Gender violence. Change your life and stop being a victim, it's easy!


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Gender-based violence is a complex and multifaceted issue, and many people, even if they do not have direct experience as a victim or perpetrator, still have difficulty understanding it. Initially, it is important to recognize that gender-based violence is not limited to physical violence. It also includes emotional, psychological and economic abuse, as well as threats and control. Most cases of gender-based violence do not occur due to force, but rather due to the desire to control and suppress another person. Regarding the question of why men commit gender-based violence and women remain in such relationships, the answers can be multifaceted and depend on the specific situation. For example, men may use gender-based violence to maintain power and control in relationships, and women may remain in such relationships due to fear, dependency, economic vulnerability, or cultural and social dynamics. Gender-based violence is a broad and complex social problem that affects many aspects of human life. It can manifest itself in various forms and contexts, including the family environment, social relationships, work environment, etc. It is important to understand that gender-based violence is not limited only to physical actions, although they often act as one of its manifestations. It also includes emotional abuse, psychological abuse, economic abuse, and threats and behavioral control. One of the main causes of gender-based violence is the desire to control and suppress another person. This may occur due to inequalities in power and status between partners, as well as cultural and social attitudes that support and reinforce inequality between genders. In addition, stereotypes about masculinity and femininity can contribute to the emergence and maintenance of gender-based violence by creating norms of behavior that justify or normalize such actions. It is important to understand that gender-based violence can affect all people, regardless of their gender, age, race, social status or other characteristics. Although women make up the majority of victims of gender-based violence, men can also be victims, and this often goes unappreciated or underappreciated in society. Gender -based violence can affect both women and men, and people of any gender identity. It is important to understand that gender-based violence is not limited to female victims, although women and girls make up a significant proportion of victims. However, men, boys and people with other gender identities can also be vulnerable to gender-based violence. Research shows that men can also be victims of gender-based violence, but the frequency and forms of violence may vary depending on cultural, social and other factors. Gender-based violence is a complex and diverse issue that requires attention and support for all victims, regardless of their gender identity. Combating gender-based violence requires a systemic approach that includes education and public awareness of the problem, strengthening legal and legal responses, support for victims, and working to change cultural norms and stereotypes about gender. Working to overcome gender-based violence requires the participation of the entire society and efforts at all levels - from the personal to the global. Gender-based violence includes a wide range of forms, including physical, emotional, sexual and economic violence, as well as threats and controlling behavior. It can manifest itself in various areas of life, including the family environment, social relationships, work environment, etc. In our world, where we strive for equality and justice, the topic of gender-based violence remains one of the most important and relevant. Gender-based violence is not only a physical problem, but also a complex socio-cultural phenomenon that covers various aspects of human life. In our book we will look at this problem in all its manifestations and aspects, exploring the various types of violence, its causes and consequences, as well as ways to overcome and prevent it. In the first part, we dive into the world of types of gender-based violence, revealing its multifaceted nature: from physical violence to emotional, psychological and economic. We will look at each type separately, analyzing its causes, mechanisms of action and consequences for victims. In Part 2, we delve deeper into the drivers and causes of gender-based violence, exploring the role of cultural stereotypes, social expectations, power and control. We will conduct research into the personal and psychological factors that contribute to the emergence and maintenance of gender-based violence in modern society. The third part of our book is dedicated to support for victims of gender-based violence. We cover primary care, safety, mental health, legal and social support, offering readers practical advice and resources to support themselves and those around them. In part four, we will turn to preventing and combating gender-based violence, discussing the role of education, programs and campaigns, working with perpetrators and community engagement in solving this problem. The final part of our book will review the main ideas proposed in it and call readers to action. We hope that our work will become not only a source of knowledge, but also a source of inspiration for those who strive to create a world free of gender-based violence. We invite you on a journey through the complex paths of gender-based violence, where together we will try to understand its nature, consequences and ways to overcome it.




Coercive Control


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Drawing on cases, Stark identifies the problems with our current approach to domestic violence, outlines the components of coercive control, and then uses this alternate framework to analyse the cases of battered women charged with criminal offenses directed at their abusers.




Perfectly Hidden Depression


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When your life looks perfect, but you’re silently falling apart… If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life—a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You’re filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can’t allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief. You recognize something is wrong, but you’re not sure what exactly—only that you feel trapped and alone. If this sounds like you, you may have perfectly hidden depression (PHD). With this compassionate guide, you’ll begin the process of understanding your perfectionism, identifying destructive beliefs, and connecting with emotions suppressed for far too long. You’ll also find tangible tips for quieting that critical inner voice, and powerful strategies for coping with difficult feelings. Most importantly, you’ll learn that asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start healing, this groundbreaking book will guide you—every imperfect step of the way.




Black and White Bible, Black and Blue Wife


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Ruth Tucker recounts a harrowing story of abuse at the hands of her husband—a well-educated, charming preacher no less—in hope that her story would help other women caught in a cycle of domestic violence and offer a balanced biblical approach to counter such abuse for pastors and counselors. Weaving together her shocking story, stories of other women, and powerful stories of husbands who truly have demonstrated Christ’s love to their wives, with reflection on biblical, theological, historical, and contemporary issues surrounding domestic violence, she makes a compelling case for mutuality in marriage and helps women and men become more aware of potential dangers in a doctrine of male headship.




