The Essential Guide for the Married Man


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Marriage and becoming a father are two of the most important Rites of Passage in a man's life. Unfortunately, our society no longer recognizes them as such, nor do the elder men prepare, counsel, and train the younger men to succeed in these endeavors. As a result, good men and women enter marriage with false expectations and misconceptions about how to create a successful marriage and a meaningful life. There is hope! If you are struggling & losing faith in your marriage, don't quit. You can learn and master the principles to be successful, end the conflict, save your marriage, and restore your family. If you are not married, you can prepare yourself to enjoy the best that a lifelong marriage can bring. You can lead your family to thrive providing your children a secure and loving home. At the end of the day, it all comes down to your ability to lead yourself and then your ability to lead your family based on your actions. The direction of your leadership comes from the foundation of your life, your purpose. Your purpose will determine the qualities of character that you must develop. You must consciously choose and master the attitude necessary to sustain the self-discipline to navigate the storms of life so that you can serve your purpose. If you remain focused on these four attributes of your life and firmly rooted in your values, you will create an amazing legacy for yourself, your wife, your children, and your community. Truly, practical guidance for real success!




A Married Man's Survival Guide


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A Married Man's Survival Guide is a straight-shooting, no-nonsense guide to what it takes to thrive and prosper as a man in a long-term committed relationship. Based on the guidance of "masters" who have 30 or more years of committed married life, the Guide takes men through such things as preparing for life in this wilderness called marriage to your personal "fitness" routine to ensure lasting success. Along the way, the Guide deals with handling your wife's emotions, dealing with her "upsets" and even walks men through such touchy subjects as separation, divorce and affairs. The concluding chapter contains "250 things you can do to bring a smile to her face" and is based on a challenge the authors gave a men's class they were teaching. The editor writes, "Smartly written as a jungle survival manual, the Guide relies on generous doses of tongue-in-cheek humor to move the reader along at a comfortable pace with plenty of been-there-done-that candid anecdotes add appeal and credibility."




The Guy's Rules


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Did you ever wish there were a set of rules which men could follow to be a good husband and please their wives? These are The Guy's Rules: A Guidebook for Married Men. These are rules learned the hard way. It took blood, sweat, and tears - a lot of them. But, after twenty-nine years of marriage and God's leading, I could not help but learn the rules that worked, and they are all biblical principles. This is not a study directly about marriage, nor roles in marriage. The Guys Rules is about you walking with the Lord while taking ownership and responsibility as the leader in your marriage. You are not a victim, so instead of acting or feeling like one - do something about it! This study will help you behave and act more effectively versus beating the air.God established Himself as the foundation of marriage. I promise you, if you apply the principles contained in The Guys Rules, you will have a better marriage and more joy in your life.




Iron and Cotton: a Man's Field Guide to Marriage


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In "Iron and Cotton," Mike Povenz offers insight that informs and prepares men for the greatest journey in life - marriage. In this must-read book, you will discover the obstacles and challenges that ensnare other men but will not ensnare you. You will receive the tools to help defy the statistics of divorce and grow into the intentional and purposeful man and husband that your family needs. Nobody goes into marriage planning to fail. Yet, millions of couples end up divorced or trapped in loveless and sexless marriages. With the guidance and advice in this book, you will be forged in the fires of wisdom and prepared to handle anything. Inside every man, there is an offering of strength and compassion waiting to be released into his marriage - an IRON side of him ready to offer courage and stability and a COTTON side prepared to offer comfort and understanding. The combination of these traits is essential to build character and fortify your marriage.




The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work


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Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.




Rules for Dating a Married Man


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Women who are involved in an affair with a married man often have to walk a balanced tightrope between satisfying their own needs as well as those of the man with whom they're involved. For most women, these affairs usually turn out to be nerve-wracking experiences meandering among emotions such as excitement, thrill, and the fears of rejection and abandonment. This is primarily because these women often don't understand what her partner truly wants from her, emotionally, physically, or even psychologically. The biggest problem in such an arrangement is that one person often holds more psychological power than the other - and it's usually the married one. This particular imbalance doesn't typically exist - to such a tangible degree - in conventional relationships where both parties involved have equal amounts to lose or gain. It is this imbalance which often leaves one or both parties confused about their roles and the dynamics in the affair. The purpose of this book is to help you figure out exactly what your man wants (and needs) from you, and to help you to meanwhile enjoy your life while maintaining your own sense of integrity and self-esteem. So, for all of you ladies who enjoy walking the spicier road of life, this book will not only help you fulfill your desire of becoming the perfect mate to your married companion, but it will also help you avoid the pitfalls that usually accompany such relationships. Note: While this book may be targeted primarily toward women in heterosexual relationships, the lessons within it are equally applicable to men as well, irrespective of your sexual orientation.




