Understanding Breakup Dynamics


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One of the most common mistakes dumpees make is that they think they can reason with their space-deprived ex and with a little bit of confidence and willpower, guide their ex back into the relationship with them. But, unfortunately, dumpees usually can't do that. They don't possess the power to attract their ex back because dumpers develop negative pre-breakup thinking patterns and poor post-breakup anchors that prevent them from falling back in love. The only thing that can convince dumpers to give their broken relationship another chance is the realization that the grass is greener only where they water it.The purpose of this book is to: - Learn more about breakup dynamics from a psychological perspective- Understand why romantic reconciliations are out of your control- Accept the breakup and maximize your chances of romantic/personal success- Detach from your ex and lose hope- Recover and get over your ex as quickly as possible- Succeed with or without your ex or with someone els




The Polyamory Breakup Book


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Labriola uses real life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from the polyamory community.




Breakup Bootcamp


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“A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw.” —THE OBSERVER A self-affirming, holistic guide for everyone—single or married, divorced or dating—to transforming heartbreak into healing by the founder of the innovative and revolutionary Renew Breakup Bootcamp Amy Chan hit rock bottom when she discovered that her boyfriend cheated on her. Although she was angry and broken-hearted, Chan soon came to realize that the breakup was the shakeup she needed to redirect her life. Instead of descending into darkness, she used the pain of the breakup as a bridge to self-actualization. She devoted herself to learning various healing modalities from the ancient to the scientific, and dived into the psychology of love. It worked. Fast forward years later, Amy completely transformed her life, her relationships and founded a breakup bootcamp helping countless women heal their hearts. In Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan directs her experience as a relationship columnist and as the creator of Renew Breakup Bootcamp into a practical, thoughtful guide to turning broken hearts into an opportunity to break out of complacency and destructive habits. Dubbed "the Chief Heart Hacker," Amy Chan grounds her practical advice and tried and tested methods rooted in cutting-edge psychology and research, helping first her bootcamp attendees and now her readers most effectively heal and reclaim their self-love. Breakup Bootcamp comes at the perfect time, when many are feeling the intensity of being in or out of a relationship, lonely or suffocated, and flirting with old toxic relationships they’ve outgrown. Relatable, life-changing, and backed by sound scientific research, Breakup Bootcamp can help anyone turn their greatest heartbreak into a powerful tool for growth.




The Break-Up Book Club


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Named one of 2021’s Best Beach Reads by Bustle ∙ Country Living ∙ Cosmopolitan ∙ Augusta Chronicle ∙ E! Online ∙ PureWow ∙ SheReads ∙ and more! Breakups, like book clubs, come in many shapes and sizes and can take us on unexpected journeys as four women discover in this funny and heartwarming exploration of friendship from the USA Today bestselling author of Ten Beach Road and My Ex-Best Friend’s Wedding. On paper, Jazmine, Judith, Erin and Sara have little in common – they’re very different people leading very different lives. And yet at book club meetings in an historic carriage house turned bookstore, they bond over a shared love of reading (and more than a little wine) as well as the growing realization that their lives are not turning out like they expected. Former tennis star Jazmine is a top sports agent balancing a career and single motherhood. Judith is an empty nester questioning her marriage and the supporting role she chose. Erin’s high school sweetheart and fiancé develops a bad case of cold feet, and Sara’s husband takes a job out of town saddling Sara with a difficult mother-in-law who believes her son could have done better – not exactly the roommate most women dream of. With the help of books, laughter, and the joy of ever evolving friendships, Jazmine, Judith, Erin and Sara find the courage to navigate new and surprising chapters of their lives as they seek their own versions of happily-ever-after.




