Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With An Addiction


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“Don’t let someone else's problem destroy the person you were meant to be. You have the right to live a peaceful and fulfilled life full of love! In the book Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction, Andrea Seydel uses the scientific study of human flourishing and happiness to help you restore joy and teaches the reader how to struggle well through the challenges of addiction. You will learn the power of advocating for yourself and how your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus onto you, not your addicted loved one. Seydel brings a wealth of support, lived experience, and her knowledge of positive psychology to help you prioritize your well-being and safeguard your mental health.” -Louisa Jewell MAPP Do you love someone with an addiction? Are you struggling? There is no mistaking it; addiction is a worldwide epidemic. People who struggle with addiction are not the only ones who feel the impact. If you know someone caught in the grips of addiction, you are undoubtedly living your own nightmare. You are probably desperate to find answers, scrambling to figure out what to do next and losing yourself in the process. Feeling hurt, broken and exhausted. Watching someone in active addiction is like mourning the loss of someone still alive. It is incredibly sad, confusing, and draining. The effects of addiction are rarely limited to the person with the addiction. Everyone around is affected in some way, and often it is family members or partners forced to pick up the broken pieces, make excuses, and potentially endure all types of abuse. The second-hand impact and havoc of addiction are often overlooked and underestimated. Are you done with coming second to addiction? Are you trapped in the line of fire and tired of being on an emotional rollercoaster? Or have you lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else? On the surface, Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction is about navigating the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, resilience, and happiness. But if you dig deeper, it is about creating a life you love, seeing your value, knowing your worth and being inspired to live a life that is better integrated with the person you are meant to be. As a leading voice advancing the science of applied Positive Psychology and the art of well-being, Andrea Seydel is devoted to sharing the science of resilience and ways to enhance your life even through struggle. Trauma and challenges are a fact of life; navigating the turmoil of loving someone with an addiction can be extremely damaging; Seydel teaches the reader how to struggle well and build resilience. Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel provides insights and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster empowerment. When you know it’s time and are ready to prioritize your well-being and safeguard mental health despite someone else's addiction, Andrea Seydel’s book, podcast, and community will support you on the journey back to you. Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction is a helpful community to provide light to a dark path, so you don’t feel alone through this challenge. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s get started on the journey back to you. “An astonishing amount of information on almost every aspect of resilience. When faced with the experience of trauma, manipulation, codependency, and toxic relationships, using research, interventions and the science of well-being, the reader can better advocate for their needs and reclaim their lives. It’s incredible the wealth of knowledge the author has brought together in this book, which has a distinctly holistic and compassionate feel.” -Rob Hannely Recovery Today magazine.




Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself


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Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop? If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship. Some of the most common emotions you will experience include: - Guilt and shame - Anger and anxiety - Confusion and powerlessness Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.




Loving Someone in Recovery


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Recovering addicts are faced with many challenges, and these challenges can often extend to their romantic partners. During the recovery period, couples often struggle with overcoming feelings of betrayal and frustration, and may have a hard time rebuilding trust and closeness. While there are many resources available to recovering addicts, there are limited resources for the people who love them. In Loving Someone in Recovery, therapist Beverly Berg offers powerful tools for the partners of recovering addicts. Based in mindfulness, attachment theory, and neurobiology, this book will help readers sustain emotional stability in their relationships, increase effective communication, establish boundaries, and take real steps toward reigniting intimacy. The material in this book is drawn from the author’s successful Conscious Couples Recovery Workshop. With more than 25 years in the field, she has developed a unique set of exercises that address the issues faced by couples in recovery. This book addresses the roles that both partners play in recovery, and aims to help readers develop a new appreciation for one another and improve self-confidence and acceptance. The road to recovery is never an easy one, but by building a strong support system, the chances of success are exponentially greater. For more information on Berg’s work, visit consciouscouplesrecovery.com




