Skills and Knowledge for Life Story Work with Children and Adolescents


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Life story work allows care-experienced and adopted young people to understand their histories and come to terms with their feelings about the past. This accessible guide helps therapists and social care professionals to develop their skills to support children and families through their life story journey. It builds on the fundamental 6-step model for practice to incorporate elements from a variety of therapeutic approaches, from DDP to creative therapies. Theoretical explanations, case vignettes, and practical suggestions provide guidance on practice-based issues in life story work, such as working with parent/carer-child dyads, incorporating a birth family perspective, talking about traumatic stories, managing endings and constructing the life story book. Essential reading for anyone undertaking life story work, this guide enhances a time-tested model with up-to-date research and new ideas for overcoming the most common challenges practitioners face when delivering life story work.




Delly Duck: Why A Little Chick Couldn't Stay With His Birth Mother: A Foster Care and Adoption Story Book for Children, to Explain


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When Delly Duck lays an egg, she is excited for it to hatch. But she doesn't really know how to keep an egg safe, or how to look after her chick when he hatches. See how a concerned goose tries to help Delly to learn how to care for her chick, in this touching adoption story. Delly Duck: Why A Little Chick Couldn't Stay With His Birth Mother is intended to help support and stimulate discussion around some of the questions an adopted or fostered child (or another child trying to understand adoption) may have. The story can be used to help answer difficult and emotive questions, such as "Why can't I live with my birth mother?" and "Why didn't someone just teach her how to parent me safely?" No two adoption stories are the same, so symbolism has been used that is open to appropriate interpretation by the parent, social worker, play therapist, teacher or other adult reading this story with a child. The beautifully-illustrated story includes animal characters that may reflect common behaviours and responsibilities of several of the key people involved in an adoption process. Delly is a likeable duck, who sadly makes some poor choices and struggles to care for her chick in a consistently safe way. The book includes a helpful guide to the symbolism, with suggestions as to how the various metaphors can be used to support therapeutic life story work and answer questions about the challenges faced by a child's birth parents, such as memory or concentration problems, addiction and/or poor or inconsistent role models during their own childhoods. Above all, it portrays that all adults involved want the best for adopted children, and that they are so very loved.




Some Things Have Changed


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From the author of award-winning children's story books including Delly Duck, Room in the Nest and Cousins by Adoption comes another sensitively-crafted story to make difficult conversations easier. Little Chick couldn't live with his birth mother, Delly Duck, because she didn't look after him properly, or keep him safe, so he is surprised to hear that she has laid another egg, and this duckling will be staying with her! Little Chick has lots of feelings and questions about this confusing situation, which Quill answers to put his mind at ease. This story can be used to gently address some of the questions a care-experienced child may have when their biological mother makes the changes needed to be able to parent another child. This story is suitable for children who have adoptive families, long term foster carers, special guardians, kinship carers, connected carers and other friend-and-family carers. Praise for Room in the Nest"...This magnificent story shows sensitivity to the topic and complicated feelings surrounding foster care. She explains how the Caring Goose always tries to help the parents out first and give them guidance and that she is not trying to rip families apart but instead shows compassion and works to try and keep families together. Still, sometimes that is not always best for the children. Room in the Nest is a heartwarming picture book that teaches children about foster care, foster placements, long-term fostering, kinship care, reunification, adoption, and a broad look at family court. This is a beautiful story to share with children that have to go through this process to help ease their fears and for other children to understand what happens if someone they know goes into foster care. This honest and beautiful look at the system is a much-needed resource for families, teachers, social workers, and anyone working with troubled families." - Literary Titan "...Holly has taken a complex and emotionally charged concept and presented it in a way that children will appreciate and understand..." - Readers' Favorite "...Room in the Nest" is a great tool to use for life story work to start discussions about foster carers. It's also a great book for all children to read, to help them understand why some children need to stay with foster carers sometimes for a short period of time, sometimes for much longer." - We Made A Wish adoption magazinePraise for Delly Duck: Why A Little Chick Couldn't Stay With His Birth Mother"One of the best adoption books of all time" - BookAuthority "...a beautifully illustrated children's story book, explaining big issues like adoption and fostering, in an age appropriate way." - We Made A Wish adoption magazine "Delly Duck is a great choice for adopted and fostered children to explain adoption or support therapeutic life story work. The book can be used to help answer difficult and emotive questions..." - Maggie and Rose Book Adventurers "A fantastic book for Parents, Foster Parents, Adoptive Parents, Legal Guardians, Kinship Carers, Social Workers, Play Therapists or Teachers... I can thoroughly recommend this book to anyone who is adopting, fostering, or is a child's Legal Guardian... I love the way the book shows the love, and loss of the birth parent, and highlights the fact that sometimes a birth parent is simply not equipped with the necessary skills to keep their child safe consistently. This beautiful, sensitively written story explains why a child may need to be removed from their birth parent, and explores in a gentle way the emotions felt by parent and child, and the roles other people play in protecting the child, and offering the child a loving, safe environment..." - Icing on the Bake Please click on the series name to see more books by this author about foster care, kinship care, special guardianship and adoption.




