peace but feel exhausted, belittled, and confused by a narcissist? The core problem in relationships with narcissists is that they prioritize power and sacrifice the relationship to get it, while their partners prioritize the relationship and sacrifice themselves to keep it. Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist is unique among voices that exhort leaving a narcissist. It’s insightful, researched, and empathetic and offers hope and help for loved ones to restore their self-esteem and rebalance a narcissistic relationship. It includes Essential Tools for Staying or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships and provides an in-depth analysis of the relationship, how to make changes, and how to assess its prognosis. This workbook is packed with healing exercises and checklists to enlighten and motivate you. It suggests lists of actions, including a strategic, step-by-step plan with scripts to confront abuse and get your needs met. You will reclaim yourself and improve your relationship, whether the narcissist is your partner, parent, child, sibling, or co-worker or doesn’t have a narcissistic personality disorder. In sum, you will better your relationship with yourself and your loved one and be able to determine whether and how to leave the relationship. You will: Discover the diagnosis, type, and deep motivations of a narcissist Recognize the red flag when dating a narcissist and know what to do Identify narcissistic behavior and know how to handle it Understand your role and attraction to a narcissist Regain your autonomy and self-esteem Rebalance the power in the relationship Learn how to confront abuse effectively Be able to assess your relationship and be prepared to leave Chapter 1 examines a narcissistic personality disorder, the different types of narcissists, including narcissistic parents, and the cause and signs of narcissism. Chapter 2 focuses on the underlying features, behaviors, motivations, and traits. You will discover how to identify the type you’re dealing with, and why narcissists act the way they do. Chapter 3 explains narcissistic defenses and all varieties of narcissistic abuse because it’s imperative to spot even in most subtle forms of abuse. Chapters 4 and 5 look at the typical personality of people who love narcissists and what makes them susceptible to narcissists and abuse. This is where personal growth lies. The next four chapters center on the relationship, starting with the mutual attraction and the signs and problems that arise when dating and loving a narcissist. Chapters 6 and 7 cover issues such as control, intimacy, emotional unavailability, love-bombing, ghosting, and gaslighting. Chapter 7 explores how to determine whether a narcissist is even capable of love. If you’ve been repeatedly emotionally abandoned, you’ll learn the warning clues to prevent its recurrence. Chapters 8 and 9 are about taking action. Changing the balance of power is essential. A blueprint is laid out for you to follow in order to change the relationship dynamics. Chapter 9 details a step-by-step game plan to effectively communicate with the narcissist in your life and confront their defenses and subtle forms of emotional abuse. Scripts are suggested you can practice to set boundaries and ask for changes that you want. It also offers advice for navigating couples therapy. Chapters 10-12 discuss leaving your relationship and moving on. They examine why it’s so difficult, what to expect, such as trauma bonds, grief, and hoovering, plus provide practical advice regarding flying monkey and divorce tactics with strategies you can implement. Finally, as you make a fresh start, the stages of recovery are set forth along with valuable guidance and recommendations for creating a single life that may include dating and therapy.



Conquering Shame and Codependency

Author : Darlene Lancer

Publisher : Hazelden Publishing

Page : 250 pages

File Size : 19,10 MB

Release : 2014-05-16

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 1616495332

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A nationally recognized author and codependency expert examines the roots of shame and its connection with codependent relationships. Learn how to heal from their destructive hold by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you, and lead to healthier relationships. Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed. For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships—where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another—often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors. Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be. In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.



Codependency For Dummies

Author : Darlene Lancer

Publisher : John Wiley & Sons

Page : 338 pages

File Size : 28,15 MB

Release : 2012-04-06

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 1118236874

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Codependency is much more widespread than originally thought. You don’t even have to be in a relationship. Codependents have trouble accepting themselves, so they hide who they are to be accepted by someone else. Codependency for Dummies is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. It describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency and provides self-assessment questionnaires. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and helpful daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. It clarifies deep psychological dynamics that underlie codependency, yet is written in a conversational style that’s easily understandable by everyone. You will learn: How to raise your self-esteem The difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking The difference between healthy and dysfunctional families How to set boundaries How to separate responsibility for yourself and for others How to overcome guilt and resentment



