Finding My Boundaries


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The title is a double-entendre, because the main role of a land surveyor is to find the boundaries of property, but the author also describes how his life and morals were somewhat unbounded when he started into his career, but as he met more and more influential people, he began to find the moral and professional boundaries that helped form him into the surveyor he eventually became. It seems that surveying attracts some of the most fascinating characters. Most of the people I've worked with were good, competent professionals; but for some reason, the position of rodman/chainman-the entry-level position on the survey crew-always attracted the lazy, happy-go-lucky types who were usually some kind of social misfit. I know the surveying profession has come a long way since the '70s, and I applaud the efforts of the surveying community, societies, and licensing boards to "clean up" the image of the surveyor and increase the public's appreciation of the profession. I still think we have a long way to go to get this point across and be fully recognized as true professionals. We must realize, too, that some of these "goofballs" eventually decided to grow up and become responsible licensed surveyors-I'm one of those!




Set Boundaries, Find Peace


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The instant New York Times bestseller End the struggle, speak up for what you need, and experience the freedom of being truly yourself. Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others? Licensed counselor, sought-after relationship expert, and one of the most influential therapists on Instagram Nedra Glover Tawwab demystifies this complex topic for today's world. In a relatable and inclusive tone, Set Boundaries, Find Peace presents simple-yet-powerful ways to establish healthy boundaries in all aspects of life. Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology--and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.




Boundaries


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When to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life.




Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free


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Do you feel like you're a "pushover"? Do you let other people make all the plans--letting them pick the movie, the restaurant, or the vacation destination? Does self-care feel selfish to you? And do you find yourself feeling resentful toward others because they don't seem to take your needs into consideration? Can you relate? If the answer is yes, this is the book for you! In this book, master coach, speaker, and author Nancy Levin will help you establish clear and healthy boundaries. This isn't easy; many of us don't want to "rock the boat." We assume setting boundaries will lead to conflict. And, unfortunately, by avoiding conflict and not setting limits, we tend to choose long-term unhappiness instead of short-term discomfort. This book includes exercises and practical tools to help even the most conflict-averse, people-pleasing readers learn new habits. You'll learn how to recognize and take inventory of your boundaries, view your boundaries differently by creating a Boundary Pyramid, learn how to say "no" effectively, and set your Bottom-Line Boundary. As your supportive guide, Nancy will show you how to gather the courage to live a life of "boundary badassery." "This work was life-changing for me, and if you're someone who has avoided boundaries for years, it can change your life, too." -- Nancy Levin




Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children


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This important and compassionate new book from the creator of the successful God Allows U-Turns series will help parents and grandparents of the many adult children who continue to make life painful for their loved ones. Writing from firsthand experience, Allison identifies the lies that kept her, and ultimately her son in bondage—and how she overcame them. Additional real life stories from other parents are woven through the text. A tough–love book to help readers cope with dysfunctional adult children, Setting Boundaries® with Your Adult Children will empower families by offering hope and healing through S.A.N.I.T.Y.—a six–step program to help parents regain control in their homes and in their lives. S = STOP Enabling, STOP Blaming Yourself, and STOP the Flow of Money A = Assemble a Support Group N = Nip Excuses in the Bud I = Implement Rules/Boundaries T = Trust Your Instincts Y = Yield Everything to God Foreword by Carol Kent (When I Lay My Isaac Down)




Boundaries


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This book explains what healthy boundaries are, how to recognize if your personal boundaries are being violated and what you can do to protect yourself. It explains how setting clear boundaries can bring order to a chaotic life, strengthen relationships, and enhance both mental and physical health.




Boundary Boss


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Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.




The Set Boundaries Workbook


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An accessible, step-by-step resource for setting, communicating, and enforcing healthy boundaries at home, at work, and in life We all want to have healthy boundaries. But what does that really mean – and what steps are needed to implement them in our daily lives? Sought-after therapist and relationship expert Nedra Glover Tawwab presents clear explanations and interactive exercises to help you gain insight and then put it into action. Filled with thought-provoking checklists, questions, writing prompts, and more, The Set Boundaries Workbook is a valuable tool for everyone who wants to speak up for what they want and need, and show up more authentically in the world.




The Better Boundaries Workbook


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Do you have trouble saying "no," or constantly sacrifice your own needs to please others? If so, this evidence-based workbook will help you set healthy boundaries in all aspects of your life—without feeling guilty or afraid. If you find yourself feeling responsible for others’ happiness, worrying about letting people down, or struggling to speak up for yourself, you probably have difficulty setting healthy boundaries. Establishing clear personal boundaries is essential to creating and nurturing mutually respectful relationships based on equality. Setting limits can also protect you from getting involved in exploitative relationships, and help you avoid toxic personalities who don’t have your best interests at heart. This evidence-based workbook will show you how to set healthy boundaries across all aspects of life—without sacrificing your kindness or compassion for others. You’ll learn to define your boundaries and discover why they’re so important for your emotional well-being. You’ll also find a wealth of tips for maintaining boundaries in a "constantly-connected" world, strategies for what to do when people get upset or threatened by your assertiveness, and ways to make sure your needs are met. If you’re tired of feeling guilty or afraid of putting your mental and physical health first, are ready to take back control of your life, and create healthy and balanced relationships, this book will show you how to step up and set limits, assert yourself confidently, and realize your full potential.




Transform Your Boundaries


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Do you have trouble saying no without guilt? Discover how to establish borders to shield your mind, body, and spirit. Have you struggled with the emotional drain of other people’s demands? Do you feel confronted by those who aggressively test your limits? Is it difficult maintaining positive relationships with those who want more than you’re willing to give? Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and 2015 TEDx Talk speaker Sarri Gilman has helped many across the globe build and sustain internal barriers that improve their overall wellbeing. Now she’s here to show you how to use your instincts to protect yourself, listen better to your inner voice, and follow through on actions that enhance self-care. Transform Your Boundaries is a straight-to-the-point manual referencing case studies and typical roles such as the “Workaholic” and the “Sacrificer” to identify and employ the necessary tools for mental resilience. Using Gilman’s simple examples and step-by-step process, you’ll develop the skills needed to safeguard your sanity against challengers. By following this self-affirming approach to achieving personal insight and an immovable stance, you will be empowered to live your best life. In Transform Your Boundaries, you’ll discover: - A highly effective YES/NO compass for understanding your own border and building defenses - How to reduce the “noise” around you to reach a calm state - The seven boundary patterns that will help you tune in to your individual wisdom - Methods to decrease stress and anxiety to clear your path towards your true purpose - Easy exercises to follow, journal questions for reflection, and much, much more! Transform Your Boundaries is your guide to standing your ground against external pressures. If you like take-charge advice, solutions for gaining control, and momentous turning points, then you’ll love Sarri Gilman’s life-changing resource. Buy Transform Your Boundaries to draw your line in the sand today!