Loving Bravely


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As seen on The TODAY Show! “A godsend to anyone searching for, but struggling to find, true love in their lives.” —Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion "Empowering and compassionate, and its lessons are universal." —Publishers Weekly Real love starts with you. In order to attract a life partner and build a healthy intimate relationship, you must first become a good partner to yourself. This book offers twenty invaluable lessons that will help you explore and commit to your own emotional and psychological well-being so you can be ready, resilient, and confident in love. Many of us enter into romantic relationships full of expectation and hope, only to be sorely disappointed by the realization that the partner we’ve selected is a flawed human being with their own neuroses, history, and desires. Most relationships end because one or both people haven’t done the internal work necessary to develop self-awareness and take responsibility for their own experiences. We’ve all heard “You can’t love anyone unless you love yourself,” but amid life’s distractions and the myth of perfect, romantic love, how exactly do you do that? In Loving Bravely, psychologist, professor and relationship expert Alexandra H. Solomon introduces the idea of relational self-awareness, encouraging you to explore your personal history to gain an understanding of your own relational patterns, as well as your strengths and weaknesses in relationships. By doing so, you’ll learn what relationships actually require, beyond the fairytale notions of romance. And by maintaining a steady but gentle focus on yourself, you’ll build the best possible foundation for making a loving connection. By understanding your past relationship experiences, cultivating a strong sense of self-awareness, and determining what it is you really want in a romantic partner—you’ll be ready to find the healthy, lasting love your heart desires.




BreakUp and BreakOut


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Turn Your Breakup into a Breakout! Going through a breakup? Well-meaning family, friends, and the internet seem to be repeating the same message over and over: "Get over it already and move on with your life!" But why do you still feel stuck?Losing your significant other under the best of circumstances is hard. Now, breaking up is often a public affair as social media adds new dimensions to your loss. Breaking up can create feelings of anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, and social isolation. How can you process this complex emotional terrain, navigate the social dynamics of a breakup with grace, and emerge on the other side as an even better version of yourself? Turn your breakup into a breakout! BreakUp & BreakOut was created to help empower people and take the shame and isolation out of breakups. Informed by modern research in psychology and years of relational clinical practice, BreakUp & BreakOut includes guided exercises to make your healing an active process that you have control over. Learn how to deal with overwhelming feelings, manage compulsive behaviors, grapple with the modern dimensions of breakups such as ghosting, identify and transform self-destructive patterns, and invest in yourself so that you will emerge from this challenging experience to find a new and more evolved you on the other side. ...Rachel Thomasian and Tina Setteducate are Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists who work with couples and individuals who are experiencing breakups. In their 15 combined years of clinical experience they have noticed common patterns and themes in people's pain as well as in their healing. BreakUp & BreakOut offers the reader practical, informed, and effective ways to process the difficult and often complex emotions,




Beyond the Breakup


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Written by a man with extensive experience on the topic, Beyond the Breakup explains how men think about breakups, their ex-girlfriend, and how they perceive her behavior in the wake of a relationship's end. It also explains the implications this has for girls who are going through a breakup: what will and won't have an emotional effect on him, how to maximize your chances of getting him back, how and when you should contact him, what you should (and shouldn't) say, how to deal with seeing him again, and much more. The list of the chapter titles below give a good overview of the content. This book is not written for women with a weak spirit. It isn’t going to tell you how to mitigate the pain you feel in the wake of a breakup, and it isn’t going to tell you that everything is going to be fine. And while it will tell you how to maximize your chances of getting your ex back, it isn’t going to pretend that there are any ‘tricks’ to make that outcome likely. However, it will do something much more important: it will give you a strong insight into your ex’s state of mind and male psychology in general. This will give you the foundation you need to navigate the breakup and – more importantly – propel yourself into honest and successful relationships with the men in your future. Chapter List: Introduction PART I – UNDERSTANDING WHAT HAPPENED Men Don’t Fall in Love the Same Way Women Do The Analogy Between Sex and Commitment Why This Always Happens to You Changing Your Perspective Why You Didn’t See It Coming Men Don’t Have “Commitment Problems” The Difference Between Liking You and Liking You Enough Why Men “Fade Out” You Weren’t Dating Him in the First Place The Small Things Didn’t Matter Anyway Why Your Ex (Who Dumped You) Is Still Contacting You Your Ex and Guilt Your Ex and Pride Your Ex and Decisiveness Interpreting His Emotions What’s Going Through His Mind PART II – HOW TO HANDLE THE BREAKUP The Importance of Silence after a Breakup No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends” How to Know If You Should Cut Him Off Why It’s Never Too Late Why You Should Tell Him That You Are Cutting Him Off What to Say Managing Your Expectations When You Should Fight to Save Your Relationship Exceptions to the Rule How to Know If You Should Dump Him First When He Cheats The Anatomy of Missing Him PART III – FOLLOWING THROUGH WITH THE BREAKUP Making Him Jealous Doesn’t Work Seeing Him at Work Being Connected with Your Ex on Social Media Returning His Things and Getting Yours Back What to Do When He Contacts You When He Says He Wants Another Chance Reason and Distraction Stop Sleeping with Your Ex to Prove He Likes You PART IV – MOVING ON AND REBUILDING You Are Responsible for Your Own Romantic Happiness Stop Letting Him Waste Your Time Know Why You Want Him Back Why Getting Him Back Won’t Help Why Getting Dumped Is a Good Thing The Importance of Emotional Honesty Dating Again Putting the Breakup in Perspective When You Can Contact Him Again Reframing the Future A Final Word