Toxic Love Disorder

Author : Linda Greyman

Publisher : Minds Journal Pvt Ltd

Page : 362 pages

File Size : 20,7 MB

Release : 2023-09-01

Category : Health & Fitness

ISBN : 8195537227

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'Toxic Love Disorder' is a groundbreaking book crafted with love by a team of reputed authors from around the globe. It offers a comprehensive guide to understanding, overcoming, and healing from toxic relationships. Love is intoxicating. So much so that we turn a blind eye to all the poison that seeps into the nooks and crannies of our mind, heart, body and soul, thanks to our toxic lover. We breathe in the toxicity to fill our hearts and as the darkness starts to engulf us, we slowly become suffocated. Struggling to breathe, ironically, we become addicted to this toxicity and accept what we have become - a desperate, codependent enabler in an abusive relationship. Yet, we ignore the red flags, silence our inner voices, tell ourselves that “this is not abuse” and try harder to make the relationship work. We keep trying harder to please our abuser. To have a little mercy. A little attention. A little validation. A little love. So that we can feel worthy. We are willing to tolerate all levels of abuse just for that little bit of love. In the intricate tapestry of unraveling toxic relationships, this book stands as a collaborative effort, woven together by the invaluable contributions of many skilled and insightful authors. Each author's unique perspective and expertise have enriched the pages within, shedding light on the complexities of toxic dynamics. Are you ready to imagine a future where you no longer settle for less, where toxic relationships are a thing of the past? 'Toxic Love Disorder' offers you the tools and guidance to make that dream a reality. This isn't just a book—it's your key to happiness and empowerment! Whether you are in a toxic relationship or know someone who is trapped in one, Toxic Love Disorder has been designed as a comprehensive encyclopedia on toxic and abusive relationships. The book allows you to take a deep dive and understand - How a seemingly healthy relationship turns toxic What toxic relationships consist of What lies at the heart of toxic relationships Why do toxic individuals abuse the people they seemingly love? Why the victim chooses to love and stay with their abuser What abuse looks like in toxic relationships How it can affect both the abuser and the abused How to deal with abuse and toxic patterns How to fix things finally, if at all What you can do to get out of a toxic relationship or help someone walk away We deconstruct the inner core of toxic relationships & delve deep into the psychology of the abuser and the abused to help everyone overcome toxic patterns and build a healthier relationship and a happier life for themselves. Dive into a journey towards transformation as you uncover the secrets to recognizing toxic patterns, fostering self-love, and building healthier connections. This book empowers you with practical strategies to break free from the chains of toxicity and discover the strength within you. May this book be a source of comfort, guidance, and inspiration to all who read it. We hope Toxic Love Disorder is everything you expect it to be and it offers you the help you need to transform your relationships and your life.



Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Author : Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D.

Publisher : Post Hill Press

Page : 271 pages

File Size : 45,4 MB

Release : 2015-11-24

Category : Family & Relationships

ISBN : 1618688774

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Narcissism is a modern epidemic, and it’s spreading rapidly. But how do you know if you are in a relationship with one—and, what can you do about it? We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us. There are a few hard facts about pathological narcissism that most people don’t know and most psychologists will never tell you. Should I Stay or Should I Go? uses checklists, clinical wisdom, and real stories from real people to prepare you for the real terrain of pathological narcissism. It raises the red flags to watch for and provides a realistic roadmap for difficult situations to help you reclaim yourself, find healing, and live an authentic and empowered life. Whether you stay. Or go.



"Don't You Know Who I Am?"

Author : Ramani S. Durvasula Ph.D

Publisher : Post Hill Press

Page : 373 pages

File Size : 49,48 MB

Release : 2019-10-01

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 168261753X

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“Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist. Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls. Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity—insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders. There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes. It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.



Dangerous Normal People

Author : L.K. Hawksby

Publisher : Grosvenor House Publishing

Page : 256 pages

File Size : 35,32 MB

Release : 2019-09-23

Category : Psychology

ISBN : 1786236028

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This memoir will take you on a remarkable and sometimes dark journey through a young woman’s two (very different) domestically abusive relationships. With her experience laid out in diary form, spanning November 2013 to early June 2016, the author reveals the subtle and not so subtle “red flag behaviours” of Casanova Psychopaths, Malignant Co-Dependents and the common Narcissist. The reader will also learn about the Narcissistic Virus and discover how sometimes victims can be so broken by NPD Abuse that sometimes the only way to survive is to burn all your bridges and walk into the fire with the Devil himself. The author did not escape unscathed. She suffered the Narcissistic Virus, gained criminal convictions and still displays many C-PTSD symptoms. This is an honest and impactful insight into her journey. This book is designed to be mainly educational so will suits not only victims and survivors but also professionals interested in making judicial, social care and health systems better. L.W. Hawksby is a “Ninja Donor”. She ensures that a percentage of the profits from the sale of her books is donated to human and animal focussed charities, each year on Halloween, which is the favourite time of year for Rufus, her youngest son, who has Asperger’s Syndrome.



