Adult Children of Divorce


Book Description

If your parents divorced when you were young, you were probably affected by the breakdown fo their marriage. Divided loyalties, secrets kept from the other parent, one life lived in two separate houses—these may have been par for the course. With this guide, you will learn that the effects of the divorce are not permanently harmful. Find out how to forgive your parents, discover new ways to enrich your own relationships and learn that there are alternative realities available. Divorce experts and psychologists Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D., and Elizabeth S. Thayer Ph.D., show you how to recognize how your parents’ divorce influenced your life, resulting in disruptions such as relationship failures due to financial reasons, difficulties with commitment, and repeated situations that “just don’t seem to work out.” They provide techniques to help you understand and overcome these and other issues common to adult children of divorced parents. Zimmerman and Thayer focus on helping you learn how to build self-esteem, become resilient, establish healthy boundaries, communicate clearly, open up to trust, show love, believe in commitment and deal with vulnerable feelings.




Primal Loss


Book Description

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.




Daughters of Divorce


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Restore your faith in love and build healthy, successful relationships with this essential guide for every woman haunted by her parents' divorce. Silver Medal Independent Publisher's Award Winner of the Best Book Award in "Self-Help: Relationships" Over 40 percent of Americans ages eighteen to forty are children of divorce. Yet women with divorced parents are more than twice as likely than men to get divorced themselves and struggle in romantic relationships. In this powerful, uplifting guide, mother-daughter team Terry and Tracy draws on thirty years of clinical practice and interviews with over 320 daughters of divorce to help you recognize and overcome the unique emotional issues that parental separation creates so you can build the happy, long-lasting relationships you deserve. Learn how to: Examine your parents' breakup from an adult perspective Heal the wounds of the past Recognize destructive dynamics in intimate relationships and take steps to change them Trust yourself and others by embracing vulnerability Create strong partnerships with their proven Seven Steps to a Successful Relationship Break the divorce legacy once and for all!




A Grief Out of Season


Book Description

Instructs adults how to deal with parents who are getting divorced late in life and how to cope with their own distress




Now what Do I Do?


Book Description

How do you deal with it? - Blame - Whose fault? - Self esteem - Family breakups - Caught in the battle zone - Parents - how do I deal with them? -Anger - Forgiveness - Spiritual zone.




Parenting After Divorce


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"Your divorce doesn't have to damage your children..., " Stahl assures, " ... especially if you limit your children's exposure to your conflicts." He knows parents are not perfect, and he uses that knowledge to show imperfect parents how to settle their differences in the best interests of the children. This revised and updated second edition features ideas from the latest research, more information on long-distance parenting, dealing with the courts, and working with a difficult co-parent. A realistic perspective on divorce and its effects on children, Parenting After Divorce features knowledgeable advice from an expert custody evaluator. Packed with real-world examples, this book avoids idealistic assumptions, and offers practical help for divorcing parents, custody evaluators, family court counselors, marriage and family therapists and others interested in the best interests of the children.




Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce


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A guide for adult children of divorce that discusses how to identify their inherited distrust of relationships and go on to have rich, fulfilling, and lasting relationships of their own.




It's Not Your Fault


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What has brought the most pain and problems into your life? For many teens and young adults, the answer is their parents' separation or divorce. Yet nobody shows them how to handle all the pain and problems that stem from their family's breakdown. As a result, they continue to feel alone and struggle in serious ways with emotional problems, unhealthy coping, relationship struggles, and more. It's Not Your Fault is a practical guide to successfully navigating the 33 most pressing challenges faced by teens and young adults from broken homes. As a child of divorce himself, author Joey Pontarelli has found solutions to the pain and problems from his parents' breakup for the past 17 years. Drawing from research, expert advice, and real-life stories, he offers tools to cope in healthy ways, overcome emotional problems, form thriving relationships, and build virtue. After reading It's Not Your Fault, teens and young adults, or adults who love or lead them, will know: How to handle the trauma of their parents' divorce or separation How to build healthy relationships How to overcome emotional pain and problems Healing tactics to help them feel whole again How to navigate their relationship with their parents Healing their relationship with God How to make important decisions about their future Young people from broken homes have been neglected for far too long. They deserve better. They deserve the help they need to undo the cycle of dysfunction and divorce. This book is the long-awaited resource that will help them stop feeling alone and guide them along their journey.




Getting Through My Parents' Divorce


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Is your child stuck in the middle of a high-conflict divorce? In Getting Through My Parents' Divorce, two psychologists and experts in parental alienation offer a fun and engaging workbook to help kids work through stressful or confusing emotions and feel safe and loved—no matter what. Divorce is never easy. But for kids who have parents in conflict with one another, or where one parent is so hostile that he or she is actively trying to undermine the kids’ relationship with the other parent, divorce can be unbearable. This workbook is designed especially for kids, and includes helpful tips and exercises to help them deal with the negative impact of custody disputes, understand and identify their feelings, learn to cope with stress and other complex emotions, and feel secure. Written by two leading experts in child psychology, this easy-to-use workbook includes a number of helpful suggestions to guide children though a number of possible scenarios, such as what to do if one parent says mean and untrue things about the other parent; what to do if a parent asks them to keep secrets from another parent; or what to do if one parent attempts to replace the other parent with a new spouse. If you have or know a child that is dealing with a difficult divorce, this workbook will give them the tools needed to move past loyalty conflicts and the difficult emotions that can arise when parents don’t get along.




Choose a Better Path


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Millions of adults have divorced parents. Choose a Better Path provides thought-provoking, helpful, and healing information for adult children of divorce in a user-friendly format.Through workshops, interviews, articles, and international radio programs, Kent Darcie helps adults with divorced parents apply God's healing to triggers, fears, trust issues, anger, father hunger, unforgiveness, and the fallout from gray divorce (empty-nest parents splitting up). As a researcher, author, speaker, therapist, and adult with divorced parents, Kent brings a wealth of information and tools to those who struggle when dealing with parents, steps, ex-steps, and the menagerie of players that come and go in the years that follow the divorce. While never bashing or demeaning divorced parents or others, Kent does tackle the tough and often subtle issues that damage the relationships and marriages of adult children of divorce. If you, or someone you know, have divorced parents, reading Choose a Better Path is an important step toward breaking the cycle of divorce.