He's a Porn Addict...Now What?


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Admitting you're a drug addict or alcoholic can be difficult, but when it comes to pornography addiction, the pain of betrayal can hit the addict's partner worse than the addict himself. Tony Overbay and Joshua Shea provide pertinent supportive information from the point of view of a therapist and from a former pornography addict.




When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography


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In this helpful guide by Vicki Tiede, women are gently reminded to turn toward God and away from despair. When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography addresses the struggles women experience when they are shattered, betrayed, and alone. Writing from personal experience, Vicki Tiede offers daily readings and questions on six important topics: hope, surrender, trust, identity, brokenness, and forgiveness. She helps readers grow in healing and hope in the midst of marriage trials. By describing one of the "hidden sins" in our churches and culture that destroys marriages, the author offers biblical advice on a workable plan of action. She shares the stories of twenty-five women who have known this deep anguish, and she helps bridge the gap in the healing journey so many other materials leave out. She comforts readers and refreshingly points hurt women toward the one who calms the raging seas. Allowing God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, but he promises to help you every step of the way. Questions and daily readings are suitable for both individuals and small groups.




Soberful


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How to stop drinking, stay stopped, and develop emotional skills for a life of excitement and connection ... without the hangover. “No thanks—I’m not drinking tonight.” In a culture that equates alcohol with enjoyment and social acceptance, making this simple statement can make us feel like we’re depriving or even punishing ourselves. “When we realize we don’t want to drink anymore or can no longer drink safely, it can feel like the only choices are to spiral out of control or embrace a joyless life,” says psychotherapist and sobriety expert Veronica Valli. “But it’s not true! Sobriety can be a path filled with fun, excitement, belonging, relaxation, and romance.” Soberful offers a practical and straightforward program on how to get sober and stay sober by increasing your self-worth, energy, and participation in life. Valli begins by debunking widespread beliefs about alcohol and sobriety, including the illusion that alcohol itself is the problem. Then she takes you into the heart of her method for building an alcohol-free life that works—the Five Pillars of Sustainable Sobriety: • Movement—Taking care of your body for physical and emotional health • Connection—Using self-compassion as a foundation for creating healthy and authentic relationships • Balance—Learning how to disarm the triggers that make you want to drink • Process—Validating, honoring, and accepting the past to move forward into the future • Growth—How to keep changing, keep learning, and keep choosing to stay sober throughout the journey of your life “When we change how we experience the world, we can stop trying to escape our feelings with alcohol,” Valli says. As a leader and pioneer in the field with 21 years of sobriety, Valli now shares the same steps that worked for her and her clients. Written with gentle humor and compassion, Soberful provides a road map to a life beyond drinking—one that is expansive, fulfilling, and joyously free.




Surfing for God


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"Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is knocking for God." - G. K. Chesterton What if lust for porn is really a search for true passion? In a world where there are 68 million searches for pornography every day and where over 70 percent of Christian men report viewing porn in the last year, it's no surprise that more and more men struggle with an addiction to this false fantasy. Common wisdom says if they just had more willpower or more faith, their fight would be over. Is the answer really that simple? According to the counselor and ministry leader Michael John Cusick, the answer is no--but the big truth may be much more freeing.Backed by scripture, Cusick uses examples from his own life and from his twenty years of counseling experience to show us how the pursuit of empty pleasure is really a search for our heart's deepest desire--and the real key to to resistance is discovering and embracing the joy we truly want. Cusick's insights help readers understand how porn struggles begin, what to do to prevent them, and most importantly, how to overcome the compulsion once it begins. In the end, this powerful book shows us all how the barrier built by porn addiction can become a bridge to abundant life.




Tiny Beautiful Things


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NATIONAL BESTSELLER • Soon to be a Hulu Original series • The internationally acclaimed author of Wild collects the best of The Rumpus's Dear Sugar advice columns plus never-before-published pieces. Rich with humor and insight—and absolute honesty—this "wise and compassionate" (New York Times Book Review) book is a balm for everything life throws our way. Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills—and it can be great: you’ve had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the courage to write your novel. Sugar—the once-anonymous online columnist at The Rumpus, now revealed as Cheryl Strayed, author of the bestselling memoir Wild—is the person thousands turn to for advice.




Integrity Restored: Helping Catholic Families Win the Battle Against Pornography (Revised and Expanded Edition)


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Alarming numbers of men, women, and teens struggle with frequent or habitual pornography use today. Among them are many faithful Catholics desperate for hope and healing. In Integrity Restored: Helping Catholic Families Win the Battle Against Pornography, clinical therapist Dr. Peter Kleponis equips readers to embark on a path of recovery. Drawing heavily from Catholic teaching on human sexuality, Kleponis provides resources and insight for parents, educators, pastors, and all struggling to overcome an addiction to pornography. In this newly updated edition, Kleponis looks at new technologies, apps, and services that pose the biggest threat to Catholics today.