Stop Hurting the Woman You Love

Author : Charlie Donaldson

Publisher : Simon and Schuster

Page : 179 pages

File Size : 39,91 MB

Release : 2010-06-28

Category : Self-Help

ISBN : 1592859631

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A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking. End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships.



Dating a Narcissist - The Brutal Truth You Don't Want to Hear

Author : Theresa J. Covert

Publisher :

Page : 143 pages

File Size : 20,44 MB

Release : 2019-09-30

Category :

ISBN : 9781696539265

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Still struggling from the effects of dating a narcissist ? Many people do and sadly there is very little information available to be found online or in the written research, or with counsellors and therapists that can help. Narcissistic Victim Syndrome is not officially recognised, nor is it widely even known. Even when it is accepted, recognised and known not many people seem to know what to DO ABOUT IT to heal it... The fact is being in a relationship with a narcissist over a long period of time has long lasting traumatic effects that can be extremely catastrophic to the person suffering them. Do the following symptoms sound familiar? - Ruined self confidence - Doubting yourself and your sanity - Mood swings - Sleeplessness - Extreme weight loss or weight gain - Uncharacteristic jealousy/ insecurity - Feeling like you don't know the difference between right and wrong - Extreme paranoia (being turned into an obsessive detective) - Endless, repetitive obsessive thinking about your ex - Constantly trying to find explanations for what has happened - Feelings of helplessness and despair - A desire to self isolate - Feeling desperately misunderstood - Overwhelming feelings of loss and grief - Extreme bouts of rage - An inability to be comfortable with yourself - Strange dreams - Sudden inexplicable anxiety followed by rapid dips into depression The list goes on.... You are dating a narcissist, and if you haven't figured it out already, they will never, ever change. You can stay in the relationship and be unhappy, or you can choose to never date a narcissist again. It is not easy, I know. Because I have been there. I was you. They are smart enough to know what you are looking for at the level of your core values and mold themselves to appear to represent that whilst provoking as much sympathy in you for them as they can. But beneath the mask of a shy, vulnerable and "good person" something far more sinister lurks. - A social chameleon who would wear a completely different identity depending on who they were talking to - A sneaky, underhanded way of operating in the world that ONLY those closest to them ever get a glimpse of - A person whose actions RARELY match their words! "They seemed so good-hearted and vulnerable, I just wanted to help..." "Maybe my ex is right, maybe it really is me...." "Am I just being paranoid?" "Nobody understands!" I can't tell you how many times I've had clients tearfully admit this to me in state of absolute despair. WHAT YOU NEED NOW: -Someone who has been through the same experiences you have and understands them from the inside. -Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create. I can't promise you that reading to this book is going to be a "total cure", but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILLIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, follow all instructions to the letter, with a tenacious resolve to get better you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first 24 hours and should see huge improvements within the first 3 days. This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly report What are you waiting for? Scroll Up, Click on the "Buy Now" button!



The Smart Girl's Guide to Self-Care

Author : Shahida Arabi

Publisher : Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

Page : 0 pages

File Size : 32,75 MB

Release : 2014-04-09

Category : Change (Psychology)

ISBN : 9781497489240

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The Smart Girl's Guide to Self-Care tackles the common problems of effective self-care with practical suggestions for practices that will create a sustainable, lifelong self-care routine. For those who are beginners to concepts like mindfulness, meditation, opposite action, positive rebellion, positive affirmations and radical acceptance, this book will provide a useful and comprehensive introduction. For those struggling from the trauma of emotionally abusive relationships, this book will guide you in recognizing the signs of abuse, creating a reverse discourse that challenges ruminations over the abuse, moving forward successfully after a break-up using no contact, and techniques on coping with trauma in constructive and meaningful ways. Each chapter of this book also provides a list of supplemental resources as well as a recommended reading list to guide you on this journey to greater self-love and self-care. Although this book is intended for everyone, its target audience is young women who are socialized to believe that their needs and wants don't matter and that their relationships with others are much more important than the relationship they have with themselves. In order to have healthy, happy relationships with others, we must first cultivate healthy, happy relationships with ourselves and eradicate the toxic habits that deplete us of the self-love and self-acceptance necessary for a fulfilling life. You may be wondering: How is it possible to banish the browbeating bully inside your own head, influenced by all the bullies you've encountered in real life? How do you learn how to be more present in the moment rather than ruminating over the pitfalls of your past? How do you learn to love yourself, despite all of the experiences that tell you you aren't even worthy of your own respect and appreciation? Using a patchwork of diverse techniques and practices, The Smart Girl's Guide to Self-Care answers these questions through a holistic program of tending to the mind, body and spirit in healthier and more productive ways, serving as the portal to immense healing and enabling you to stage your own recovery and victory in ways you never thought possible.