Traumatic Divorce and Separation


Book Description

Traumatic Divorce and Separation integrates the conflicting mental health perspectives concerning trauma theory and the study of divorce, in what the author has termed "traumatic divorce" -- that is, divorce complicated by the high-risk factors of domestic violence, mental illness, and/or substance abuse. The text's interdisciplinary discussion examines issues of financial disparities for women following divorce, traumatic symptoms in children and adults, and the legal controversies about the admissibility of psychological theories related to abuse. The author also addresses: domestic violence as a gendered crime against women; the need for a trauma-informed judicial response; and the need for a systemic judicial response that incorporates an understanding of domestic violence and child maltreatment to provide services and protections. The book is an invaluable resource for professionals and academics in social work, forensic psychology, law, and related mental health fields, as well as academics interested in gender based discrimination in the courts.




Primal Loss


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Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.







Growing Up With Divorce


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"Practical strategies to counteract the newly discovered long-term effects of divorce on children"--Jacket subtitle.




When Parents Separate


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When Parents Separate - Easing The Trauma For Children is a ground-breaking guide that helps parents support their children pre-separation, during, and in the years that follow the breakup - written by Vicky Omifolaji, a Psychotherapist and a Clinical Social Worker who has over 20 years' experience in counseling and psychosocial assessment and intervention. When Parents Separate - Easing The Trauma For Children is for conscientious parents going through the trauma of separation or divorce process. When Parents Separate - Easing The Trauma For Children provides detailed guidelines about the dos and don't of co-parenting and provides the steps to ensure that your children's well-being is a top priority. This book is a small guide with practical and sensible advice that is easy to implement.




Divorce Your Partner, Not Your Kids


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I want to congratulate you for taking some time to learn how you can reduce the impact your divorce or separation has on your children. You're obviously someone who cares about your children, and how your children will be impacted during this process. What I'm going to show you is seven steps that I took with my former-wife that you can follow too, which will ensure the psychological damage on your children is kept to a minimum. You will learn how to: * Follow 7 proven steps to reduce the stress and suffering for children in divorce * Avoid painful mistakes which may impact your children's psychological future * Manage changes to the family dynamics and overcome the trauma experienced with separation * Transition to a parental relationship with your former spouse * Prioritise your children - before, during and after your divorce * Support your children to create greater harmony and peace during this traumatic time Around 40% marriages will end in divorce after 12 years and in most of these divorces, there will be children involved - children who are innocently affected by these changes in parental relationships. Sadly, these figures are on the rise and in most instances, there will be 2 or more children involved in the divorce process. But who really suffers the most when a divorce occurs? The wife? The husband? No, it is the children who will be affected most and it can be an extremely emotional time for them. Many children will blame themselves in some way, either consciously or unconsciously, for causing their parents to go their separate ways and this can have a profound impact on them later in life. This book will bring out the best in you and your children, during divorce or separation.




Love Trauma


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Dr. Wagner's Love Trauma compassionately explores the mighty divide that opens up when divorce or separation happens. His thorough and patient dissection of that divide allows divorcees to recognize the demons that keep us from getting beyond the divorce, the pitfalls of various post-divorce behaviors, and the procedures we can take to move past the pain. His examination of the divorcee's viewpoint works like magic to make us feel we are not alone and indeed, that many people suffer the same kinds of indignities after divorce. But the examples of those who have got beyond it lift our spirits and make us believe surviving Love Trauma is possible. Chapters include: The Fight-Who is the enemy? Putting on the gloves, The Need to Fight, Fighting the Right Fight. The Furies-dealing with hate, anger, guilt, jealousy, and fear The Victory-knowing you've beat your true enemies From Loneliness to Aloneness-the essential move Wonderment-an ingredient of happiness Finding a Home-dealing with substance and alcohol abuse, workaholism, reclusiveness, and promiscuity




Moving Forward After Divorce


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Divorce is a time of loss--it also becomes a time of change with the possibility that each partner might move forward toward personal restoration and wholeness. But how? David and Lisa Frisbie, authors of Happily Remarried, share godly wisdom, sound advice, and encouragement to help readers: heal from feelings of anger and abandonment discover the sufficiency of God develop interests, dreams, and skills raise healthy kids alone or as a co-parent manage money (or the lack of it) This excellent resource provides great help for those with children and will guide any divorced reader to see the hope of a second chance as they learn to depend on God's grace, sufficiency, and promises.




The Custody Evaluation Handbook


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Joint custody. Same?sex custody. Young children with the mother. Which is the best arrangement? Unfortunately, for those who seek a trustworthy solution, research has proven that there is no single best arrangement for all children. This timely volume, however, does offer a practical and realisic methodology with which to confront the challenging and often confusing issues facing the custody evaluator. THe only book of its kind, The Custody Evaluation Handbook offers a strikingly helpful model for evaluating and assigning weight to the mountains of disparate information accumulated during a custody suit. Written by an unparalleled expert in the field of custody evaluation, the book eschews what the author calls the negative incident model in which each parent responds to the custody process by compiling a long list of grievances against the hated opponent. It advocates, instead a test?based approach that measures how successful each parent actually is at the job of parenting. The book describes numerous tests and tools for eliciting reliable information from both children and parents. With an eye to learning the actual impact a parent has on a child rather than what a given parent may or may not be doing, the book emphasizes obtaining measurements from the involved child. Parent tests are designed to reflect the effectiveness with which a parent responds to typical childcare situations, and the degree to which a parent truly knows ? and can satisfy the needs of ? a particular child. The volume also sets forth concepts derived from extensive research that are particularly helpful in understanding parent?child interactions, and provides a specific system of nonadversary communication strategies that can be used and modeled in all interchanges with evaluation participants, and in the wording of all written reports. Readers will also welcome the numerous suggestions from evaluators all over the country on specific custody dilemmas they have faced. The book is based on many years' meticulous research and is informed by a number of conceptual approaches that include: The proven premise that whatever certain parents intend to communicate is often not what their children are, in fact, perceiving and reacting to The Utilization Model of Milton E. Erikson The Thomas, Chess, and Birch goodness?of?fit model of parent?child interaction Bandler and Grinders' assertion that the meaning of a communication is the response it elicits, regardless of the intentions of the sender Clearly, spelling out the targets of a truly comprehensive and reliable evaluation, The Custody Evaluation Handbook will be an invaluable handbook for custody evaluators and marriage and family therapists, as well as other involved mental health professionals.




The Divorce Journal for Kids


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When your parents tell you that they are getting divorced, you might have lots of big feelings - like anger, fear and sadness - and lots of questions too. This journal is packed full of activities that will help you work through these feelings and get your thoughts and questions out into the open. This journal from parenting expert Sue Atkins gives children aged 7+ a safe place to express their feelings about divorce and the resulting changes, so that they can start to understand them. Full of creative activities to help them process this life-changing event, it provides children with a source of strength and comfort through this challenging time, as well as giving them a way of sharing how they are feeling with a trusted adult.