Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage


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Written for anyone contemplating -- or already in -- a remarriage, this book is a complete and indispensable guide to the financial systems, options, and solutions that work. Here, told in a lively, anecdotal, and empathetic manner, is everything you need to know about handling your money in a remarriage, as well as resolving the complicated emotions connected with the subject. Anyone who has said "I do" more than once knows that the financial considerations of a remarriage are remarkably different from those of a first marriage. Remarrieds walk down the aisle with a heavy train of financial responsibilities -- especially if they have dependent children from another marriage. They may bring unequal assets to the union. They often face financial strain when they decide to have a child. They are financially tied to former spouses -- even husbands of former spouses. Figuring out how to deal with these complexities at the same time one is dealing with the other aspects of remarriage can seem overwhelming. By providing financial-planning advice and ideas, illustrated with solutions other remarried couples have come up with, Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage helps you deal sensibly, practically, and constructively with the countless financial aggravations and pressures that occur in remarriage. Topics addressed include: allocating assets fairly; whether or not to have a prenuptial agreement; deciding where to live and how to pay for it; sending the children/stepchildren to college -- whose responsibility is it, anyway?; establishing a viable checking system; sharing everyday financial chores; drawing up an estate plan that's fair to all family members; saving intelligently for retirement. Money Advice for Your Successful Remarriage addresses less concrete but equally "hot" interpersonal issues: communicating effectively about financial matters; resolving disputes arising from different money styles and approaches to money ; making the leap from sexual fidelity to financial fidelity. For the new American family -- the remarried family -- this book elevates the art of creative problem solving to a new level. By putting money in its place, it helps you concentrate on the reason you got remarried: because you love each other.




The Remarriage Checkup


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RELIGION & BELIEFS. It's Time for a Relationship Checkup! Getting routine physicals and dental checkups is essential to your health. And your car needs a regular oil change. But what about your relationship? Dating and married couples rarely, if ever, do a checkup on their relationship. But the sooner you identify problems and find ways to resolve them, the easier it will be to create a strong future. And the sooner you discover your relationship strengths and build on them, the deeper and more intimate your relationship will be. Each chapter of The Remarriage Checkup explores one of the key qualities of happy remarriage relationships. Like a GPS device for your relationship, this book has a CPS (Couple Positioning System) and built-in discussion questions that can help you and your partner discover where you are, where you'd like to be, and how to get there.




The Budget Kit


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The Smart Stepfamily


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Discover the Keys to a Healthy Stepfamily Leading stepfamily expert Ron L. Deal reveals the seven fundamental steps to blended family success and provides practical, realistic solutions to the issues you face as a stepfamily. Whether married or soon-to-be-married, you'll discover how to · Solve the everyday puzzles of stepparenting and stepchildren relationships · Communicate effectively with an ex-spouse · Handle stepfamily finances confidently · "Cook" your stepfamily slowly rather than expect an instant blend This revised and expanded edition has updated research and two new chapters with even more real-world advice on topics such as stepsibling relationships and later-life stepfamilies.




The Remarriage Book


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Note - links below will take you articles and resources in the nonprofit Break the Cycle! Web site (formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"). Use your browser´s "back" button to return to Xlibris.com. Love is not enough... Typical new stepparents and bioparents (co-parents) usually find that building a multi-home stepfamily is unexpectedly confusing and conflictual. Most recent stepfamily literature estimates that over half of American co-parents who attempt re/marriage after divorce or mate death ultimately re/divorce psychologically or legally - despite their love, maturity, commitment, and experience. The "/" notes that it may be a stepparent´s first union. This unique guidebook results from 27 years´ research into why so many U.S. couples re/divorce. It appears that there are five factors that combine to often defeat love´s brightest dreams: unseen psychological wounds from childhood in stepfamily adults and kids, and... blocked grief from two or three major sets of losses in some co-parents and/or stepkids; and... co-parent unawareness of (a) their inner family of subselves and related psychological wounds; (b) healthy grieving basics; (c) vital parenting and relationship skills and (d) stepfamily realities; and... These factors and high neediness causing one or both partners to commit to wounded, unaware people (mate + ex mate + stepkids), for the wrong reasons, at the wrong time; and... Little informed co-parent support available in the media and their community. My work as a stepfamily therapist since 1981 suggests that courting and re/married partners can work patiently at 12 Projects together to overcome these five re/marital hazards and forge a strong, nourishing re/marriage




Love, Marriage, and Money


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Communication tips combined with financial strategies fortify this powerful, yet fun-to-read resource for those contemplating tying the knot. Succinct and to the point, this book blends psychological, legal, and financial information together for anyone about to say "I do".




Finding the Right One After Divorce


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There are 23 million divorced people in the United States today. More than 80 percent of these people will remarry, and many of those marriages will fail. Divorce recovery experts Edward Tauber and Jim Smoke draw on their 30 years of experience as divorce counselors and a survey of more than 600 individuals to explore why people end up divorced again and what they can do to successfully remarry. To help readers avoid making the mistakes others have made, the authors present 13 wrong reasons to remarry, including: loneliness need to be needed to provide fathers or moms for kids to prove the divorce wasn't their fault they've found their "soul mates" Tauber and Smoke provide practical guidelines based on biblical principles to help people find partners who share values, have compatible personalities, agree on child-raising principles, and more. Includes helpful "Ready2Remarry" self test.




