The Psychology of Abusive/Predatory Relationships


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In The Psychology of Abusive/Predatory Relationships author Miranda J. Houston assists women in increasing their insight and awareness regarding the dynamics of these toxic relationships. She shares valuable information on how women can set themselves free and avoid future drama. This guide will assist women in the following areas: Distinguishing the difference between an abusive relationship and a predatory relationship. Understanding the psyche of a predator Identifying the two most vulnerable spots in a woman’s psyche. Emotional manipulation techniques employed by predators to keep women stuck in predatory relationships. Steps to assist women in repairing damaged instincts. How to disarm and detach from the predator. Changing one’s relationship blueprint. Finally, The Psychology of Abusive/ Predatory Relationships assists women in discovering the gifts within themselves, determine what they want out of life and get on a path where they will be able to attract the kind of mate they desire.




The Psychology of Abusive Relationships


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Take your life back -- It's never who you think -- Abuse dynamic -- Diagnosis of an abuser -- Red flags -- Control and codependency -- Nancy's story -- Cycles of abuse -- Emotional manipulation tactics -- Intervention and therapy -- How to leave safely -- Lasting effects -- Laura's story.




The Emotionally Abusive Relationship


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A step-by-step guide to help both victims of emotional abuse and their abusers escape unhealthy patterns originating from childhood abuse and neglect In the second edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing, internationally recognized therapist Beverly Engel walks readers through a proven program designed to help readers get to the core of their unhealthy behavior patterns. This book was written specifically for two types of couples—those who mutually abuse each other and those with abusive partners who are willing to honestly look at themselves to and make the necessary changes to stop abusing. Unique among books of this type, Engel focuses on both the abused person and the abuser, offering non-judgmental advice to both groups. She offers effective strategies, techniques, and information to end abusive behaviors, including: Why some people are attracted to abusive people and vice versa Patterns created from childhood neglect and abuse and how to break them Determining if you or your partner suffers from a personality disorder such as Narcissism or Borderline Personality Disorder How to decide whether to continue the relationship or end it The importance of healing shame caused by childhood neglect and abuse How self-compassion can help heal both victims of emotional abuse and the abusers themselves The Emotionally Abusive Relationship is essential for those involved in unhealthy relationships or who have loved ones trapped in an emotionally abusive situation. Therapist recommended, this book is also a must-read resource for students of psychotherapy.




The Verbally Abusive Relationship


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Discusses the potential damage of verbal abuse, how to identify a problem relationship, and how to change or leave the situation.




The Prince Or the Predator


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In this book I use the ?predator? as a metaphor to represent predatory and abusive behavior. A predator is an individual who seduces and later abuses the well being of his victim. He seeks to pleasure himself as he totally disregards the needs and desires of his prey. He leaves his victim confused and exhausted, while he himself grows stronger and satisfied. It is the desire of the predator to achieve full and absolute control over his prey as his survival depends on the complete submission and emotional destruction of his victim.This emotional and psychological abuse is usually denied, overseeing, and frequently perceived as not important, yet it is extremely damaging for the human mind.It is my aim to increase awareness of the dangers and deceitful ways of this abusive behavior, and to offer effective and practical tools to help those who might be, or have been, victimized by this oppressor whether in their personal relationship, business, or professional lives. I wish to help them identify and recognize his seductive ways, as well as to give them the tools to learn how to successfully deal and cope with his harmful and deceitful nature. In addition, and equally important, is to help identify the common traits of victims - the beliefs and characteristics that makes them become an easy prey for the predator, and how to change and empower them in overcoming these traits.In business and in my professional experience as a psychotherapist, I have found that the power of the predator is often mystified and misunderstood by the victim and the predator himself. You will find that this oppressor has a false identity and a root core belief that once understood, unlocks a powerful force within the prey not only to open the gate and gracefully defeat this opponent, but to lead the way.