The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work


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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.




Confessions of a Happily Married Man


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Discover God in the messiness of your marriage, as popular marriage and family columnist Joshua Rogers offers spouses hope with real-life stories from his own marriage and helps you see how God is at work in the ordinary and extraordinary of your relationship. Confessions of a Happily Married Man is a husband's painfully honest account of his first ten years of marriage. It offers a window into the perspective of a man who went from "hello" to "I do" in nine months and then figured out how hard marriage could be. When Joshua Rogers thought back on the marriage books he had read or sermons about marriage he had heard, it occurred to him that he could only remember one thing about them: the stories. That's why this book is anchored by stories that other couples will relate to and can easily learn from. The stories are cringe-worthy, humorous, inspiring, heart-breaking, and full of wisdom--but the author isn't telling the reader what to do with that wisdom. He's letting the reader learn along with him as he's gradually becoming more self-aware, increasingly grateful for his wife, and surprised to discover what God is doing in the middle of it all.




Married Men Coming Out


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"Married Men Coming Out" enables a man to come to terms with the issues surrounding his coming out, reduce and alleviate some of his fears, and give him the strength and courage to become not only a role model for others, but a pioneer and an educator. "The greatest gift you can give anyone is the truest essence of yourself." The purpose of this book is not to provide reasons for or against homosexuality. It is, though, a guidebook for those who, having lived a heterosexual lifestyle, realize that they've made a mistake in denying and suppressing their true identity - that of being attracted to members of their own sex - and now realize that being married and even having children, they can no longer live a double life. They need to be who and what they are: gay. This particular subject receives intense public scrutiny, mostly by way of scandals, thus, making the prospect of coming out that much more terrifying for any man. This book alleviates many of the fears attached to coming out by covering everything a man must face giving him in-depth, personal and data-rich insights, clarity, and focus. Personal stories of those who attended the Married Men's Coming Out Group that I facilitated for six years illustrate numerable situations, many poignant, some heartbreaking, and others humorous. Married men were and still are coming out of the woodwork to finally be who they truly are. No more are they willing to compartmentalize their lives, their relationships, and their hearts - no matter what their religion, state and federal laws, or current trends may be telling them. At heart, this book is about authenticity. Being a non-denominational term, authenticity is described as: "...having a genuine...authority in opposition to that which is false, fictitious, or counterfeit." All human beings want to be the opposite of false, fictitious or counterfeit, yet the vicissitudes of life are such that we work incredibly hard doing just the opposite. Hence, the need for this book is paramount as we each seek to live authentically and in so doing, find some level of inner peace, self-acceptance, integrity, joy, and love without which the world may not evolve to reflect these essential attributes for all of mankind.




How to be Married


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At age thirty-four, Jo Piazza got her romantic-comedy ending when she met the man of her dreams on a boat in the Galápagos Islands and was engaged three months later. But before long, Jo found herself riddled with questions. How do you make a marriage work in a world where you no longer need to be married? How does an independent, strong-willed feminist become someone's partner -- all the time? Journalist and author Jo Piazza writes a memoir of a real first year of marriage that will forever change the way we look at matrimony. A travel editor constantly on the move, Jo journeys to twenty countries on five continents to figure out what modern marriage means. Throughout this personal narrative, she gleans wisdom from matrilineal tribeswomen, French ladies who lunch, Orthodox Jewish moms, Swedish stay-at-home dads, polygamous warriors, and Dutch prostitutes. How to Be Married offers an honest portrait of a couple. When life throws more at them than they ever expected -- a terrifying health diagnosis, sick parents to care for, unemployment -- they ultimately create a fresh understanding of what it means to be equal partners during the good and bad times.