Foster the Family


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There are great rewards that come along with being a foster parent, yet there are also great challenges that can leave you feeling depleted, alone, and discouraged. The many burdens of a foster parent's day--hurting children, struggling biological parents, and a broken system--are only compounded by the many burdens of a foster parent's heart--confusion, anxiety, heartache, anger, and fear. With the compassion and insight of a fellow foster parent, Jamie C. Finn helps you see your struggles through the lens of the gospel, bringing biblical truths to bear on your unique everyday realities. In these short, easy-to-read chapters, you'll find honest, personal stories and practical lessons that provide encouragement and direction from God's Word as you walk the journey of foster parenting.




It's Okay to Wonder


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"I'm excited to be a sister in our foster family, but I'm worried about new rules. I feel happy and sad at the same time. What about when our help isn't needed anymore?" 'It's Okay to Wonder' is a story about Avery, a loquacious girl whose parents have decided to become foster parents. While Mom and Dad attend another foster training class, Avery shares with her Nana and Pop about her mixed-up feelings. She and her grandparents learn together what it might be like to become a foster family--that it's okay to feel two emotions at the same time and that it's okay to wonder! 'The Joy of Avery' series offers resources for foster care families and brings the world of foster care to life by exploring Avery's feelings as her family welcomes foster children into their home. 'It's Okay to Wonder' is the first book in the series.




Love and Mayhem


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Many people say being a parent is the toughest job there is. John DeGarmo, foster and adoptive parent, tells us just how tough it can be, having parented over 40 children. At times he and his wife, Kelly, have cared for up to nine children at a time, many with severe trauma and learning difficulties. Love and Mayhem is an honest and open account of the struggles, sadness and joy that comes with the job of being a parent to a traumatised child. From the sleepless nights with babies withdrawing from drug-addiction, to the heartbreak when a child moves on to another home, and the loving chaos that comes with a large and blended family, John DeGarmo fights for the many children who have come through his home. Ideal for foster families, general readers, fostering agencies and social workers who are looking for a true to life memoir of what it really is to be a foster parent.




Three Little Words


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Rhodes-Courter spent nine years of her life in 14 different foster homes. In this unforgettable memoir, the author recounts her years growing up in the foster care system, revealing painful memories but also her determination to discover the power of her own voice.




The Adoption Effect: How Adopting Changes the World


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The Adoption Effect: How Adopting Changes the World is a thought-provoking and insightful short read book that explores the profound impact of adoption on individuals, families, and society as a whole. This book delves into the various aspects of adoption, shedding light on the transformative power it holds. In Creating Forever Families, the author explores the beautiful journey of building a family through adoption. From the initial decision to adopt to the emotional process of bonding with a child, this chapter provides guidance and support for those considering adoption. Empowering Birth Parents is a crucial aspect of adoption that is often overlooked. This chapter emphasizes the importance of honoring the birth parents' role in the adoption process and highlights the ways in which adoptive parents can support and empower them. Open Adoption: Building Connections explores the concept of open adoption, where birth parents and adoptive parents maintain a relationship and ongoing contact. This chapter delves into the benefits and challenges of open adoption and provides practical advice for navigating this unique dynamic. International Adoption: Bridging Cultures takes readers on a global journey, exploring the complexities and rewards of adopting a child from another country. From navigating cultural differences to understanding the legal and logistical aspects, this chapter offers valuable insights for those considering international adoption. Adoption and Identity delves into the profound impact adoption can have on an individual's sense of self. This chapter explores the complexities of identity formation for adoptees and provides guidance for adoptive parents in supporting their child's journey of self-discovery. Transracial Adoption: Nurturing Diversity explores the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when adopting a child of a different race or ethnicity. This chapter provides practical advice for creating a nurturing and inclusive environment that celebrates diversity. Adoptee Perspectives: Finding Self offers a collection of personal stories and reflections from adoptees themselves. These powerful narratives shed light on the diverse experiences and emotions that adoptees navigate throughout their lives. Adoption and Society examines the broader societal impact of adoption. From breaking stigmas and dispelling myths to advocating for adoption-friendly policies and legislation, this chapter explores the ways in which adoption can shape and transform society. Breaking Stigmas and Myths challenges common misconceptions surrounding adoption and provides accurate information to dispel these myths. This chapter aims to educate and inform readers, promoting a more inclusive and understanding society. Adoption and Foster Care Systems delves into the intersection of adoption and the foster care system. This chapter explores the unique challenges and opportunities that arise when adopting a child from foster care This title is a short read. A Short Read is a type of book that is designed to be read in one quick sitting. These no fluff books are perfect for people who want an overview about a subject in a short period of time. Table of Contents The Adoption Effect: How Adopting Changes the World Creating Forever Families Empowering Birth Parents Open Adoption: Building Connections International Adoption: Bridging Cultures Adoption and Identity Transracial Adoption: Nurturing Diversity Adoptee Perspectives: Finding Self Adoption and Society Breaking Stigmas and Myths Adoption and Foster Care Systems Adoption Policies and Legislation Frequently Asked Questions Have Questions / Comments?