Coercive Control: Breaking Free From Psychological Abuse


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The devastation of a controlling relationship has to be endured to be believed. From the constant fear of upsetting your spouse, the walking on eggshells in case you've done or said something wrong, or the relentless feeling of anxiety, a controlling partner will beat you down until you no longer recognize yourself. Coercive control will see an abuser dominate their victim's life; from the food they eat, the people they see, the places they can go and the things they can say. A controlling partner, through fear and intimidation, will seek to ensure their victim is subdued, to the point of accepting any and all abuse that's fired their way. By manipulation, gaslighting, lies, and hurtful insults, the abuser will make their victim a willing puppet on a string, ready to be utilized how the controlling spouse sees fit. Coercive control is seldom talked about in comparison to other forms of abuse, yet it's so commonplace in relationships. Plenty of victims of this type of behavior may not even be aware that's it's full-blown abuse. Many more see controlling behavior as their partner's way of showing they 'care'. In order to shed light on this topic, and reach out to those who need help in understanding and overcoming a controlling partner, I have created this book as their starting point. I was shackled to a malignant narcissist for many years of my life, being controlled and manipulated, day-in, day-out. As a proud survivor of abuse, I feel obligated to help others in their journey towards getting their power back and recovering from the cruel effects of an abusive relationship. This book will cover the following: - what coercive control is - the devastating effects of a controlling relationship - financial coercion - breaking the spell of abuse - coercive control after separating I use my own experiences, as well as those of the survivors I've connected with via Escape the Narcissist, to help piece together the things you need to know about this type of abusive relationship.




Dangerous Relationships


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Dangerous Relationships: How to Stop Domestic Violence before It Stops You takes a preventative approach to domestic violence by answering the question "What can I do to avoid getting into a violent domestic relationship?," yet will also be helpful for those already in the midst of a violent relationship. Domestic violence does not suddenly appear out of a void. The majority of domestic violence incidents emerges from certain types of recognizable relationships. Dr. Noelle Nelson, a noted clinical psychologist and therapist, has helped many clients identify the common characteristics that run through most violent relationships, and thus avoid potentially dangerous heterosexual or same-sex relationships. Knowing what to look for and how to uncover a potentially abusive relationship before it ever gets to the physically violent stage greatly diminishes your chances of becoming a victim of domestic violence. The author clearly describes the seven warning signs attributed to these types of relationships, and advises how to proceed once you recognize such warning signs. Dr. Nelson systematically tracks and defines the characteristics of the potentially abusive domestic relationship through the development of four very different real-life scenarios: heterosexual lovers, husband and wife, homosexual lovers, and platonic female roommates. The situations discussed are composites of real events and real people, and they represent the most common relationships involving domestic violence. As different as these relationships may appear on the surface, Dr. Nelson shows they are actually very similar in their underlying dynamics. Dangerous Relationships ultimately points out that domestic violence can happen to anyone at any time regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation. The author's sole purpose is to help stop domestic violence between adults before it has a chance to start - and before the hurting begins.




Why Does He Do That?


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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health




To Have and To Hurt


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Every year, nearly 2 million injuries and some 1,300 deaths result from so-called intimate partner violence. In this work, psychotherapist Browne-Miller uses vignettes, as well as standing and emerging research, to detail both healthy and hurtful relationships and to show partners how to recognize and change relationships on, or headed toward, the path to abuse. She also explains when to leave a relationship, as well as how to do that so as to disentangle without further harm. This is a book that will interest not only those involved in, or who know of someone who is or might be involved in, an abusive relationship, but also students and scholars of psychology, counseling, social work, women's studies, and men's studies. When Cathy and John married 20 years ago, the relationship seemed almost charmed. But over the years as John's career became more established and Cathy raised the family of three children, things changed. First angry fights developed, followed by verbal and gestured threats of violence, and later, actual physical attacks and injuries. Several times Cathy called police, but when they arrived, fearing the social stigma as well as John's retribution, she would explain her injuries as dealt out by a prowler. When friends or family asked, she would claim the cuts or bruises were due to a fall or some other accident. But eventually, when her arm had been broken, a tooth knocked out, and her face bruised so badly she could not cover it up with makeup, she finally left the house and her husband—only to be stalked. Cathy and John are one couple that Angela Browne-Miller introduces us to in this book that looks at the increasingly publicized incidence of intimate partner violence, abuse that takes place behind closed doors, inside marriages and other loving relationships. Only a fraction of this abuse is ever reported, so just a fragment of the problem is reflected in national statistics that show nearly 2 million injuries and some 1,300 deaths annually caused by this so-called intimate partner violence. In this work, Browne-Miller uses vignettes, as well as standing and emerging research, to help us recognize the difference between a relationship being effected by normal stressors, and one that is abusive, or perhaps even deadly. Psychotherapist Browne-Miller details both healthy and hurtful relationships and shows partners how to recognize and change relationships on, or headed down, the path to abuse. And she also explains when we should leave a relationship, as well as how to do that to disentangle without further harm. This is a book that will interest not only lay readers who are involved in, or know of someone who is or might be involved in, an abusive relationship, but also students and scholars of psychology, counseling, social work, women's studies, and men's studies.




The Verbally Abusive Relationship


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In this fully expanded and updated second edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life. In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse--and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior--from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse. Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse--and the abuser. This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!