Relinquishment and Addiction


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Despite knowing the risk for relinquished persons, there remains a chasm in awareness, both within and outside the adoption community about the special, unspoken, and unmet needs of relinquished persons and their families. The authors, David B. Bohl, MA and Jamie Marich, PhD, therefore provide an overview of the complex issues involved in relinquishment and adoption, and in particular, as they relate to susceptibility of addiction. Topics include discussions of Developmental Trauma, Understanding (or Misunderstanding) Relinquishment, Adoption and Addiction, Addiction in Relinquishees, and other resources.




Parallel Universes


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In this poignant and powerful memoir, David B. Bohl reveals the inner turmoil and broad spectrum of warring emotions--shame, anger, triumph, shyness, pride--he experienced growing up as a "relinquished" boy. Adopted at birth by a prosperous family, Bohl battled throughout his earlier years to keep up a good front and surpass expectations as he tried desperately to fit in. An over-achiever at everything he undertook, whether in sailing, academics, or life as a trader on the Chicago Exchange floor, he continued his search for happiness, often finding it in a bottle or pill, and ultimately becoming a raging and wealthy alcoholic. Not until David marries and has children of his own does he feel compelled to search for his birth parents to discover if genetics played a role in the well-being of his offspring. "Baby Boy Bender," as he was labeled in the adoption papers, had been born to a red-haired co-ed who struggled with alcoholism and an athlete who later died of a brain tumor. After several severe seizures and frequent blackouts, it was time to make a drastic change and admit his addiction. Raised with no religious teachings, David struggled with traditional recovery fellowships and sought out secular supports, where he finally fit in. This support allowed him to learn the stark facts about mental health and addiction, as well as the monumental issues many "relinquishees" need to overcome to find peace and a quality of life they deserve.




The Language of Letting Go


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Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care. Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency.Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.




Addiction


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It started innocently enough. Beautiful Harper gave Sean those eyes… those eyes that meant, yes, take me. But Harper didn’t know Sean’s secrets… She didn’t know that he liked it rough. More than rough. He liked to dominate. To punish. To degrade. It was the only way that the black hole in his soul wouldn’t swallow him up. He would push her a little too far, and she would run. They all ran, eventually. But that’s not what happened... when he put his hands around her throat and squeezed, Harper moaned. When he told her to stay away, she didn’t listen, misbehaving until she got spanked. When he took out the handcuffs, there was excitement in her eyes, mixed with a little fear. The doe-eyed redhead liked it. More than that, she wanted it. She said so, time and again. That’s the thing about sexy strangers, though… you never know what they’re hiding. And Harper is carrying a burden so heavy that even Sean’s secrets pale in comparison.




When Someone You Love Is Addicted to Something You Hate


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Frustrated over love-destroying behaviors in a loved one? Ready to throw in the towel and give up on or divorce your addict? Tired of spending thousands of dollars on treatments that don''t seem to work? Then this book is for you. Written by someone who has lived with an addict in the family for her entire life, this booklet offers a practical, scientific and Biblical approach to help you help your loved one struggling with addiction. It explains the why behind the what of your loved one''s frustrating behaviors and offers a roadmap that will lead to your recovery, and hopefully, your loved one''s recovery. Clear-eyed and realistic, this concise booklet is a must-read for family members and their pastoral caregivers to be on the same page and to speak with one loving voice to the suffering loved one. Included in the booklet is a link to a video of the Ryans'' story of rescue from a marriage nearly shipwrecked by narcotic addiction that can be used as a discussion-generating tool for groups or couples seeking recovery. Barbara Dixon Ryan is a lawyer, substance abuse counselor, peer recovery specialist and a lover of people. She has taken seminary level courses from the Christian Counseling and Education Foundation and is an avid reader and gleaner in the field of substance abuse recovery. She has been active in her own recovery community for 15 years and writes, counsels and teaches on Biblical themes. She is the mother of three, the grandmother of three, and wife of one (with whom separation-unto-reconciliation was twice necessary). Her youngest daughter is non-verbal, severely developmentally challenged and is on the autism spectrum. The Lord God has given her the tongue of one who has been taught, so that she can sustain others who are weary with words of encouragement. (Isaiah 50:4 is her life verse.) She can be reached at [email protected]. Barbara knows the hell of addiction....her book is a guide through the labyrinth of relational, emotional and institutional chaos. I am enormously grateful that my clients will now have an ally that wisely provides a coherent and robust way forward...a must-read. Dan B. Allender, Ph.D.; Professor of Counseling Psychology and Founding President, The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology Barbara Dixon Ryan writes from both the head and the heart, having experienced firsthand the grief of loving an addict....I recommend this volume to anyone who finds themselves loving someone who is addicted to something they hate. Kathy Keller, author and co-founder with Tim Keller, Redeemer Presbyterian Church, New York City "I wish I had had this booklet twenty years ago! Helpful, concise and wise. I highly recommend it." Rev. Dr. John Yates, Rector, the Falls Church Epsicopal/Anglican, 1979-2019 Do not read this book unless you want to learn, step-by-step, how tough Christian love is more powerful than the worst addiction has to offer. But if you need to know what to do, from intervention to relinquishment, this booklet is for you. Robert S. Brown, MD, Ph.D., COL (Ret.), formerly Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, School of Medicine, and Professor of Education, University of Virginia "The ''opioid epidemic'' is no abstraction. It touches almost every family and this publication is the practical aide you need, grounded in neuroscience, theology, and personal wisdom. I highly endorse Barbara''s work." Dawn Murphy Phillips, Former Assistant Prosecutor, Virginia Courts, currently a Child Advocacy Attorney Barbara Ryan lives, writes, and knows addiction-in-the-family recovery fully. She has been a resource for me and will be a resource for you. She knows the questions you have and points you to the answers you need. Reverend Mark Davis, Senior Pastor, Park Cities Presbyterian Church, Dallas, Texas




Principles and Practice of Group Work in Addictions


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This book has been written with the aim of addressing the key areas in working with drug and alcohol misuse whilst providing practical solutions to the more common problems that emerge in group work.







Addiction as an Attachment Disorder


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This work shows how to give substance abusers an attachment experience and a sense of community where they feel they are accepted and belong. Therapy, directed along the lines described, allows the person to get close to others who are accepting of him without a cost to his identity and autonomy.







Encyclopedia of Motherhood


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In the last decade, the topic of motherhood has emerged as a distinct and established field of scholarly inquiry. A cursory review of motherhood research reveals that hundreds of scholarly articles have been published on almost every motherhood theme imaginable. The Encyclopedia of Motherhood is a collection of approximately 700 articles in a three-volume, A-to-Z set exploring major topics related to motherhood, from geographical, historical and cultural entries to anthropological and psychological contributions. In human society, few institutions are as important as motherhood, and this unique encyclopedia captures the interdisciplinary foundation of the subject in one convenient reference. The Encyclopedia is a comprehensive resource designed to provide an understanding of the complexities of motherhood for academic and public libraries, and is written by academics and institutional experts in the social and behavioural sciences.