Three More Words


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In the sequel to the New York Times bestselling memoir Three Little Words, Ashley Rhodes-Courter expands on life beyond the foster care system, the joys and heartbreak with a family she’s created, and her efforts to make peace with her past. Ashley Rhodes-Courter spent a harrowing nine years of her life in fourteen different foster homes. Her memoir, Three Little Words, captivated audiences everywhere and went on to become a New York Times bestseller as well as a movie produced by the team who brought you Twilight. Now Ashley reveals the nuances of life after foster care: College and its assorted hijinks, including meeting “the one.” Marriage, which began with a beautiful wedding on a boat that was almost hijacked (literally) by some biological family members. Having kids—from fostering children and the heartbreak of watching them return to destructive environments, to the miraculous joy of blending biological and adopted offspring. Whether she’s overcoming self-image issues, responding to calls for her to run for Senate, or dealing with continuing drama from her biological family, Ashley Rhodes-Courter never fails to impress or inspire with her authentic voice and uplifting message.




Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency


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Based on a hugely successful US model, the Seven Core Issues in Adoption is the first conceptual framework of its kind to offer a unifying lens that was inclusive of all individuals touched by the adoption experience. The Seven Core Issues are Loss, Rejection, Shame/Guilt, Grief, Identity, Intimacy, and Mastery/Control. The book expands the model to be inclusive of adoption and all forms of permanency: adoption, foster care, kinship care, donor insemination and surrogacy. Attachment and trauma are integrated with the Seven Core Issues model to address and normalize the additional tasks individuals and families will encounter. The book views the Seven Core Issues from a range of perspectives including: multi-racial, LGBTQ, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, African-American, International, openness, search and reunion, and others. This essential guide introduces each Core Issue, its impact on individuals, offering techniques for growth and healing.




One Heart at a Time


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“You’re listening to Delilah.” Delilah, the most listened-to woman on American radio, has distinguished herself as the “Queen of Sappy Love Songs” and America’s ultimate romance guru. But Delilah’s life off-air is all the more extraordinary—a life full of trials, forgiveness, faith, and adventure. In One Heart at a Time, Delilah’s heartfelt account of her own story reveals what shaped the voice that 9 million listeners know and love. Today, Delilah is the founder of an NGO called Point Hope, the owner of a 55-acre working farm, and an inductee of the National Radio Hall of Fame. But to achieve this, she often had to pave her own way. Disowned by her father, divorced, and fired from a dozen jobs over the years, Delilah pushed forward through family addiction and devastating loss, through glass ceilings and red tape. Her consistent goal to help those in need took her everywhere from the streets of Philadelphia to refugee camps in Ghana. Along the way, Delilah was blessed by thirteen children—ten of them adopted. Though many of them contend with special needs and the forever effects of a broken foster care system, her children have been able to transform their own remarkable lessons into guiding lights for other kids in need. Just as Delilah has done. One Heart at a Time exposes the real woman behind the microphone. In her easy-going style and characteristic, beloved voice, Delilah tells her deeply moving life story as the series of miracles it is.




The Primal Wound


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Originally published in 1993, this classic piece of literature on adoption has revolutionised the way people think about adopted children. Nancy Verrier examines the life-long consequences of the 'primal wound' - the wound that is caused when a child is separated from its mother - for adopted people. Her argument is supported by thorough research in pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and the effects of loss.




To the End of June


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A New York Times Notable Book that “casts a searing eye on the labyrinth that is the American foster care system” (NPR’s On Point). Who are the children of foster care? What, as a country, do we owe them? Cris Beam, a foster mother herself, spent five years immersed in the world of foster care looking into these questions and tracing firsthand stories. The result is To the End of June, an unforgettable portrait that takes us deep inside the lives of foster children in their search for a stable, loving family. Beam shows us the intricacies of growing up in the system—the back-and-forth with agencies, the rootless shuffling between homes, the emotionally charged tug between foster and birth parents, the terrifying push out of foster care and into adulthood. Humanizing and challenging a broken system, To the End of June offers a tribute to resiliency and hope for real change. “A triumph of narrative reporting and storytelling.” —The New York Times “[A] powerful . . . and refreshing read.” —Chicago Tribune “A sharp critique of foster-care policies and a searching exploration of the meaning of family.” —Publishers Weekly (starred review) “Heart-rending and tentatively hopeful.” —Salon