We're All Not the Same, But We're Still Family


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This story was written for adoptive families to explore the benefits of adoption openness. The main character, Deshaun, loves his family but always wondered about his biological family. Does he look like them? Did they love him? With the support of his adoptive parents, Deshaun gets to meet his biological family. They develop an ongoing relationship, so Deshaun feels more stable in his adoptive family, but also develops a comfortable relationship with his birth family. Deshaun and his family are reminded (as we all are) that family can include biological, adopted, foster and kin members. After reading this book, a child and their family will be able to: Discuss feelings about adoption Imagine what openness might mean for them Acknowledge similarities and differences among family members Discuss if an expanded sense of family is possible for their circumstances "There are many children's adoption books that address the important themes of identity, attachment, grief and loss; however, very few approach the topic of openness for older children in the in-depth manner that Theresa and Eric do in their book. The emotions that Deshaun describes are typical of many adopted children and could help normalize universal feelings for young adoptees. I would highly recommend this book for all adopted children and will certainly be using it in my practice." --Tecla Jenniskens, M.S.W., R.S.W., adoption social worker "Many foster and adoptive parents fear the consequences of introducing their children to birth parents. This story offers a redemptive look at how parents can remain history keepers for their children by helping them answer important questions about themselves and their origins. This book is a beautiful example of how fearless curiosity and compassion can lead to increased coherence in a child's story and an expanded sense of family for everyone." --Paris Goodyear-Brown, LCSW, RPT-S, clinical director of Nurture House, executive director of the TraumaPlay Institute and author of A Safe Circle for Little U and Trauma and Play Therapy "We're All Not the Same, but We're Still Family is a lovely book that tackles issues adopted children really think about when they question their identity and place within a family. The authors describe the process of a boy's search for his biological family, with the full support of his adoptive parents, and the events that brought him into the child welfare system. The illustrator's rendition of the Skyped meetings between the two families is captivating, while the text gives careful attention to the unification process. I applaud the authors on their inclusion of realistic steps in this complicated process, as we witness a child's journey to find and complete his family." --Laurie Zelinger, PhD, ABPP, RPT-S, board certified psychologist and author of Please Explain "Anxiety" to Me! Learn more at www.TheresaFraser.com From Loving Healing Press www.LHPress.com




One Small Boat


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This story of one little girl's journey through our foster-care system forms an intimate portrait of foster care in America and the children whose lives are forever shaped by it. Augusten Burroughs called Kathy Harrison's memoir Another Place at the Table a "riveting and profoundly moving story of a hero, disguised as an everyday woman." In One Small Boat, Harrison tells the story of one little girl who arrived on her doorstep, and describes how caring for this child was an experience that challenged everything she thought she knew about foster-care parenting and the needs of the children she shelters. Daisy was five when she arrived in Harrison's bustling home. Mother of three children by birth and three by adoption, and with a handful of foster kids always coming and going, Harrison had ten children under her roof at any given time. But Daisy was in many ways unique. Daisy's birth mother wasn't poor, uneducated, or drug addicted. She simply couldn't bring herself to take care of her little girl, and the effects on the child were heartrending. Daisy was unwilling to eat—even frightened of it—and seemed to have a severe speech impediment. After two weeks in Kathy's loving home, however, Daisy began to thrive. What had happened to her? And how can a foster-care parent give back all that has been taken from a child like Daisy—knowing that she might leave one day very soon? Harrison had seen many children pass through her doors, but this one touched her in a way she didn't immediately understand. One Small Boat will be of deep interest to anyone who has nurtured and cared for a child or anyone interested in the intricate web that is our social welfare system.




Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born


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Tell me again about the night I was born. Tell me again how you would adopt me and be my parents. Tell me again about the first time you held me in your arms. Jamie Lee Curtis and Laura Cornell, author and illustrator of the best-selling When I Was Little: A Four Year Old's Memoir of Her Youth, have joined together again to create a fresh new picture book for every parent and every child. In asking her parents to tell her again about the night of her birth, a young girl shows that it is a cherished tale she knows by heart. Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born is a unique, exuberant story about adoption and about the importance of a loving family.




Room at the Table


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"That is when Holly really noticed his eyes for the very first time. How two eyes could hold so much of a story, she would never understand. It was as if in Joshua's brown eyes, there had been a window into his very world. Except this world seemed far too sad to enter... This world didn't contain sunshine and spring flowers. It didn't contain warm chocolate chip cookies and cool swims in the summer. It seemed... if she stayed lost in his eyes for too long that they may tell a story that she wasn't yet prepared to know." In Room at the Table, journey with the Watson family as they discover how hope can overcome heartache and love really can change the world!




Dennis Duckling


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The story of Dennis Duckling has been used by carers and childcare professionals for over 25 years. This newly illustrated edition is ideal for very young children who are leaving their birth families for the first time to be cared for by foster carers. Dennis is sad because his parents can no longer look after him. He goes to live on a river where he makes new friends and is cared for by other grown-up ducks. Through Dennis' story, this colourful picture book allows children to express some of the emotions they are feeling when faced with upsetting and confusing events.




Sweet Moon Baby: An Adoption Tale


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This is the story of one baby’s journey from her birth parents in China, who dream of a better life for their daughter, to her adoptive parents on the other side of the world, who dream of the life they can give her. A turtle, a peacock, a monkey, a panda, and some fish shepherd the baby as she floats in a basket on a moonlit, winding river into the loving arms of her new parents. Perfect for bedtime reading, Karen Henry Clark’s poetic text, reminiscent of a lullaby, and Patrice Barton’s textured and gentle-hued illustrations capture the great love between parents and children and the miraculous journey of adoption.




Conversations with Little Dude


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LD: Spittage is gross. S-P-I-T. See, it has spit in the name! Me: Actually, it’s SPIN-ach. Not spit-age. LD: Well, it ought to have spit in the name. Me: Why? LD: Because I would spit it out! Welcome to the Dude's Eye View. Little Dude arrived in his sixth (and final!) foster home at age 4. He brought with him a wicked sense of humor and a take on the world his foster parents had never heard before. From his unique perspective, you'll learn --the logic of lint traps --the necessity of bribing reindeer --why Girl Scout cookies are suitable for breakfast, and most of all --the importance of wearing a cape Along the way, you’ll see a lost little boy (and his mom!) navigate the emotional and complicated world of adoption from foster care.