Sex in Recovery


Book Description

Healthy sexuality within the context of recovery is rarely talked about openly, in part because the larger culture restricts the space required to name our experiences in open, honest ways. Matesa gives us that space by bringing the language of recovery to this more hidden part of our healing, allowing us to truly “practice these principles in all our affairs." Sexuality in the context of recovery is rarely talked about openly, in part because our broader culture may inhibit us from sharing our true experiences. For some, the prospect of sober sex feels like uncharted waters—in the past, we’ve rarely had sex without first numbing ourselves with drugs and alcohol. What does it mean to have an intimate relationship in sobriety? Exploring that question deepens our recovery journey. With this groundbreaking work, Jennifer Matesa uncovers the challenges real people encounter when they start taking their clothes off—without drinking or using in order to do so. Providing readers “a meeting between the covers,” Matesa blends first-person accounts bravely shared by diverse members of the recovery community, insights from experts, and her own perspectives. The result is a book that creates a space for a vital, new dialogue about sexuality and intimacy. As we find a common language for this more hidden aspect of our healing, we can truly “practice these principles in all our affairs.”




Relationships in Recovery


Book Description

A good relationship is supposed to feel loving, happy and safe. Recovering addicts have often experienced intimate relationships that were distorted in major ways by their addiction. In recovery from addiction a new world opens up-one in which love is no longer fraught with conflict, drama, fear and disappointment. A recovering addict often feels frightened at the prospect of looking for a new relationship or repairing an existing one. But the fact is that all the necessary tools, skills and strengths that were gained in recovery can be adapted to this new area. Assuming you have done a lot of the internal work of addiction recovery, you are now ready to go out into the world in order to find a more rewarding and lasting relationship. Here you will find some simple ways to plan and think about the challenges that you will face and the decisions you will need to make. Why not enjoy the fruits of recovery to the fullest?




Sex and Love


Book Description

2. What is a Sex and Love Addiction? Definition of Addiction, The High, Tolerance, Dependence, Craving, Withdrawal, Obsession, Compulsion, Secrecy, Personality Change, Getting It All Together: Diagnostic Criteria. 3. The Disease Concept of Addictions: Competing Theories of Addictions, The Disease Model of Addiction, The Disease of Sex and Love Addiction, Severity of Sex and Love Addictions. 4. Short-Term Treatment and Recovery: Twelve-Step Programs - H.O.W., Bottom Lines and Triggers, Secrecy, Why Me?, Masks and Attitudes, Relapse and Relapse Prevention. 5. Long-Term Treatment and Recovery: Self-Affirmation, Support Systems, Families, Boundaries, Nurturing and Discipline, PTSD, Healthy Intimacy.




Facing Heartbreak


Book Description

The first workbook to help partners of sex addicts cope with discovering their loved one has compulsive sexual behaviors.




Answers in the Heart


Book Description

Daily reflections for those searching for lasting recovery from sex addiction. The supportive and motivational thoughts in this bestselling collection of daily readings promise to spark the healing, hope, and personal growth anyone addicted to sex needs to embrace recovery. Part of the Hazelden Meditation series, each thought of the day inspires the strength, courage, and mindfulness readers need to overcome patterns of sexual compulsion. Featuring 366 affirmations that complement any Twelve Step program for love addiction or an unhealthy dependence on sexual behavior, this book will become the touchstone to your transformation.




Erotic Intelligence


Book Description

ENJOYABLE, EXCITING SEX IS POSSIBLE AFTER SEX ADDICTION In the journey to sexual sobriety, many sex addicts find themselves wondering, 'How am I going to have a normal relationship?' or 'Will it be possible to repair my marriage now that I've confessed my destructive behavior?' and 'Will I ever have great sex again?' As a sex, marriage, and family therapist, Alexandra Katehakis introduces a successful program for sufferers and their loved ones that will help them hone their erotic intelligence by making sense of the past, creating healthy habits in the present, and looking toward a more intimate relationship that nurtures honesty and closeness. With Katehakis's help, sex addicts can get in touch with their healthy sexual side—and embrace true intimacy and acceptance in themselves and in their mates. - Features true stories of people coming to terms with their sexuality on the other side of sex addiction, as well as couples finding a new path to sexual trust and fulfillment - Helps to build the four cornerstones of intimacy that are essential for healthy relationships




Overcoming Sex Addiction


Book Description

Overcoming Sex Addiction is an accessible self-help guide which uses the principles of cognitive behaviour therapy to help those with problematic or unwanted patterns of sexual behaviour. It is designed for those who are not yet ready to seek professional help or who live in a place where little help is available and can be used in conjunction with general psychotherapy. Written by a leading expert in the field, the book offers an insight into the origins of sex addiction, before going on to explain the cycle of addiction and how to break it. The book has a do-it yourself week-by-week programme of action to tackle compulsive sexual behaviour, and provides extensive advice on relapse prevention to help the reader move forward in recovery. Overcoming Sex Addiction will provide clear, informed guidance for sex addicts and those professionals working with them.




Drugs, Sex, and Recovery


Book Description

Recovery is about living a better life. Picture a life in recovery in which everything fits together like the pieces of a puzzle. Sexuality is a part of that picture--an important piece of the recovery puzzle that many people fail to examine. Sexuality is often fraught with confusion, embarrassment, fear, anxiety, shame, and avoidance. The goal of this workbook is to help you recognize the positive power and role of sexuality in your recovery, thereby creating hope and personal fulfillment in your life. By breaking the daunting subject of sexuality into smaller pieces, the workbook allows you to address sexuality in a safe and healing approach. Topics include healthy sexuality, healing from trauma, types of intimacy, relationships, disclosure of information, spirituality, healthy touch, cultural messages, sexual expression, mental health, body image, sexual functioning and many more. For many readers, this will be the first time you deeply examine sexuality and its connection to your chemical use. As you move through the workbook, questions for reflection are posed to help you examine the relationship between sexuality and your chemical use. Creative exercises move you toward an integrated experience of sexual health. I encourage you to discover, accept, and care for your true sexual self by embarking on this work.




Gifts of Recovery


Book Description

Daily readings for individuals in recovery from sex addiction. These meditations provide 12-Step insights, sobriety tools and tips, lessons for successful recovery, and partner sensitivity. They combine the clinical guidance of a seasoned therapist with the wisdom received by walking a recovery path.




The Recovering Body


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The coronavirus pandemic has heightened awareness of how we're feeling, and what helps keep us healthy. Attending to physical, mental, and spiritual health is essential in times of crisis--especially for bodies in recovery. Just as recovery requires daily practice, so does physical fitness and a healthy lifestyle. In The Recovering Body, seasoned health writer, Jennifer Matesa ignites the recovery community with the first-ever guide to achieving physical recovery as part of your path to lifelong sobriety. In our former lives as practicing alcoholics and addicts, we likely punished our bodies as much as our minds. And yet, recovery programs often neglect the physical, focusing primarily on the mental, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of staying sober.In The Recovering Body, popular health writer and Guinevere Gets Sober blogger Jennifer Matesa provides simple, effective ways for addicts to heal the damage caused by substance abuse, whatever our age, lifestyle, or temperament. Combining solid science and practical guidance, along with her own experience and that of other addicts, Matesa offers a roadmap to creating our own unique approach to physical recovery. Each chapter provides key summaries and helpful checklists, focused on: exercise and activitysleep and restnutrition and fuelsexuality and pleasuremeditation and awarenessMatesa’s holistic approach frames physical fitness as a living amends to self--a transformative gift analogous to the “spiritual fitness” practices worked on in recovery.