Hard To Do


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From Jane Austen to Taylor Swift, a look at the surprising politics of romantic love and its dissolution. Whatever the underlying motives – be they love, financial security, or mere masochism – the fact is that getting involved in a romantic partnership is emotionally, morally, and even politically fraught. In Hard To Do, Kelli María Korducki turns a Marxist lens on the relatively short history of romantic partnership, tracing how the socio-economic dynamics between men and women have transformed the ways women conceive of domestic partnership. With perceptive, reported insights on the ways marriage and divorce are legislated, the rituals of twentieth-century courtship, and contemporary practices for calling it off, Korducki reveals that, for all women, choosing to end a relationship is a radical action with very limited cultural precedent.




Divorce in South Korea


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It may sound logical that individualistic attitudes boost divorce. This book argues otherwise. Conservative norms of specialized gender roles serve as the root cause of marital dissolution. Those expectations that prescribe what men should do and what women should do help break down marital relationships. Data from South Korea suggest that lingering norms of gendered roles can threaten married persons’ self-identity and hence their marriages during the period of rapid structural changes. The existing literature predicting divorce does not conceptually distinguish between the process of relationship breakdown and the act of ending a marriage, implicitly but heavily focusing on the latter while obscuring the former. In contemporary societies, however, the social and economic cost of divorce is sufficiently low—that is, stigma against divorce is minimal and economic survival after divorce is a nonissue—and leaving a marriage is no longer dictated by one’s being liberal or conservative or any particular characteristics. Thus, the right question to ask is not who leaves a marriage but why a marriage goes sour to begin with. In Korea, a majority of divorces occur through mutual consent of the two spouses without any court procedure, but when one spouse files for divorce, the fault-based divorce litigation rules require the court to lay out the entire chronicle of relevant events occurring up to the legal action, often with the help of court investigators. As such, court rulings provide glimpses into the entire marital dynamics, including verbatim exchanges between the spouses. Lee argues that the typical process of relationship breakdown is related to married persons’ daily practices of verifying their gendered role identity.




Coming Apart


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Next to the death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship is the most painful experience most people will ever go through. Coming Apart is a first aid kit for getting through the ending. It is a tool that will enable you to live through the end of your relationship with your self-esteem intact.Daphne Rose Kingma, the undisputed expert on matters of the heart, explores the critical facets of relationship breakdowns:Love myths: why we are really in relationshipsThe life span of loveHow to get through the endingHow to create a personal workbook for finding resolutionTime does a lot to heal our broken hearts, but really understanding what transpired in each of our relationships is what allows us to finally let go and move on.Replaces ISBN 9781573245470