Coming Home to Passion


Book Description

This book offers a detailed road map for overcoming sexual and relationship impasses originating from painful childhood experiences. Large numbers of adults with histories of childhood trauma and neglect suffer persistent relationship and sexual difficulties. Unfortunately, most have failed to receive adequate help with emerging from these deep and complex problems. Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect explores the enduring impacts—physiological, psychological, and behavioral—of childhood trauma and neglect. Author Ruth Cohn, drawing on 25 years of experience working with trauma survivors and their partners and families, lays out a practical and actionable course for recovery in clear, accessible language. This book provides direction and hope to those with trauma backgrounds while also serving as a unique resource for professional readers. Integrating in-depth information on attachment and relationship, trauma and neglect, and sexuality, Cohn details a practical, hands-on treatment approach for revitalizing love, health, and passion.




Crazy Love


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At 22, Leslie Morgan Steiner seemed to have it all: a Harvard diploma, a glamorous job at Seventeen magazine, a downtown New York City apartment. Plus a handsome, funny, street-smart boyfriend who adored her. But behind her façade of success, this golden girl hid a dark secret. She'd made a mistake shared by millions: she fell in love with the wrong person. At first Leslie and Conor seemed as perfect together as their fairy-tale wedding. Then came the fights she tried to ignore: he pushed her down the stairs of the house they bought together, poured coffee grinds over her hair as she dressed for a critical job interview, choked her during an argument, and threatened her with a gun. Several times, he came close to making good on his threat to kill her. With each attack, Leslie lost another piece of herself. Gripping and utterly compelling, Crazy Love takes you inside the violent, devastating world of abusive love. Conor said he'd been abused since he was a young boy, and love and rage danced intimately together in his psyche. Why didn't Leslie leave? She stayed because she loved him. Find out for yourself if she had fallen truly in love – or into a psychological trap. Crazy Love will draw you in -- and never let go.




Allies in Healing


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"But what about me?" "Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor's issues?" "Will we ever make love again?" "Will the survivor love me in the end?" "How do I know if I should throw in the towel?" Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners' most important questions, Allies in Healing covers: The Basics—answers common questions about sexual abuse. Allies in Healing—introduces key concepts of working and growing together. My Needs and Feelings—teaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs. Dealing with Crisis—includes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness. Intimacy and Communication—offers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting. Sex—provides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration. Family lssues—suggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivor's family. Partners' Stories—explores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners.




Lovers and Survivors


Book Description

This book should be an integral part of any complete treatment program for sexual abuse survivors and their loved ones. Partners, relatives, and friends of sexual abuse survivors, sexual abuse survivors, health professionals, and educators, will find this book of value. Finally, a book designed with unique issues of partners in mind!




Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life


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Combining clinical analysis with psychological profiles of famous narcissists, here is an indispensable guide to recognizing, coping with, and ultimately overcoming the destructive behavior of narcissists. Everybody needs some healthy narcissism. But in a society obsessed with appearance, wealth, and status, it's easy for problematic narcissists to thrive. Many people who seem to "have it all" are suffering from one of the most common--and overlooked--personality disorders of our time: high level narcissism. Typified by an obsession with perfection, a desperate need for admiration, and a willingness to use and exploit others for personal gain, high level narcissism can spell devastation for anyone who crosses the narcissist's path. In Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, psychotherapist Linda Martinez-Lewi presents an in-depth and supportive plan for identifying, understanding, and dealing with high level narcissistic behavior in those close to you. Martinez-Lewi helps you to liberate yourself from draining personal relationships with narcissists, and shows how to regain a sense of peace, balance, and well-being. Drawing on detailed profiles of famous narcissists, including Pablo Picasso, Frank Lloyd Wright, Armand Hammer, and Ayn Rand, as well as expertly rendered case studies from her private practice as a psychotherapist, Martinez-Lewi shows how to: - understand where narcissistic behavior comes from; -learn to spot narcissistic traits, even in the early stages of relationships; - realize why attempting to change a narcissist is fruitless; and - protect yourself from the narcissist's opportunism, manipulative behavior, and lack of empathy.




Trust After Trauma


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Examines the feelings of loneliness and mistrust suffered by trauma survivors, explores how these feelings affect personal relationships, and suggests ways of negotiating and coping with the trauma for improved relationships.




