Helping Gay Men Find Love


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Navigating the complex dating world is difficult, but finding a life partner is particularly challenging for gay men. On the surface alone, the pool of options is significantly smaller, and potential matches can be hard to spot. But psychology also plays an important role. Growing up as a sexual minority often leads to insecurities and developmental issues particular to gay men, and these create roadblocks when attempting to build a healthy relationship. Author and psychotherapist Israel Martinez, LCSW, who himself identifies as gay, has helped many LGBT clients work through these obstacles in their efforts to find lasting love. His well-researched, well-tested, and effective techniques begin by addressing self-esteem issues and from there work toward building practical relationship skills. These skills, paired with sincere effort, will markedly increase the chances of finding-and sustaining-a healthy partnership. A straightforward and helpful guide, Helping Gay Men Find Love builds on itself chapter by chapter, guiding readers through each stage-from the first date to meeting the parents. This book gives gay men a better chance of acquiring what all human beings need: love and companionship.







10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives


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Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions: Take Charge of Their Own Lives Affirm Themselves by Coming Out Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives 'Graduate' From Delayed Adolescence Avoid - or Overcome - Sexual Addiction -Learn from Successful Mentors Whove Been There, Done That Take Advantage of 'Therapy Workouts' Achieve - and Maintain - Rewarding Relationships Understand the Stages of Loves Commit to Their Partner.These solid and reliable 'Top 10' life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Korts clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment




The Velvet Rage


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The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, "Are we really better off?" The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a fa?ade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it.




A Change of Affection


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The powerful, dramatic story of how a successful Hollywood set designer whose identity was deeply rooted in his homosexuality came to be suddenly and utterly transformed by the power of the gospel. When Becket Cook moved from Dallas to Los Angeles after college, he discovered a socially progressive, liberal town that embraced not only his creative side but also his homosexuality. He devoted his time to growing his career as a successful set designer and to finding "the one" man who would fill his heart. As a gay man in the entertainment industry, Cook centered his life around celebrity-filled Hollywood parties and traveled to society hot-spots around the world--until a chance encounter with a pastor at an LA coffee shop one morning changed everything. In A Change of Affection, Becket Cook shares his testimony as someone who was transformed by the power of the gospel. Cook's dramatic conversion to Christianity and subsequent seminary training inform his views on homosexuality--personally, biblically, theologically, and culturally--and in his new book he educates Christians on how to better understand this complex and controversial issue while revealing how to lovingly engage with those who disagree. A Change of Affection is a timely and indispensable resource for anyone who desires to understand more fully one of the most common and difficult stumbling blocks to faithfully following Christ today.




Love Between Men


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Read this book if you'd like to improve your relationship and communicate better with your boyfriend, lover, or even your next date! You'll learn how to resolve conflicts instead of escalating or retaliating, enhancing the sense of intimacy and love that brought you together in the first place. "LOVE BETWEEN MEN is a treasure...Isensee condenses years of clinical expertise of working with gay couples and translates this into a volume that is chock-full of enormously helpful and practical ways for men to look at, understand, and improve their relationships. It is bound to become a classic." -Michael Shernoff, ACSW "...a valid guide to establishing closer, more enduring partnerships...fills a gap in the resources available to couples." -K. Orton Williams, San Francisco Sentinel "...there is meat on these bones; material that any person in a relationship, or considering/fearing one, can learn from.... Isensee's insights are solid and his chapter on abusive relationships is the sort of material rarely discussed within the gay community. And his summation chapters, which include the awful thought of 'What If It Doesn't Work Out?, ' are astute." -Dale Reynolds, Lambda Book Report "This is a practical, down-to-earth manual for men who live in intimate relationships and want to improve them.... This book does more than help couples solve complicated interpersonal problems-it helps them to avoid them." -Harvey L. Gochros, D.S.W., professor, School of Social Work, University of Hawaii "lsensee explores gay male relationships by examining the difficulty of maintaining successful male-male bondings in a hostile, homophobic society. He discusses problems unique to homosexual relationships.... A helpful book." -Library Journal "A welcome addition to practical gay literature." -Booklist




Keeping Mr. Right


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In this comprehensive follow-up to his bestselling Mr. Right is Out There, Kenneth George offers, in the same warm and wise manner, guidelines for gay men on forming successful male couples. Known for his commonsense and honest approach to relationships, Dr. George explores the issues facing gay couples and offers advice on working through them rather than letting them become insurmountable. Included in the book are tips on: negotioating changes rather tham living with annoying differences; defining your relationship with a 'job description'; and having great sex!




Intimacy Between Men


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"A wonderful and wise book that has been needed for a long time."—Patrick J. Carnes.




Gay Men's Guide to Love and Relationships


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A dating and relationship guide for gay men.




Lasting Love at Last


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At last, gay love is here to stay. In the era of mobile apps, the gay dating census (aka #BaeBuffet) is literally in the palm of your hands. But how do you sift through all the digital smoke and glitter to find a heart of gold? Enter certified matchmaker and love coach, Amari Ice, and his twelve-step RELATIONSHIP Process. In Lasting Love at Last, Amari Ice, the gay relationship guru, will show you: - How to attract lasting love in as little as ten weeks - How to recognize and neutralize what's sabotaged your past relationships - The reason most relationships fail - The difference between not being ready for a relationship and being scared of commitment - What you actually need from a partner in order to be happy - How to guarantee you only invest in someone worth your time, energy, and love - And much, much more If Paul Carrick Brunson's It's Complicated (But It Doesn't Have to Be) and Patti Stanger's Become Your Own Matchmaker had a #Gayby, Lasting Love At Last is what they'd name it.