Untangling Your Marriage


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Divorce is hard, but it doesn’t have to be so painful. Collaborative Divorce offers a different, more peaceful path to ending a marriage; this book shows you how to do it. Divorce is like a death in the family, except no one is bringing you food. This book is a myth buster, and an antidote to the negative messaging about divorce. It offers hope and encouragement for the reader to choose a divorce process that aligns with their own core values. Values such as dignity, mutual respect, integrity, and compassion. It offers the reader an introduction to Collaborative Divorce, both the mindset and the process, as it has been established and practiced for the past thirty years. Collaborative divorce is an interdisciplinary, non-adversarial divorce model. It is like mediation on steroids. Divorce is a complex process. It involves legal, psychological, and financial considerations. Collaborative divorce uses an interdisciplinary approach, and it is not dominated by the lawyers and is more cost efficient. A skillful mental health coach addresses emotional issues such as anger, sadness, rage, betrayal, guilt, shame, excitement, relief, and acceptance for everyone in the family. The financial neutral will collect, organize, analyze, and present the financial resources of the couple in a way to ensure an equal understanding of what can often feel like overwhelming amount of data. The lawyers provide legal advice. The core focus of the book is to reframe divorce from a shame and blame game to a paradigm where divorce is viewed through the lens of grief. It offers each reader an opportunity to show up for their divorce and present their best selves, even if they don’t feel like it. It emphasizes honor and respect for everyone involved. This book is an open and honest portrayal of divorce from the perspective of a veteran divorce attorney, who has also been divorced. We live in a time of volatility, uncertainty, complexity, and ambiguity. A divorce is just like that, and the antidote to those conditions include concepts like collaboration, deep listening, innovation, flexibility, and an ability to pivot. Collaborative divorce is the best kept secret of family lawyers. It is an opportunity to emerge from a divorce, healthy and wholehearted, not bitter, and resentful. Learn how to do it here.




Untangling the Knot


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Untangling the Knot: Marriage, Relationships & Identity, an anthology of essays and creative nonfiction, delves past the mainstream focus on marriage equality--beyond the knot-- to examine the broad scope of issues facing members of the LGBTQ community. The collection sheds light on what marriage equality actually means for queer communities. By confronting the concept of tradition through personal discourse, this volume seeks to create conversation amongst the diverse members of the LGBTQ community and their straight allies to prompt a larger, grander, and more realistic vision of what marriage equality really means for those living in the United States. Untangling the Knot: Marriage, Relationships & Identity includes the voices of many individuals who are underrepresented in the modern discourse surrounding LGBTQ rights, and these unique perspectives may change the direction of that conversation for good.




Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life


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Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life is a no-nonsense self-help guide for anyone who has ever been cheated on. Here's advice not based on saving your relationship after infidelity -- but saving your sanity. When it comes to cheating, a lot of the attention is focused on cheaters -- their unmet needs or their challenges with monogamy. But Tracy Schorn (aka Chump Lady) lampoons such blameshifting and puts the focus squarely on the-cheated-upon (chumps) and their needs. Combining solid advice that champions self-respect, along with hilarious cartoons satirizing the pomposity of cheaters, Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life offers a fresh voice for chumps who want (and need) a new message about infidelity. This book will offer advice on Stupid sh*t cheaters say and how to respond, Rookie mistakes of the recently chumped and how to disarm your fears, Why chumps take the blame and how to protect yourself, and more. Full of snark, sass, and real wisdom about how to bounce back after the gut blow of betrayal, Schorn is the friend who guides you through this nightmare and gives you hope for a better life ahead.




Love Now!


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"Love Now! will change your life." -John Austin, host of The Book Club radio program, Florida "Love Now! is beautifully written with such gentle humor and real and accessible clarity. This book offers straightforward tools for developing deeper intimacy in our relationships." -Lesley Ann Warren, Academy-Award nominated actress We are not born knowing how to do relationships - we have to learn. We have to learn about ourselves and our own reactions so we can translate that self-knowledge into positive action in a relationship. The "issues" that arise in every relationship are not "problems" that must be avoided. They alert us that we have the opportunity to increase our understanding of ourselves and others. Never having been schooled in the world of emotions, it is easy to feel frightened and overwhelmed when we run into an experience we do not understand and do not know how to handle. We mistakenly think these learning opportunities are "problems." We think something is wrong, either with our own Self or with the Other. Relationships are the school for our adult developmental task to deepen our knowledge about ourselves and about emotions. Without this knowledge, we feel desperate and hopeless, misinterpreting ignorance as failure. The information in Love Now! is so powerful that readers can immediately begin to step away from the caustic snare of angry accusations and raging arguments. Love Now! gets to the root of the issues in relationships. Real change requires that we not only know something, but that we become it. Love Now! guides the reader to deep internalization of concepts that can lead to transformation, not just behavioral change and adaptation




