If Only I Had Known...: Avoiding Common Mistakes in Couples Therapy


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Creating tactics for getting it right the first time. The co-authors draw on over thirty years of experience to show young therapists how and how not to conduct psychotherapy. Each chapter begins with a vignette illustrating a common mistake, then describes the error in detail, explains why therapists make the mistake and offers tactics for avoiding it.




If Only I Had Known...: Avoiding Common Mistakes in Couples Therapy


Book Description

Psychotherapy literature is often "how-to" in nature: A problem is presented and various approaches are offered to help therapists effect change in their clients, giving the impression that assessment, diagnosis, and intervention are simple and formulaic. But as any practitioner knows, therapy is anything but formulaic. Unanticipated situations often arise and inadvertent errors are often made. If Only I Had Known . . . offers help, exploring the most common philosophical, theoretical, and timing-related errors couples therapists make, and what to do to resolve them. Chapters focus on a specific mistake'ncluding confidentiality breaches, side-taking, inadequate listening, faulty interpretations and interventions, the imposition of spirituality, and the promotion of unrealistic expectations'xplaining why it happens, and offering concrete strategies for avoiding it. Case vignettes and sample dialogues demonstrate how mistakes can arise in a clinical setting and how to effectively prevent them, or, once they have been made, how to recover. No therapist can hope to completely avoid therapeutic blunders, but If Only I Had Known . . . will help beginner and seasoned couples therapists, as well as students of couples therapy, become more aware of the potential pitfalls and learn from them as they strive to be productive, if not perfect, therapists.




Clinical Pearls of Wisdom: 21 Leading Therapists Offer Their Key Insights


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Often when you attend conferences you overhear people telling their colleagues about the most exciting workshops they have attended. Here, for your reading and clinical pleasure, is a book that contains just these clinical 'pearls' of wisdom, from the field's leading practitioners.




Divorce Busting


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A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.




Real-World Couple Counseling and Therapy


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Real-World Couple Counseling and Therapy: An Introductory Guide provides practitioners with an inclusive exploration of the unique features, challenges, and opportunities of contemporary couple counseling. Integrating CBT, existential, and systems approaches, and based on best available research, the text offers guidelines for beginning couple therapists along with breadth and depth of coverage. Comprehensive and pragmatic, it examines the essence of the field: assessment, ethics, tr




Emotionally Focused Therapy with African American Couples


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Emotionally Focused Therapy with African American Couples: Love Heals is an essential guide that integrates emotionally focused therapy (EFT) with cultural humility. It provides a pathbreaking, evidence-based model of couples work that reinforces the bond between partners in the face of race-based distress. Guillory explores and brings a deep understanding of the legacy of racial trauma, and the cultural strengths of African American couples by using real-life case studies. The chapters in the book focus on several key clinical issues in the field, such as communication problems, anxiety, infidelity, depression, and porn. Each case study is enhanced by a consultation with EFT master therapist Sue Johnson. The book is an essential text for students and mental health professionals looking to provide culturally competent therapeutic interventions. It will also appeal to psychologists, mental health workers, social workers, marriage and family therapists, and religious leaders.




Learn to Love


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Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is a book about learning to improve your love life. After 30 years of clinical research and treatment of patients with unhealthy love lives, I now recognize that most people are not in control of their love lives. Why? Because most people don't know what they've learned about and from the love relationships in the course of their lives. Love relationships that started in their families of origin the moment they were born. If you don't know what you've learned about love relationships, then what you've learned is in control of your love life, healthy or unhealthy. If what you've learned was healthy, no problem. Chances are you'll simply replicate what you've learned about love relationships. If what you've learned was unhealthy, you could be unwittingly making the same love life mistakes over and over again because of what you've learned. Learn to Love will show you how to identify what you've learned about love relationships, how to unlearn what is unhealthy, and practice something new, healthy, and the opposite of what you've learned, now as a corrective in your adult love life. This simple learning formulate has helped many of my patients begin taking control of their own love lives, as well as helping me improve my own love life. Learn to Love will help you learn how to take control of your love life. Dr. Thomas Jordan




In Quest of the Mythical Mate


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In Quest of the Mythical Mate presents a valuable and fertile developmental model for diagnosing and treating couples that is flexible enough to incorporate a wide variety of intervention strategies, yet purposeful enough to give a clear sense of direction to couples in distress. As such, this volume provides a powerful therapeutic approach for all professionals who treat couples.




Eight Dates


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Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.




Working with High-Risk Adolescents


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This innovative book focuses on helping high-risk adolescents and their families rapidly resolve long-standing difficulties. Matthew D. Selekman spells out a range of solution-focused strategies and other techniques, illustrating their implementation with vivid case examples. His approach augments individual and family sessions with collaborative meetings that enlist the strengths of the adolescent's social network and key helping professionals from larger systems. User-friendly features include checklists, sample questions to aid in relationship building and goal setting, and reproducible forms that can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2" x 11" size. Blending family therapy science with therapeutic artistry, the book significantly refines and updates the approach originally presented in Selekman's Pathways to Change.