Lying, Cheating, Bullying and Narcissism


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This vibrant book examines individual and societal factors contributing to the rise of lying, cheating, bullying, and narcissism, with emphasis on the influence of Trumpism and the valuing of “getting things done” over the importance of self-discipline and issues of morality. George Bear explores individual and environmental factors that influence the development of self-discipline. He examines reasons for the growing prevalence of lying, cheating, bullying, and narcissism and their underlying factors, and the role of parenting and peer relationships in their development. The volume highlights the critical roles that moral reasoning, moral emotions, and mechanisms of moral disengagement play in dishonest and harmful behavior. Lying, Cheating, Bullying, and Narcissism is for students and scholars of child development, parenting, psychopathology, and criminology; professionals in psychology, mental health, and education; as well as others interested in the prevalence and roots of lying, cheating, bullying, and narcissism in America.




How Many Lies Are Too Many?


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How many lies are too many? How many are you willing to take? Is there ever a good reason to lie to your lover? Are you involved with a married man or woman and he or she still hasn't left the spouse? Does your gut tell you that something doesn't seem quite right in your relationship? Are you accused of lying when you don't? Are you being accused of cheating when you haven't cheated? There are many reasons why people lie and many reasons why people let lies slip. How many lies are you willing to listen to before you call it quits?




Understanding Narcissists


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This book identifies the behaviors and attitudes reflective of excessive self-interest and self-centered people and provides a framework for reducing the negative effects that these individuals have on their family, friends, and colleagues. This book will guide readers to understand the various indices of observable and destructive narcissistic behaviors and attitudes that are exhibited in everyday interactions with self-inflated people, focusing on the larger societal impacts of those behaviors. Further, the text makes suggestions for effectively managing the negative impact of the Destructive Narcissistic Pattern (DNP), which includes such attributes as anger and shame, and instructs readers how to grow and develop Healthy Adult Narcissism (HAN) consisting of empathy, wisdom, humor, and zest. This book differs from others on the same topic by illustrating the various ways that excessive self-esteem is portrayed in the media as well as presenting the perspective that there are many different ways to exhibit the varied self-inflated, self-centered behaviors and attitudes in everyday adult behaviors and relationships. By the end, this text aims to encourage healthy valuations of self and others that create a sense of purpose; personal satisfaction; and enduring, meaningful relationships.




Otto Kernberg


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In this book, Frank E. Yeomans, Diana Diamond, and Eve Caligor provide a systemic review of Otto Kernberg’s multiple contributions to psychoanalysis, psychiatry, psychology, and our understanding of the mind and group behavior. The book spans the full scope of Kernberg’s career, both highlighting the diversity of topics on which his writings have shed light and emphasizing conceptual threads that link the different areas of his work. It accessibly follows the experiences that had an impact on the development of his thought and the increasingly strong impact his writing and thinking have had on psychoanalysis and related fields. The authors draw on their decades of working closely with Kernberg to offer a unique insight into his teaching and research, focusing on his work on borderline and narcissistic pathology and the fundamental conceptualization of personality disorders. Including an overview of Kernberg’s critique and expansion of traditional psychoanalytic training, as well as his role in developing transference-focused psychotherapy, this book is an invaluable guide to students, researchers, and analysts in practice and training looking to integrate Kernberg’s ideas into their own clinical and theoretical work.




The Talent Delusion


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'This book shows how to find, attract, develop, motivate, and retain stars. It's full of evidence and provocative ideas to help every talent leader' Dr Adam Grant, Wharton Professor, New York Times bestselling author, Originals and Give and Take 'This is the book I want to hand every manager I've ever worked with . . . Every chapter is filled with quotes, findings, and ideas that I want to post on Twitter and share with the world' Dr. Todd Carlisle, VP of HR, Twitter WHY THE SCIENCE OF PEOPLE IS YOUR KEY WEAPON IN THE WAR FOR TALENT All organisations have problems, and they nearly always concern people: how to manage them; whom to hire, fire or promote; and how to motivate, develop and retain high potential employees. Psychology, the main science for understanding people, should be a pivotal tool for solving these problems - yet most companies play it by ear, and billions of dollars are wasted on futile interventions to attract and retain the right people for key roles. Bridging the gap between the psychological science of talent and common real-world talent practices, The Talent Delusion aims to educate HR practitioners and leaders on how to measure, predict and manage talent. It will provide readers with data-driven solution to the common problems around employee selection, development and engagement; how to define and evaluate talent; how to detect and inhibit toxic employee behaviours; and how to identify and harness leadership potential.




