Sex and Love at Midlife


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Sexually Woke


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What if it were possible to have the best sex of your life at 40, or even 70? With over twenty years of experience as a highly regarded physician and founder of the largest all-female-staffed OB/GYN practice in the nation, Dr. Susan Hartwick-Smith, also known as Dr. Susan, presents Sexually Woke, a surprisingly frank and thought-provoking look at midlife sexuality. This optimistic new perspective is based not only on wisdom gained from sharing intimate stories with thousands of patients, but also on her own very candid journey as a menopausal woman navigating life post-divorce. Through a unique and comprehensive research study and subsequent interviews, Dr. Susan outlines the misconception and conditioning around our attitudes to mature sex and shares the intimate secrets of a cohort of women who have discovered the path to a vibrant, deeply connected and intimated sex life after 40. These women are the mysterious "Sexually Woke", and their surprising secrets are now available to all of us. Through her own story, as well as the raw and uncensored interviews with study participants that include the "Sexually Woke", Dr. Susan re-frames the second half of life as an open field of possibility in which to play, explore, and finally be your true self. While openly discussing our tremendous struggles-with kids, aging parents, changing careers, divorce, death, abuse, sexual trauma, and personal illness-she teaches us that the wisdom of midlife allows us to look inward in order to recognize the importance of sex in making our lives whole. A reawakened sex life, an essential step towards living life to its fullest, is no longer the secret knowledge of a few outliers. The path to deep sexual connection and satisfaction in midlife and beyond is available to anyone who is ready to commit and willing to embark on the journey with Dr. Susan and Sexually Woke.




Sexing the Midlife


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This paper examines the experiences of women navigating sex amidst midlife transitions within same-sex and different sex long term couples. Data from in-depth interviews with women in 18 same-sex and 18 different-sex couples were analyzed to reveal how transitions related to caregiving, health and aging work to change women’s intra- and interpersonal experiences of sex and sexuality. I extend theories of gender and sexual scripts to examine how women framed and made sense of their changing sex lives in light of larger cultural schemas of gender and sexuality. For example, lesbian women negotiated their discordance from heterosexual scripts by framing their changing sex lives as either similar to those of heterosexual long term couples or too different to be understood through such scripts. Whereas straight women cited their alignment with the script of sexless long term heterosexual marriages, lesbian women negotiated stigmatized heterosexist scripts of lesbian asexuality. I introduce the term of lesbian “bed work” to describe the sense of responsibility and work undertaken to keep up sexual relationships discussed by lesbian women.




Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond


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Better Than Ever


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Is it better than ever? Now that the children have grown and there's more time on your hands as a couple, are you finding that the love and intimacy has gone from your life? It is a fact that as we mature, our sexual drives mature as well, but it is also a fact that while you may slow down and your lovemaking may be different than it was in your youth, that doesn't mean that the quality has to be lower or your pleasure less. In this honest, yet light-hearted volume, replete with delightful stories and anecdotes that present a variety of tools and techniques to help us all develop the kind of openness we desire, Bernie Zilbergeld, well-known sex therapist and author of the widely quoted, "The New Male Sexuality," draws on his many years of clinical and life experience. He explains why we should be enjoying our lovemaking and our intimacy even more than ever and certainly better than ever. Although it's true you are probably going to get to know your doctor much better as you grow older, and probably your pharmacist as well, Dr. Zilbergeld shows how all of us can choose whether we are either going to be "Lovers" in our life or "Non-Lovers." Meticulously researched, based on 145 interviews with men and women ages 45 to 87, Dr. Zilbergeld presents evidence that a good number of men and women are having great sex in both their long- and short-term relationships. He shows you how you can learn from the "Lovers" who are the relationship experts among us. Read this book and you will go away knowing that your love life and your intimate relationships can be just as strong today as 10, 20, or even 30 years ago. You will learn about: -The myths and realities about sex and aging -Normal physical changes in men and women -Lovers and Non-Lovers --where do you fit in? -Problem-solving and what's health got to do with it? -Medications and their uses -How to talk sexy--at any age Don't just complain about your love life, get started today to make it better than ever!




150 Most-asked Questions about Midlife Sex, Love, and Intimacy


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Presents current findings in endocrinology, urology, psychology, and alternative medicine as they relate to questions of intimacy in women experiencing or approaching menopause










Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond


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