Saving Me: One Day at a Time -Finding Light Amidst the Shadows of Addiction


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"Saving Me: One Day at a Time" is a beacon of hope and healing for anyone touched by the shadows of addiction. Andrea Seydel, drawing from her own personal journey of loving and losing someone to addiction, extends a hand of support and understanding to those facing similar challenges. In this remarkable book, part of the "Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction" series, Seydel brings the principles of positive psychology and resilience to life. Each day, readers will find a wellspring of strength, guidance, and encouragement to navigate the complexities of loving someone with addiction. This book is your daily companion, your source of solace, and your reminder that you are not alone. Seydel's insights are both heartfelt and practical, offering a lifeline of support as you prioritize your own well-being. Through the lens of positive psychology, you'll discover the power of gratitude, personal strength, and resilience in the face of addiction's challenges. If you're walking alongside someone battling addiction, "Saving Me: One Day at a Time" is an indispensable resource. Let it guide you on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment, one day at a time. Together, with Seydel's nurturing wisdom, you can nurture resilience and embrace hope as you step toward a brighter future filled with personal happiness. Rediscover the strength within you, and let each day be a testament to your resilience. With "Saving Me: One Day at a Time," Andrea Seydel offers you a lifeline of support, a wellspring of inspiration, and a path toward healing and reclaiming your life. Don't face addiction's shadows alone; let this book be your daily dose of resilience and hope on your journey to rediscovering joy. Dear Reader, In the midst of life’s challenges, struggles, and uncertainties, always remember this: “Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.” "Saving Me: One Day at a Time" aims to be your daily dose of positivity, providing uplifting support and resilience. It serves as a reminder that even in the darkest moments, there exists a glimmer of light, a spark of hope, and a silver lining. Whether you're on the journey of loving someone with addiction or grieving someone lost to addiction, let this book guide you in rediscovering joy, strength, and the importance of prioritizing your well-being. Each page stands as a testament to your inner resilience, offering compassionate support towards a brighter tomorrow. Know that you are not alone on this journey. Together, we will unearth the good in every day, or at the very least, help you navigate your struggles with grace. With warmth and encouragement, Andrea Seydel




Live Life Happy One Day at a Time


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Every day may not be good. But there is something good in every day. Rise and Shine. Each new day is a gift filled with possibilities. My mom woke me up every morning in my younger years, saying these phrases to me as we greeted the day. Still today, her loving voice and beautiful messages remain. Life is not always going to be sunshine and butterflies. It becomes essential to support your mental health and build resiliency. What is exciting about life is that every morning offers a brand-new day with unlimited possibilities. Yesterday's challenges and mistakes belong to yesterday while providing learning and growth. Today is a fresh, clean slate, a chance to start anew, to do or become anything you want. So jump into each day and Live Life Happy. This perpetual calendar, brimming with engaging support, is filled with daily encouragements and themes designed to enhance your well-being. This book combines the science of positive psychology and human resiliency with uplifting quotes and bite-size nuggets to help foster self-care, personal sustainability and joy. Because sometimes you might need reminders about how joyful and fun Life can be! Tap Into Your Well-Being and Resilience-One day at a time! Andrea Seydel is a positive psychology practitioner, life coach and educator who devotes her career to helping others Live life Happy. She holds a degree in psychology with post-graduate studies in Positive Psychology, Non-violent Communication, and Suicide Intervention. In addition, Andrea is a certified resilience and recovery coach and the host of The Live life Happy Podcast.