Getting Off


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“Erica Garza has written a riveting, can’t-look-away memoir of a life lived hardcore…In an era when predatory male sexual behavior has finally become a topic of urgent national discourse…Getting Off makes for a wild, timely read” (Elle). A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame—these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candor, eloquence, and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off. What sets this courageous and riveting account apart from your typical misery memoir is the absence of any precipitating trauma beyond the garden variety of hurt we’ve all had to endure in simply becoming a person—reckoning with family, learning to be social, integrating what it means to be sexual. Whatever tenor of violence or abuse Erica’s life took on through her behavior was of her own making, fueled by fear, guilt, self-loathing, self-pity, loneliness, and the hopelessness those feelings brought on as she runs from one side of the world to the other in an effort to break her habits—from East Los Angeles to Hawaii and Southeast Asia, through the brothels of Bangkok and the yoga studios of Bali to disappointing stabs at therapy and twelve-steps back home. In these remarkable pages, Garza draws an evocative, studied portrait of the anxiety that fuels her obsessions, as well as the exhilaration and hope she begins to feel when she suspects she might be free of them. Getting Off offers a brave and necessary voice to our evolving conversations about addiction and the impact that internet culture has had on us all—“a profoundly genuine, gripping story that any reader can appreciate” (Vice). “In reading Garza’s insight into her own experiences, we better understand ourselves” (The New York Times Book Review).




JESUS IS BETTER THAN PORN: How I Confessed my Addiction to My Wife and Found a New Life


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You can break free from porn and find a new life. Apply practical strategies and escape the hamster wheel of compulsive pornography use. Get the inspiration, motivation and information you have been looking for as you begin your journey to the LIGHT. Honest, hard-hitting, helpful and hopeful! This story of one man's courageous battle against lust and pornography shows how a Christian (even a pastor) can be trapped in the darkness, feeling isolated and afraid to ask for help. Yet Hugh’s story of heartbreak, humility and trusting in Christ shows how God offers new life. When Hugh finally confessed his secret double life to his wife of 30 years, it almost destroyed her. Yet out of this terrible pain, the Lord brought forgiveness and healing. Their marriage today is stronger than ever! This can be your story too! There is HOPE for anyone enslaved by sin, because Jesus came to set the captives free. Learn how to fight lies with the truth. See how you can take control of your thoughts and your mind. Begin using your own personal “Battle Plan” today. Practice intentional living. Your life can be different. God has already provided you with everything you need for your new life. Use the discussion questions at the end of each chapter with your group. A Certified Partner Coach wrote: “During the past 17 years, I’ve read countless books on the topic of secretive sexual behaviors. Few offer as much humble-yet-helpful wisdom as this book by lifelong missionary, Hugh Houston.” Get your copy today. Jesus is so much better than porn!




Out of the Shadows


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With the revised information and up-to-date research, Out of the Shadows is the premier work on sex addiction, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.




Power Over Pornography


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Jason, like many people, is an addict. His addiction doesn't center on any drug or alcohol. He's a pornography and masturbation addict, and the insidious nature of his addiction erodes his self-worth, his relationships, and his career. Jason meets David at a twelve-step meeting, where David offers him a new approach to treating pornography addiction. Through a series of meetings, David guides Jason as he successfully overcomes his addiction, a process supported by glimpses into Jason's family and how his relationships improve as pornography loses its hold on his life. Jason's story is fictional. The treatment plan he follows is very real. Designed by author and pornography addiction treatment expert Brian Brandenburg, the strategies found in Power over Pornography are praised by those who, having taken part in Brandenburg's program, now pursue lives free of pornographic viewing. Brandenburg's innovative treatment plan comes at a crucial moment in the fight against pornography and masturbation addiction. A generation of Internet-savvy children has grown up with access to pornography, quite literally, at their keyboard-typing fingertips. The images and videos they view online are far more graphic than their parents can imagine. Now the children of this generation have become young adults, with many addicted to the instant gratification of pornography. Like Jason, most pornography and masturbation addicts are male, but women are also afflicted. Maintaining normal, healthy relationships becomes almost impossible while in the grip of pornography. Anxiety and guilt over your actions worsen into clinical depression and self-loathing. Work productivity suffers, and an addict with on-the-job access to the Internet is always a few mouse clicks away from job termination and scandal. Jason and others in his situation are discovering traditional twelve-step programs don't address key aspects of pornography and masturbation addiction. Brandenburg's radical treatment takes a new, often counterintuitive approach to overcoming pornography addiction. His advice sometimes contradicts traditional strategies, but his system works. A comprehensive, easy-to-understand approach to pornography addiction treatment, Power over Pornography appeals to all readers. You can overcome your addiction. Let Brian Brandenburg and Jason be your guides.