Fragile Bully


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Obsessive self-promotion, an aggressive triggering response, and retaliatory rants. “Both sensitive and incisive, beautifully capturing the paradoxical dynamic of narcissism—that the grandiosity and surrounding bravado belies an underlying fragility and brittleness.” —Kenneth N. Levy, PhD, Associate Professor, Penn State University; Senior Fellow, Personality Disorders Institute, Cornell University Even before Donald Trump entered America’s highest office, an international survey revealed that narcissism is part of the assumed “national character” of Americans. While only a small number actually meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder, those exploitive few have a way of gaining center stage in our culture. Fragile Bully: Understanding Our Destructive Affair With Narcissism in the Age of Trump looks beyond the sound bites of self-aggrandizing celebrities and selfish tweets to the real problem of narcissism. We see past the solo act to the vicious circles that arise in relationships with a fragile bully, and how patterns like this generate both power and self-destruction. We also look at the problem of Echo, how so many of us get hooked by the narcissist, and how variations on the destructive affair leave both partners dehumanized and diminished. Once we recognize the steps in each dance, we can break the cycle and allow and the possibility of true engagement.




The Human Magnet Syndrome


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"Born in the cauldron of personal experience of suffering and healing and honed through years of professional experience, this book will help anyone understand the attractors of love and consequent suffering. I recommend it to couples who are mystified by the depth and repitition of their pain and joy and to therapists whose destiny is to help them." ~ Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., co-author with Helen LaKelly Hunt of Making Marriage Simple: Transform the Relationship you Have Into the Relationship you Want Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. When individuals with healthy emotional backgrounds meet, the irresistible “love force” creates a sustainable, reciprocal and stable relationship. Codependents and emotional manipulators are similarly enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful “seesaw” of love, pain, hope and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent’s dreams will become the emotional manipulator of their nightmares. Readers of the Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them. This book will guide and inspire both the layman and the professional.




Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life


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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity—but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters—their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.




Lying, Cheating, and Carrying On


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What constitutes a lie? What are the different types of lies? Why do people lie? Is dishonesty ubiquitous in human experience? And what should be done with individuals who seek pschotherapeutic help and yet can not reveal important aspects of their lives and even fabricate histories, associations, and dreams? Such questions form the backbone of this exceptional book. Starting with the emergence of the capacity to lie in childhood and the formative influence of the family in children's moral development, the discourse goes on to include the variety of adulthood lies, including social lies, existential lies, pathological lies, narcissistic lies, and sociopathic lies. Contributions from distinguished psychoanalysts like Salman Akhtar, Harold Blum, Ruth Fischer, Lucy LaFarge, Henri Parens, and Michael Stone, along with others, explore the impact of dishonesty on the internal and external realities of an individual. Malignant forms of lies involving serious character pathology and criminality, as well as their detection, are also discussed. The book's aim is to help therapists enhance their empathy with patients who are compelled to lie and to provide them with better therapeutic strategies to deal with the clinical dilemmas that arise in working with such children and adults.




Stop Narcissistic Behaviors


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Jordan Ellis brings a wealth of knowledge from years of one-on-one therapy, group work, and personal growth, providing actionable strategies that have helped him foster self-awareness, heal emotional wounds, and develop genuine empathy. You now have access to a guide that provides clarity, guidance, and validation, empowering you to forge healthier connections with family, friends, and romantic partners. It also equips you to enhance your professional life, whether as a leader, colleague, or entrepreneur. What you will get: Uncover the true origins of your narc behaviors and learn how to overcome them Gain crucial advice to rebuild trust in damaged relationships Master communication with step-by-step guidance: listen more, hurt less! Use therapeutic techniques to develop secure and stable self-worth, independent of external validation Address and heal from the childhood traumas that underpin narc behaviors Overcome denial and self-loathing through guided therapeutic practices Discover 6 simple tools to embrace authenticity, even if you currently struggle to admit your vulnerabilities Implement simple strategies to understand and manage your feelings, as well as respond constructively to the emotions of others Learn the #1 way to feel valued and appreciated, even if your narcissistic traits hinder your capacity to express and receive love Engage with insightful prompts that encourage self-reflection, empowering you to carve a path toward a richer future Adopt techniques to end blame games and say hello to accountability. And much more!! This approach has transformed many from feelings of frustration and stagnation to a clear understanding of their path forward. However, it only works if you are willing to look deep inside yourself and are committed to improving all your relationships, including the one with yourself.