The Smart Stepfamily Marriage


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Make This Marriage Last a Lifetime Leading blended family authority Ron Deal and marriage and family expert David Olson show you how to build on your relationship strengths and improve your weaknesses. Whether you're dating, engaged, a young stepfamily, or an empty-nest couple, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage gives you the tools you need at any stage to create a remarriage that will last. Each chapter of this book explores one of the key qualities of happy remarriages as identified by research. Like a GPS for your relationship, this book has built-in discussion questions that can help you and your partner discover where you are, where you'd like to be, and how to get there. The online survey gives you a report with personalized results for your relationship. "The Smart Stepfamily Marriage is the road map to a healthy marriage."--Gary D. Chapman, PhD, author, The Five Love Languages and When Sorry Isn't Enough "Remarried or marrying again? This book is loaded with specific, useful ideas for helping your marriage reach its full potential."--Scott Stanley, PhD, author, A Lasting Promise; research professor, University of Denver "This book is a must-read for any remarried couple. It includes the tools needed to create and maintain a wonderful remarriage."--from the foreword by Evelyn Husband Thompson, widow of Space Shuttle Columbia Commander Rick Husband, now remarried to Bill Thompson "The Smart Stepfamily Marriage is the most up-to-date, relevant, complete guide for remarried couples--I know of no other resource like it."--Francesca Adler-Baeder, PhD, professor and director, Center for Children, Youth, and Families, Auburn University; director, National Stepfamily Resource Center "This book will help you thrive in your marriage and beat the odds of divorce. The preventative information is the best I have ever seen, and the practical application covers it all. I have put The Smart Stepfamily Marriage at the top of my resource library for couples who find themselves in this beautiful and yet challenging world of remarriage."--Jim Burns, PhD, president, HomeWord, author of Creating an Intimate Marriage, Confident Parenting, and The Purity Code "Remarriages have unique challenges and different relational needs than first marriages. Based on a national study of 50,000 couples, this book is a wonderful resource for remarriage couples. Take the online Couple Checkup and get a report about your relationship, read the book, and build a relationship that lasts!"--Dr. Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships "You want a marriage that lasts forever, right? Blended family couples can beat the odds--this book will tell you how."--Dr. Dennis Rainey, president of FamilyLife, author of Stepping Up




It Pays to Talk


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Does your family talk about money? Do your kids understand your money values? Do you and your mate agree on how you spend and invest your money? Do you know if your parents are financially secure? These are the questions that Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz and her father, Charles Schwab, ask at the beginning of this invaluable family financial primer. The authors acknowledge that these are difficult questions but stress that families must grapple with them and come up with answers. Despite the proliferation of the financial news media, money remains a taboo subject in most families. Often the mere thought of talking about money with a family member causes enormous personal stress and confusion. But it doesn’t have to be that way. The goal of this father-daughter collaboration is to bring solid financial advice into the context of family, where it can be explored, understood, and implemented to the benefit of everyone. The first essential thing that must happen is conversation, and It Pays to Talk is filled with advice about how to start talking. The authors are both working parents with a combined sixty-five years of knowledge and experience in the investment field. In this book they present a road map that every family can follow as they develop and implement an investment strategy and money-management plan. They begin by covering the fundamental principles that every investor needs to understand in order to succeed for the long term, and then they move on to cover joining forces in marriage; building your family’s wealth regardless of market conditions; investing for your children’s future and raising money-savvy kids; retirement planning; estate planning for you and your parents; and dealing with the unexpected—insurance, divorce, and investing a windfall. Throughout the book, the authors offer advice about how to start the often difficult conversations that lead to smart decision-making, as well as how to talk gently, intelligently, and respectfully about the many issues that define and shape our attitudes about money. It does pay to talk. This valuable and expert book will get you started and help you at every stage of your family’s investment career.




The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-Wife


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A funny, honest, and empathetic resource for the novice stepmother on maintaining sanity, solving hair-raising identity issues, regaining a sense of humor, and surviving what you did for love.... What happens when the honeymoon comes to a screeching halt and you're faced with a houseful of rambunctious children, an ever-present ex-wife, and a new husband trying to balance the chaos? This helpful guide includes advice on: • The kids: Adjusting to suspicion, resentment, and biological-parent loyalties • The ex-wife: Living calmly alongside her, whether she's a psycho or the perfect mother • The holidays: Accommodating old family traditions and developing new ones • The sex: Keeping love alive through the kids' bed-wettings and nightmares • The finances: Building safety nets and avoiding financial disasters • The urge to be evil: Accepting it, and then stopping yourself from saying something you'll regret—to him, the kids, or her • Plus an invaluable list of resources, websites, publications, and organizations specifically for the new stepmother