Don't Do Stuff You Hate


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Forward by T.K. Coleman.When it comes to improving your life you're probably making it harder than it has to be. Stop focusing on what you want, what you love, what your calling or passion is. Start focusing on what you hate, what makes you bored, what's draining your sense of excitement. The best way to a life you love is simple: don't do stuff you hate.This book combines essays and insights from two authors who have put this philosophy into practice. It's a scattershot of ideas and practices for shedding the web of negative obligations, activities, and emotions so you can begin to build something better in its place.




Changepower!


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In Changepower! 37 Secrets to Habit Change Success, author Meg Selig guides readers through a step-by-step process that will help them achieve any habit change goal. Whether the reader wants to break a hurtful habit like smoking or overeating, or build a healthy habit like exercising or speaking up, Changepower! provides a springboard for change. Selig helps habit-changers move beyond willpower and succeed with changepower - the synergy that comes from combining willpower with other resources, useful outside supports, and wise strategies. In Changepower!, she shows habit-changers how to beef up both their willpower and their changepower to achieve habit change success. The key is revving up motivation. Selig reveals the most powerful motivators for change - pain motivators, the Eight Great Motivators, and even not-so-noble motivators. Research has shown that most changes take place in stages rather than overnight. Selig provides a step-by-step plan for each stage, leaving plenty of room for flexibility depending on each person’s needs. First-person stories, pithy quotes, and how-to exercises provide inspiration, humor, and encouragement as readers embark on their habit change journeys.




Living with Your Body and Other Things You Hate


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Let’s be honest: most people are unhappy with at least some aspect of their physical appearance. Just think of all the money we spend each year trying to improve our looks! But if worrying about your appearance is getting in the way of living, maybe it’s time to start thinking about body image in a completely new way. Based in proven-effective acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), Living with Your Body and Other Things You Hate offers a unique approach to addressing your struggle with body image. In this book, you will not be told that your self-perceptions are wrong, that your thoughts are irrational, or that your feelings are misguided. Instead, you will learn to live with the reality that these often painful thoughts and beliefs about yourself will arise from time to time, and that what is really important is accepting these distressing thoughts without allowing them to dominate your life. You know what it’s like to constantly be checking the mirror, to avoid certain social situations where your body may be exposed, or to gaze longingly at a fashion model in a magazine and think, “Why can’t I be her?” But what you may not know is that people who struggle with negative body image are at an increased risk for depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and low self-esteem. Body image problems can even lead to major financial issues. By focusing on your appearance and little else, you are hurting yourself in more ways than one. If you are ready to find a purpose in life that is more important than the pain you feel about your appearance, this book provides a truthful, powerful resource.




The Joy of Small Things


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'This book is a not-so-small joy in itself.' NIGELLA LAWSON 'Parkinson has the gift of making you look with new eyes at everyday things. The perfect daily diversion.' JOJO MOYES 'Always funny and frank and full of insight, I absolutely love Parkinson's writing.' DAVID NICHOLLS 'I loved this book . . . Parkinson's writing transports you to unexpected places of joy and comfort . . . these pages contain happiness.' MARINA HYDE 'The twenty-first century feels a lot more bearable in Parkinson's company.' CHARLOTTE MENDELSON Drawn from the successful Guardian column, these everyday exultations and inspirations will get you through dismal days. Hannah Jane Parkinson is a specialist in savouring the small pleasures of life. She revels in her fluffy dressing gown ('like bathing in marshmallow'), finds calm in solo cinema trips, is charmed by the personalities of fonts ('you'll never see Comic Sans on a funeral notice'), celebrates pockets and gleefully abandons a book she isn't enjoying. Parkinson's everyday exaltations - selected from her immensely successful Guardian column - will utterly delight. FEATURES BRAND NEW MATERIAL 'A compendium of delights.' OBSERVER 'Delightful . . . a love letter to those little moments of bliss that get us through the daily grind.' RED