The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potential


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Would you like to experience more happiness and spontaneity in your life? Do you feel life isn’t as fun and exciting as it could be and crave more positivity, closer relationships, and a deeper understanding of what matters most to you? You need to play! In the book, The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potential, you will discover how igniting joy and uplifting experiences through the power of play can transform your life, help you through challenging times and even lead you on a path to appreciation and great fulfillment. Play positively matters. From International award-winning fitness professionals and two leading voices advancing the science of applied Positive Psychology and the art of well-being, Elaine O’Brien, Ph.D., and Andrea Seydel are devoted to sharing the science and ways to enhance your life through play. You will discover valuable cutting-edge research and hundreds of FUNTANEOUS activities created to spark your energy, ease your stress, and increase your happiness. You don’t want to underestimate the power of play. Learn the secret of creating a “play mindset” that sparks meaning, loving connections, mastery, and laughs. In this playbook for grownups, you will learn to “optimize your joy potential,” the capacity to be open to experiences of joy, by harnessing your self-awareness, happy habits, and positive action. It’s vital and in your power to play, learn, move, rest, be in nature, perform, and live with wonder every day. Elaine and Andrea will show you how valuing play safeguards your mental health and is essential to your life. The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potentialis designed to show you how you can have much more fun and be happier and healthier. The Power of Play is a game changer.




Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon II


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More daily inspiration from a fresh, diverse perspective. Insightful reflections reveal surprisingly simple things that can transform lives.




Living with an Addict


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Do you love an addict or an alcoholic? Loving an addict is one of the most painful and traumatic life journeys that any sober-minded person can experience. Feelings of betrayal, powerlessness, anger, fear, desperation and raw grief are an ever constant companion. The person you love disappears as they chase their addiction. People who love an addict inadvertently get drawn in by the addict and their lives begin to revolve around the dysfunctional hell that the addict's life is. According to the World Drug Report, approximately 247million people worldwide were in active addiction during 2016. Statistics on alcohol abuse are not as easily determined because alcohol is a socially accepted drug. It is estimated that 1 in every 12 adults suffer from alcohol abuse and dependence. Alcohol is a drug. There is very little that separates the emotional pain and dysfunction that saturates your life whether you love an alcoholic or a drug addict. Both substances are mind-altering, both substances reprogram the human brain, both substances render the addict powerless over their addiction. The only person who can break an addict's addiction is the addict. No one can convince, force, coerce or threaten an addict to seek professional help. No one can love an addict into sobriety either. This book is about understanding and helping your loved one, and also about helping yourself. You can never 'learn' to live with an addict. You either come to accept the hard truth or you separate yourself from the addict. Separation can sometimes drive an addict to seek professional help, but it's no guarantee. Sometimes you have to just let go. This book will explain how your addict thinks; however, understanding alone does not mean that you can protect them and yourself. You also need the psychological reediness to act and face certain outcomes. Let me show you how.




Tending Dandelions


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Mothers of addicted and alcoholic children share a deep connection—one that is rarely understood by anyone who hasn’t experienced a similar path. Sharing our perspectives helps us all grow stronger, together. These meditations continue the tradition of Hazelden’s beloved series of daily readings by providing moments of recognition, confession, and healing for those who are realizing that recovery rarely follows a neat or comfortable path. Along the way, we plant beautiful roses only to be injured by their thorns, and we pull up unwanted dandelions that, at times, are our only source of wishes. By sharing the realities we never expected our families to face, mothers of addicted children support each other through experiences that can only be feared and imagined by others. From our shared struggles emerge opportunities for personal growth. Tending Dandelions is a vital source of wisdom, support, and strength that helps us begin our own journey of recovery. “We all need to take a closer look at the things we’ve avoided—the things lurking around in this place where love and addiction meet—so we’re as strong as we can be.” —Sandra Swenson, author of Tending Dandelions




Saving Jake


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D'Anne Burwell's smart, athletic son-raised in a loving and prosperous home-begins abusing OxyContin as a teenager, and within a year drops out of college, walks out of rehab, and lands homeless on the streets of Boulder. Struggling with fear, guilt, and a desperate need to protect her son, D'Anne grapples with her husband's anger and her daughter's depression as the family disease of addiction impacts them all. She discovers the terrifying links between prescription-drug abuse and skyrocketing heroin use. And she comes to understand that to save her child she must step back and allow him to fight for his own soul. SAVING JAKE gives voice to the devastation shared by the families of addicts, and provides vital hope. Above all, it is a powerful personal story of love and redemption.