Healthy Divorce


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Solutions for negotiating one of life's most difficult events Healthy Divorce is a very valuable book, containing practicalanswers to difficult questions. --Dan Kiley, author of The Peter Pan Syndrome and The WAndyDilemma The authors have devoted their careers to counseling divorcingfamilies. In this encouraging book, they outline the fourteenstages of divorces and offer families practical advice andsolutions for negotiating one of life's most difficult events. Withsensitivity and sensibility they explain how to recognize thedifferent stages of the divorce; what to expect during each phase;and how to deal with the predictable patterns of the divorceprocess. Healthy Divorce explores ways of confronting such tough issues ashow to tell your children you're getting a divorce; how to plan aseparation; and how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, andabandonment. The authors offer practical advice on using mediationas an alternative to the adversarial court battle; co-parenting tomaintain stability for the children after the divorce; andorganizing and structuring a happy blAnded family.




Healthy Children of Divorce in 10 Simple Steps


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What Can You Do As A Parent To Minimize The Impact of Divorce On Your Children? -Do you worry that your divorce will have a negative impact on your child's life? -Are you and your child's other parent locked in a cycle of resentment and dysfunction? -Do you want to do everything in your power to create a healthy future life for you and your child? This book will provide you with all of these answers and more. It is easy-to-read and includes actionable steps to ensure the best outcome for your children. The simple, yet life-changing ten-step process this book outlines will help you to: -Make the best choices for your children to ensure their long-term health -Partner with your co-parent for the sake of your children -Take actions that will protect your children during this time -Communicate productively with your co-parent -Release the past so you can create a love-filled future with your children Praise for the author's best-selling book The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make: Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict: "This book is a must-read for parents contemplating divorce, those already in the divorce process, and those who have a parenting plan in place... - Albert V. Evans, Family Law Attorney "This wonderful book should be required reading and writing for every divorced or never-married parent." - Dr. Shirley Thomas, counsellor and author




How to Have a Healthy Divorce


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The process of divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience and, on the practical side, the financial and legal strains can be a major source of stress. But approaching divorce with the right advice and support can help you turn the experience into a chance for personal growth and development, so you can look to the future with a realistic optimism. How to Have a Healthy Divorce will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong in your marriage and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved in a break up. In clear and simple steps, this practical guide will show you how to: - Overcome actual and potential challenges - Accept your past, present and future circumstances - Formulate a personal action plan that includes practical points on financial and legal matters - Build a relationship with your ex so you can communicate effectively This is an accessible, sympathetic and uncomplicated guide to facing divorce with pragmatism and optimism, helping you to emerge from a healthy divorce with valuable lessons learnt and the tools to build a secure and fulfilling future.




The Healthy Divorce


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The ultimate guide on how to divorce for women and men in a positive, peaceful way. While divorce can be filled with anger, frustration, and bitterness, most divorcing couples want to end their marriage in a manner that preserves their dignity and emotional health, especially if there are children in the picture. They want to prevent irreparable damage to themselves and their children from a long, drawn-out, ugly battle. The Healthy Divorce provides them with the tools to more peacefully negotiate the difficult process of divorce. Filled with checklists, exercises, and rituals—as well as case histories of couples who have successfully used this positive approach—The Healthy Divorce is your essential guide to getting through your divorce without ruining your life or permanently harming your children. The Healthy Divorce empowers couples to negotiate, handle sensitive issues, and resolve conflicts in a way that allows them to emerge from divorce with their emotional well-being intact. The Healthy Divorce includes: The seven keys to a healthy divorce How to separate yourself from the marriage emotionally How to best defuse a dispute before it escalates The best way to handle an uncooperative ex Praise for The Healthy Divorce: "Required reading for anyone contemplating divorce." —Publishers Weekly "This is an achievable model of what divorcing parents can do that's positive for themselves, their spouse, and their children." —Jay Folberg, Professor Emeritus and Former Dean of the University of San Francisco Law School "A wonderful book, immensely readable, very human, quite moving...Will help couples divorce in a more civilized way." —Joan B. Kelly, PhD, co-author of Surviving the Break-Up "Fascinating and informative... This book should prove valuable to those who are contemplating divorce or going through divorce, as well as to mental health professionals from all specialties who treat divorcing adults and children of divorce." —Florence Kaslow, PhD, Past President, International Family Therapy Association