Why You Behave in Ways You Hate


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Have you ever met anyone who didn't have some behavior he or she couldn't stand? Why do we so often continue to behave in ways that make us unhappy? Why don't we learn from our mistakes? Why does willpower fail? Have you adopted the qualities that you hated in your parents? Do you wonder why? Many of the available self-help books give advice and present general ideas about the cause of our problems but do not provide in-depth insight into the reasons behind our behavior. They don't tell us why it is so difficult to follow their advice or our own desires and to overcome our problems. Why You Behave in Ways You Hate does. Dr. Gootnick explains why children blame themselves for their parents' faults and how this creates hidden, destructive mind-sets that cause the behaviors that plague us. In a clear, straightforward way, he shows you how to see past the psychological blinders that make it difficult for you to see how these mind-sets operate and then to take effective action. Seven charts identify specific behaviors and allow you to look up your personal problem and understand at a glance how it originated or how you may have responded to it. Using individual personality profiles of you and your family members, you will be able to analyze what happened in the past and to institute changes in your thinking and behavior. In addition, because Why You Behave in Ways You Hate is based on family dynamics, it is an invaluable asset for parents working on problems they may have with their children. It will help break the generational cycle of doing to your children what was done to you. Who is this book for? Its for anyone who has difficulty in achieving success in school or a career, who repeatedly get involved in bad relationships, or who have trouble extricating themselves from abusive relationships. It also appeals to parents who have problems with their children, to those who feel insecure, inadequate, or depressed without cause, and to individuals who have problems with addictions or weight control, or who sacrifice their own interests for others.




How to Date Men When You Hate Men


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From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy philosophy book aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society. Blythe Roberson’s sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? With sections like Real Interviews With Men About Whether Or Not It Was A Date; Good Flirts That Work; Bad Flirts That Do Not Work; and Definitive Proof That Tom Hanks Is The Villain Of You’ve Got Mail, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a one stop shop for dating advice when you love men but don't like them. "With biting wit, Roberson explores the dynamics of heterosexual dating in the age of #MeToo" — The New York Times




Don't You Just Hate That?


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Perfect for the curmudgeon in all of us, a hilarious compilation of life's little annoyances chronicles the irritations and challenges of everyday life and provides the satisfaction that at least other people notice them too. Original.




I Can Make You Hate


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Would you like to eat whatever you want and still lose weight? Who wouldn't? Keep dreaming, imbecile. In the meantime, if you'd like to read something that alternates between laugh-out-loud-funny and apocalyptically angry, keep holding this book. Steal it if necessary. In his latest collection of rants, raves, hastily spluttered articles and scarcely literate scrawl, Charlie Brooker proves that there is almost nothing in this universe, big or small, that can't reduce a human being to a state of pure blind hatred. It won't help you lose weight, feel smarter, sleep more soundly, or feel happier about yourself. It WILL provide you with literally hours of distraction and merriment. It can also be used to stun an intruder, if you hit him with it correctly (hint: strike hard, using the spine, on the bridge of the nose). ONLY A PRICK WOULDN'T BUY THIS BOOK. DON'T BE THAT PRICK.




Everyone You Hate Is Going to Die


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One of this generation's hottest and boldest young comedians presents a transgressive and hilarious analysis of all of our dysfunctional relationships, and attempts to point us in the vague direction of sanity. Daniel Sloss's stand-up comedy engages, enrages, offends, unsettles, educates, comforts, and gets audiences roaring with laughter—all at the same time. In his groundbreaking specials, seen on Netflix and HBO, he has brilliantly tackled everything from male toxicity and friendship to love, romance, and marriage—and claims (with the data to back it up) that his on-stage laser-like dissection of relationships has single-handedly caused more than 300 divorces and 120,000 breakups. Now, in his first book, he picks up where his specials left off, and goes after every conceivable kind of relationship—with one's country (Sloss's is Scotland); with America; with lovers, ex-lovers, ex-lovers who you hate, ex-lovers who hate you; with parents; with best friends (male and female), not-best friends; with children; with siblings; and even with the global pandemic and our own mortality. In Everyone You Hate Is Going to Die, every human connection gets the brutally funny (and unfailingly incisive) Sloss treatment as he illuminates the ways in which all of our relationships are fragile and ridiculous and awful—but also valuable and meaningful and important.




The Tattered Banner


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-The Tattered Banner placed 8th on Buzzfeed's 12 Greatest Fantasy Books of 2013- Unique talent always attracts attention… In a world where magic is outlawed, ability with a sword is prized above all else. For Soren this means the chance to live out his dreams. Plucked from a life of privation, he is given a coveted place at Ostenheim’s Academy of Swordsmanship, an opportunity beyond belief. Opportunity is not always what it seems however, and gifts rarely come without conditions. Soren becomes an unwitting pawn in a game of intrigue and treachery that could cost him not just his dreams, but also his life. The Tattered Banner is the first book of the swashbuckling fantasy trilogy 'Society of the Sword'.