Surviving Love, Abuse and Relationships


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This book is a documentation about my personal experiences with physical abuse and how I managed to survive with my sanity in tack and some self respect left. It talk about the things to look out for in men, it talks about becoming free and finding myself. It tells you my stories of abuse in detail. And how I managed to break a vicious cycle, a disease. It talks about finding happiness and coming to terms if being single and alone.




The Survivors Club


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Eva wakes up and finds herself in a 1920s lounge with four strangers. One by one, each is mysteriously pulled back in time by an invisible force to keep an unknown boy named Quentin alive. Without a sense of time and no way out, the group becomes entangled in a life or death situation. Tension increases while they piece together a puzzle that reveals more than just a complicated boyhood. Ultimately, each stranger has a secret that creates more unity than they could have imagined. Through the sale of this novella, the author is giving 20% of the total sale of each book to charity. To learn more, go to www.thesurvivorsclub.us. Praise for The Survivors Club "I connected with Nubia after reading her novella...I felt so much compassion for Quentin and the other main characters who, as they got older, realized the crimes being done to them." - Shari Botwin, LCSW "We tend to shy away from tough topics and hard conversations in the name of not making waves. We don't want to rock the boat. Sometimes our survival relies on shaking things up. Nubia has done just that. This novella is rocking the boat and waking us up. We are waking up to the secrets whose destructive reach is much further than we know. Nubia shares a story that has the potential to mend a million open wounds; a thoughtful depiction of a survivor's will to heal." - Sheri-Ann Best, LCSW-R, owner of Broadhollow Psychotherapy "Until healed, trauma lives within us. It stops time, locking us in painful memories, bound to repeat complicated scenarios in order to understand, to "master" the traumatic moment. Much like our unconscious, within Nubia's novella, we find the complexity of trauma, the shards of painful emotions, informing the way we understand and see the world. All the members of the Survivors Club share a shameful, painful secret, one that is often silenced within our society. Beautifully written, the power of the story is found in the eloquence of the writer who allows her characters to be more than victims, to be complex, alive and ultimately to tell their stories." - Silvia M. Dutchevici, MA, LCSW, President & Founder, Critical Therapy Center About Nubia DuVall WilsonNubia DuVall Wilson is an author, poet and journalist. The Survivors Club is her first novella (extended short story). In 2013 she published a book of vignettes about living in NYC called Encounters with Strangers. Nubia graduated from Barnard College, Columbia University, with a degree in English and a minor in Religion.




Ugly Love


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Have you ever felt like a normal discussionturns into him raging at you, while you cower inthe corner, not certain what just happenedto set him off? Have you felt like you would be punished if you stand up for yourself? Have you everbeen told you are imagining things and everyone thinks you're crazy? Have youbeen told no one else could ever love you?Have you been led to believe this is all your fault?If you feel like you are living a fairy taleturned nightmare, then you may be a victim of narcissistic abuse. Abusive relationships with a narcissist follow a specific pattern. There's the initial stage of love bombing, where he's prince charming and you are his princess and soulmate. Then, the debasement starts. The rules start changing. Just whenyou think you know what he wants, the standards change again. Then he isolatesyou. You aren't allowed to see family and friends. If you do, you are punished with silence or rancid accusations. Then,there's the escalation of conversations into turbulent arguments, only for him to apologize and startthe cycle all over again.If you feel hopeless, don't. There is a way out, and your exit plan begins with understanding whatyou are going through and how you endedup there.Narcissism is a spectrum disorder. A person can exhibit a few symptoms of being a narcissist, or enough traits to be diagnosed with the full blown narcissistic personality disorder. There's ambivalence on the partof psychologists and other experts on whether a narcissist can change. So, whatdo you do? Do you stay or do you go? Canyour partner be the one who changes? Laura Charanza is a survivor of forty years of narcissistic abuse. Laura has worked with psychologists, physicians, life coaches and spiritual healers to understand narcissism and a narcissist's victims. With empathy and transparency, lLaura tells, first hand, the story of a typical and toxic relationship with a narcissist. Butunderstand that there isa way out, and here is where your journeyto freedom, peace and true love can begin




When a Man You Love Was Abused


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For all women who know and love a survivor of sexual assault, best-selling author Cecil Murphey has penned an honest and forthright book about helping the man in your life survive--and thrive--despite past abuses.