Tending Grief


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“Camille Sapara Barton is a gift to all of us. ... This is what emergent strategy looks like at the precipice.” —adrienne maree brown, author of Pleasure Activism An embodied guide to being with grief individually and in community—practical exercises, decolonized rituals, and Earth-based medicines for healing and processing loss We live in a culture that suppresses our ability to truly feel our grief—deeply, safely, and on our own terms. But each person’s experience is as unique as the grief itself. Here, Camille Sapara Barton’s take on grief speaks directly to the ways that BIPOC and queer readers disproportionately experience unique constellations of loss. Deeply practical and easy to use in times of confusion, trauma, and pain, Tending Grief includes rituals, reflection prompts, and exercises that help us process and metabolize our grief—without bypassing or pushing aside what comes to the fore. Sapara Barton includes exercises that can be done both alone and in community, including: Altar practices to honor and connect with ancestors known and unknown Locating, holding, and dancing your grief Sharing circles for processing communal loss Water, fire, and nature-based rituals Honoring the survival utility of numbness—and knowing when it’s time to release it Peer support and integration Herbal medicines and plant-based healing Sapara Barton honors each and every experience: The loss of displacement from homelands, from severed lineages and ancestral ways of knowing. The grief of colonization and theft. The deep heaviness that burrows into our bodies when society tells us our bodies are wrong. Practical tools and rituals help readers feel into their grief, honor what comes up, and move forward in healing. Written specifically to center and hold the grief of BIPOC readers, Tending Grief is an invitation to reconnect to what we’ve lost, to find community in our grief, and to tend to our own suffering for our individual and collective wellbeing.




The Wild Edge of Sorrow


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The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and be stretched large by them. As seen on All There Is with Anderson Cooper Noted psychotherapist Francis Weller provides an essential guide for navigating the deep waters of sorrow and loss in this lyrical yet practical handbook for mastering the art of grieving. Describing how Western patterns of amnesia and anesthesia affect our capacity to cope with personal and collective sorrows, Weller reveals the new vitality we may encounter when we welcome, rather than fear, the pain of loss. Through moving personal stories, poetry, and insightful reflections he leads us into the central energy of sorrow, and to the profound healing and heightened communion with each other and our planet that reside alongside it. The Wild Edge of Sorrow explains that grief has always been communal and illustrates how we need the healing touch of others, an atmosphere of compassion, and the comfort of ritual in order to fully metabolize our grief. Weller describes how we often hide our pain from the world, wrapping it in a secret mantle of shame. This causes sorrow to linger unexpressed in our bodies, weighing us down and pulling us into the territory of depression and death. We have come to fear grief and feel too alone to face an encounter with the powerful energies of sorrow. Those who work with people in grief, who have experienced the loss of a loved one, who mourn the ongoing destruction of our planet, or who suffer the accumulated traumas of a lifetime will appreciate the discussion of obstacles to successful grief work such as privatized pain, lack of communal rituals, a pervasive feeling of fear, and a culturally restrictive range of emotion. Weller highlights the intimate bond between grief and gratitude, sorrow and intimacy. In addition to showing us that the greatest gifts are often hidden in the things we avoid, he offers powerful tools and rituals and a list of resources to help us transform grief into a force that allows us to live and love more fully.




Finding Refuge


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Learn how to process your own grief--as well as family, community, and global grief--with this fierce and openhearted guide to healing in an unjust world. In unsettling and uncertain times, the individual and collective heartbreak that lives in our bodies and communities can feel insurmountable. Many of us have been conditioned by the dominant culture to not name, focus on, or wade through the difficulties of our lives. But in order to heal, we must make space for grief and prioritize our wholeness, our humanity, and our inherent divinity. In Finding Refuge, social justice activist, social worker, and yoga teacher Michelle Cassandra Johnson offers those who feel brokenhearted, helpless, confused, powerless, and desperate the tools they need to be present with their grief while also remaining openhearted. Through powerful personal narrative and meditation and journaling practices at the end of each chapter that explore being present with your heart, Michelle empowers us to see that each of us has a role to play in building enough momentum to take intentional action and shift what is unsettled and unjust in the world. Finding Refuge is an invitation to pick up the shattered parts of yourself and remember your strength, wholeness, and sacredness through this practice of presence and attending to your grief.




Mindfulness and Grief


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Without proper support, navigating the icy waters of grief may feel impossible. The grieving person may feel spiritually bankrupt and often the loss is so painful that the bereaved may lose faith in what they once held dear. Mindfulness meditation can restore hope by offering a compassionate safe haven for healing and self-reflection. While nobody can predict the path of someone else's grief, this book will guide the reader forward through the grieving process with simple mindfulness-based exercises to restore mind, body and spirit. These easy-to-follow meditations will help the reader to cope with the pain of loss, and embark on a healing journey. Each chapter focuses on a different aspect of grief, and the guided meditations will calm the mind and increase clarity and focus. Mindfulness and Grief will help readers to begin the process of reconstructing the shattered self that is left in the wake of any major loss.