Parenting Plan Evaluations


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When conducting parenting plan evaluations, mental health professionals need to be aware of a myriad of different factors. More so than in any other form of forensic evaluation, they must have an understanding of the most current findings in developmental research, behavioral psychology, attachment theory, and legal issues to substantiate their opinions. With a number of publications on child custody available, there is an essential need for a text focused on translating the research associated with the most important topics within the family court. This book addresses this gap in the literature by presenting an organized and in-depth analysis of the current research and offering specific recommendations for applying these findings to the evaluation process. Written by experts in the child custody arena, chapters cover issues associated with the most important and complex issues that arise in family court, such as attachment and overnight timesharing with very young children, dynamics between divorced parents and children's potential for resiliency, co-parenting children with chronic medical conditions and developmental disorders, domestic violence during separation and divorce, gay and lesbian co-parents, and relocation, among others. The scientific information provided in these chapters assists forensic mental health professionals to proffer empirically-based opinions, conclusions and recommendations. Parenting Plan Evaluations is a must-read for legal practitioners, family law judges and attorneys, and other professionals seeking to understand more about the science behind child custody evaluations.




How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce


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Expert advice for discussing divorce with your children Written by Dr. Samantha Rodman, founder of DrPsychMom.com, How to Talk to Your Kids about Your Divorce teaches you how to raise a happy, thriving family in a changing environment. Each page offers expert advice for discussing your decision in healthy and effective ways, including breaking the initial news, fostering an open dialogue, and ensuring that your children's emotional needs are met throughout your separation. With Dr. Rodman's proven communication techniques, you will: Initiate honest conversations where your children can express their thoughts Discuss divorce-related topics and answer questions in age-appropriate ways Validate your children's feelings, making them feel acknowledged and secure Strengthen and deepen your relationship with your kids Whether you're raising toddlers, school-aged children, or young adults, How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Divorce will help your kids feel heard, valued, and loved during this difficult time.




The Storms Can't Hurt the Sky


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Buddhism has been applied to everything from parenting to golf, but until now no one has offered Buddhist principles as a healing path through divorce. In Storms Can't Hurt the Sky, Gabriel Cohen bravely delves into his personal experience-along with insights from Buddhist masters, parables, humor, social science studies, and interviews with other divorces-to provide a practical and very helpful guide to surviving the pain of any break-up. Focusing on the emotions most common in the dissolution of a relationship-anger, resentment, loss, and grief -- Storms Can't Hurt the Sky shows how thinking about these feelings in surprisingly different ways can lead to a radically better experience. This compulsively readable book offers sound advice and much-needed empathy for anyone dealing with a break-up.




Spiritually Healthy Divorce


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Chart a Course to Wholeness in the Aftermath of Divorce "Divorce tends to rip away your façade and defenses, and call into question what you know or believe. That vulnerability is painful, but ultimately can bring you to a place where your spiritual life can gain strength and insight if you are open to it. In the midst of feeling lost, you can find a new path forward, which brings you to a better place." —from the Introduction Divorce is never easy and almost always includes profound experiences of pain, isolation, anger, despair, and confusion. Here is a spiritual map for regaining your bearings, helping you move through the twists and turns of divorce in a spiritually healthy way. Drawing on her work as a pastor and counselor—and her personal experience with divorce—Carolyne Call proposes a three-prong approach to help you reset your compass on a new destination—wholeness. Supported by first-person accounts from men and women from a variety of faith traditions who have found their way through divorce, she helps you identify: Where you want to go—“I want to be true to who I am” Where you don't want to go—the “cul-de-sacs” of bitterness, resentment, victimization, and guilt What you can do to get there




Splitopia


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Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.” Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).




Primal Loss


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Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.