No Visible Bruises


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WINNER OF THE HILLMAN PRIZE FOR BOOK JOURNALISM, THE HELEN BERNSTEIN BOOK AWARD, AND THE LUKAS WORK-IN-PROGRESS AWARD * A NEW YORK TIMES TOP 10 BOOKS OF THE YEAR * NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE AWARD FINALIST * LOS ANGELES TIMES BOOK PRIZE FINALIST * ABA SILVER GAVEL AWARD FINALIST * KIRKUS PRIZE FINALIST NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF 2019 BY: Esquire, Amazon, Kirkus, Library Journal, Publishers Weekly, BookPage, BookRiot, Economist, New York Times Staff Critics “A seminal and breathtaking account of why home is the most dangerous place to be a woman . . . A tour de force.” -Eve Ensler "Terrifying, courageous reportage from our internal war zone." -Andrew Solomon "Extraordinary." -New York Times ,“Editors' Choice” “Gut-wrenching, required reading.” -Esquire "Compulsively readable . . . It will save lives." -Washington Post “Essential, devastating reading.” -Cheryl Strayed, New York Times Book Review An award-winning journalist's intimate investigation of the true scope of domestic violence, revealing how the roots of America's most pressing social crises are buried in abuse that happens behind closed doors. We call it domestic violence. We call it private violence. Sometimes we call it intimate terrorism. But whatever we call it, we generally do not believe it has anything at all to do with us, despite the World Health Organization deeming it a “global epidemic.” In America, domestic violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crime, and yet it remains locked in silence, even as its tendrils reach unseen into so many of our most pressing national issues, from our economy to our education system, from mass shootings to mass incarceration to #MeToo. We still have not taken the true measure of this problem. In No Visible Bruises, journalist Rachel Louise Snyder gives context for what we don't know we're seeing. She frames this urgent and immersive account of the scale of domestic violence in our country around key stories that explode the common myths-that if things were bad enough, victims would just leave; that a violent person cannot become nonviolent; that shelter is an adequate response; and most insidiously that violence inside the home is a private matter, sealed from the public sphere and disconnected from other forms of violence. Through the stories of victims, perpetrators, law enforcement, and reform movements from across the country, Snyder explores the real roots of private violence, its far-reaching consequences for society, and what it will take to truly address it.




Betrayal Trauma Recovery


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A daily journal for women wondering if their husband's behavior is abusive. For women trying to determine if they should leave or stay. To help women decide if they want to divorce. A daily journal to help victims understand the reality and severity of their situation. For women who are considering separation or divorce due to their husband's lying, gaslighting, infidelity, emotional abuse, narcissistic behaviors. Visit btr.org for more information, and listen to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast found on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify and other podcasting platforms.




Called to Peace


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If you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship, this companion study to Called To Peace: A Survivor's Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Abuse is the perfect resource. The workbook is a gospel-based support group curriculum specifically for domestic violence survivors and has been powerful and life changing for many women.




The Emotionally Abusive Relationship


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"Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for theemotionally abusive relationship "In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offersstep-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping bothvictims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful andtraumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individualsand for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotionalabuse." -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse "This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotionalabuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showingeach party what emotional abuse is, how it affects therelationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamicrelationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp thetools for change and really use them." -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abusethem emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves isphenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form ofabuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world'sleading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to doabout it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that youmight be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both youand your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book isfor you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how toidentify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of yourbehavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps toheal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow youand your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst ineach other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to helpthemselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stopabusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expertguidance and support you need.




Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship


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One out of every four women in the United States will experience some form of domestic violence or abuse in her lifetime. Through Dr. Ramona Probasco's own powerful personal story of coming out of an abusive relationship, along with her twenty years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, she takes readers through a proven, step-by-step process for moving from victim to survivor to overcomer. With genuine empathy, she encourages the reader to call it what it is, understand the mindset of the abuser, break the cycle of violence, recognize what forgiveness is and is not, find a healthy support system, and more. Each chapter ends with a simple, heartfelt prayer, Scriptural promises readers can apply to their situation, and questions for further reflection. Readers are encouraged to go through the book individually, with a counselor, or as part of a support group. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of race, education, socioeconomic status, or culture. But it does not have to be the end of the story. Healing well and living free are within reach.




How He Wins


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The World Health Organisation has described the global increase in incidences of domestic abuse due to lockdowns and isolation as a shadow pandemic. Dr Hans Henri P. Kluge, the WHO Regional Director for Europe, has warned that the world could see 31 million cases of gender-based violence if nothing is done, and has called for more action to be taken. This stark warning is an indictment of our failure, in Europe and elsewhere, to reduce the level of male intimate abuse, in spite of the extraordinary energy and dedication of thousands of practitioners and academics. In this challenging book, Don Hennessy examines our practices and procedures, our attitudes and our beliefs, in relation to coercive control. He demonstrates how we have made few inroads in this area – either into the prevalence of male intimate abuse, or in relation to the tactics that support the ability of the male intimate abuser to establish and maintain his control. It is vital that all agencies, both statutory and non-governmental, recognise that we need to change our position from one of support to one of protection. The protection that Hennessy promotes is not that of the physical refuge alone, but the mental safeguard which will allow each target-woman to follow her own intuition. How He Wins, by the best-selling author of Steps to Freedom, focuses in particular on the impact of abuse on the target-woman's family members, and features numerous powerful personal stories. It is essential reading for any woman who has been the target of domestic abuse and has found herself abandoned by the community.