Forget Prayers, Bring Cake


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Though at times it may seem impossible, we can heal with help from our friends and community– if we know how to ask. This heartrending, relatable account of one woman’s reckoning with loss is a guide to the world of self-recovery, self-love, and the skills necessary to meeting one's own needs in these times of pain– especially when that pain is suffered alone. Grief is all around us. In the world of today it has become common and layered, no longer only an occasional weight. A book needed now more than ever, Forget Prayers, Bring Cake is for people of all ages and orientations dealing with grief of any sort—professional, personal, romantic, familial, or even the sadness of the modern day. This book provides actions to boost self-care and self-worth; it shows when and how to ask for love and attention, and how to provide it for others. It shows that it is okay to define your needs and ask others to share theirs. In a moment in which community, affection, and generosity are needed more than ever, this book is an indispensable road map. This book will be a guiding light to a healthier mental state amid these troubled times.




Climate, Psychology, and Change


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With so many immediate and intensifying crises unfolding around us, how can therapists adapt to promote healing and growth? “As these intriguing essays make clear, some of the finest minds in the world are thinking through the problems and arriving at powerful answers." —Bill McKibben, author, environmentalist, educator, activist, and founder of Third Act With essays from Francis Weller, Bayo Akomolafe, Hāweatea Holly Bryson, and more Western psychotherapy views our practice as a way to bring clients back to baseline “normal.” But our society’s “normal” is profoundly unwell: our ways of being reflect the same unsustainable systems that erode our ecosystems, accelerate global destruction, and ultimately extract our humanity. Moving toward healing and purpose in uncertain times means evolving the way we do therapy and the way we think about mental health. Editor and climate psychologist Steffi Bednarek invites us to co-create a field that navigates unknown futures with skill and grace—one that helps clients build resilience and holds space for the uncertainties unfolding before us. She and 32 contributors explore ideas like: Decolonizing therapy Using therapeutic tools to respond to trauma What psychologists can offer movements for social change and climate justice Helping clients recognize and move past unhelpful responses to climate emergency Nurturing creativity in the face of crisis Holistic and intersectional, this collection reckons with the ways power, colonialism, and capitalism impact our myriad crises—while shaping Western psychology as we know it. With essays by clinicians from both the Global South and Global North, Climate, Psychology, and Change is an anthology unlike anything you’ve read before: a necessary response, an urgent appeal, and a fearless look forward at how we care for our clients, eyes wide open, with compassion and skill in an uncertain world.




Tending Body, Heart, Mind, and Soul


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Includes Discussion Questions We hear a lot about what Jesus said. But what did he do? How did he live? During the days of his ministry, how did he care for his own body, heart, mind, and soul? In this compelling book, Mary Jane Gorman looks behind and between the words of Jesus to discover his humanity, painting a vivid portrait of the life he called us all to live. Chapter titles: Tending the Body includes sections on food, exercise, rest, healing touch Tending the Heart--anger, grief, compassion, passion, priorities, relationships Tending the Mind--exercise, rest, wit, reflection, openness Tending the Soul--nature, wilderness, forgiveness, prayer, obedience Tending Toward Wholeness: Interconnections “Gentle, practical, and wise, Mary Jane Gorman issues an invitation to look closely at Jesus’ humanity and in particular the way he cared for his entire being: body, heart, mind, and soul.” -Patricia D. Brown, Author of Spirit Gifts“If you're earnestly seeking guidance in development of a spirituality which touches every aspect of your life, you will want to let this skilled spiritual guide lead you to the Master himself.” -E. Glenn Hinson, Author of Companions in Christ: Feeding on the Word Mary Jane Gorman is a writer, teacher, and retreat leader living in Greenville, South Carolina. Formerly professor of economics at Furman University, she has served on the board of United Ministries, a nonprofit community organization, and is a leader in First Baptist Church, Greenville.




Dream Tending


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"A master of dreamwork shows how to awaken the power of the living dream to transform your relationships, career, health, and spirit"--Cover.




Tending Our Grief


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If you have suffered a loss in your life and are experiencing the painful and often disorienting ride on the waves of grief, this book was written for you. It is a practical, down-to-earth guide for your journey, not meant as a "fix" for your grief, but an honoring of the process, so you might do it as fully as you can while staying as healthy and balanced as possible. Besides being a seasoned psychotherapist and grief counselor, the author is also an accomplished illustrator/artist, and by drawing from both areas of expertise he has created a cartoon illustrated guidebook that is easy to access and digest, especially when emotions are heavy and energy low. This booklet will fit with any faith orientation or lack thereof. It is not preachy or syrupy, but it is helpful, inspiring and compassionate. In the Foreword, Neale Donald Walsch says,"I can tell you today that not since my work with Elisabeth [Kubler-Ross] have I seen such gently healing, insightfully hopeful, and profoundly helpful suggestions for dealing with loss than are found in Tending Our Grief."




Grieving with Your Whole Heart


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This soulful companion for grief offers wisdom and creative spiritual practices from across faith traditions for walking with sorrow and honoring loss. Whether you need to grieve in words or silence, in solitude or in company with others, this compassionate guide will help you find wholeness and a renewed vision of yourself and the world.