Untangled


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All women want to feel is valued. But problems arise when we seek confirmation that we are enough using the world's standards. Almost from birth, we are trained to find the approval and acceptance we crave in the eyes of family, friends, and even strangers. The result is that we cannot believe we are who God says we are--accepted, loved, beautiful, and treasured. We get tangled up in the world's assessment and our own self-judgment. With hope-filled writing and plenty of hard-won personal advice, Carey Scott shows women how to untangle their self-esteem from the world and anchor it in Jesus. She lovingly shows readers that God was intentional in how he made them and that he is well pleased with his work. Women will learn practical strategies to escape unattainable standards and the performance-based measuring stick of the world, and find comfort in the fact that they are not alone on the journey.




Untangling the Seven Desires of Your Heart (Workbook)


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A book cannot do what a small group of dedicated friends can do. In your life, a book can close your “knowledge gap,” but only a small group can close your “behavior gap”. A book can change your thinking, but it takes a small group filled with accountability relationships to change your living. God never intended that we should live in isolation. God says it this way, And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another - and all the more as you see the Day approaching.— Hebrews 10:24,25 The book details and lays out the way that love-gaps around the seven desires of your heart that can be closed. But getting it done is a bigger goal than what you can individually self-manage. And when it comes to “matters of the Heart,” the risk of being able to successfully apply truth to our everyday life is very high. Especially, since the Bible warns us that our hearts are deceitful.” And of course, satan will do all he can to destroy any progress we make. God, knowing this, purposely put us into the “body of Christ,” called the church, meaning “the called-out ones.” Our Christian growth will accelerate only when we admit that we need other people to hold us accountable, to encourage us forward and model the way. This humble acknowledgement is where we can begin acquiring “Speed of Sanctification.” The Bible says, “Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23). It is only in a small group’s discussions and prayers where you can accurately define and come to know your own personal heart and you begin to understand how your heart is functioning in these three distinct ways: 1. Emotions - Your heart is the source of what you desire and feel. (Psalm 37:4-5) 2. Thoughts - Your heart influences every thought you think. (Matthew 9:4) 3. Behavior - Your heart guides every action you take. (Matthew 15:19) This twelve-week series of heart-workshops on the Untangling Seven Desires of your Heart will encompass some of the most revealing and penetrating discussions you will ever have. It will be a journey of adventure as you implement new ways of living a love-filled and abundant life. God be with you on your journey to emotional freedom!




Untangling Emotions


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How do you feel about how you feel? Our emotions are complex. Some of us seem able to ignore our feelings, while others feel controlled by them. But most of us would admit that we don't always know what to do with how we feel. The Bible teaches us that our emotions are an indispensable part of what makes us human—and play a crucial role in our relationships with God and others. Exploring how God designed emotions for our good, this book shows us how to properly engage with our emotions—even the more difficult ones like fear, anger, shame, guilt, and sorrow—so we can better understand what they reveal about our hearts and handle them wisely in everyday moments.




Untangling


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Love isn’t always shiny. And it isn’t always forever. With the same gentle, hopeful voice that has captivated readers worldwide comes the guide for starting over. Emma Grace’s second book, Untangling, begins at an ending— and ends at a beginning. Untangling is for anyone navigating the beautifully complicated process of untangling the knots our love stories tie into us. Each chapter tackles the sometimes sequential, sometimes parallel stages of healing a heart— from ‘When it all comes Tumbling Down’ to ‘Don’t you Dare Pick up that Phone.’ From ‘I Keep Forgetting I Can’t Call’ to ‘I will Never Love like this Again.’ This is a journey towards self-growth through reflection. Sprinkled with stories from her own journey, Emma will have you laughing. Reflecting. Tearing up. Letting go. But ultimately, feeling whole. Like a conversation with a best friend, Untangling will help you find your balance again. Remind you that you’re not alone in all this. Encourage you to learn from experiences in love instead of just having them. But mostly— how to find the kind of happiness that someone else didn’t make. And a broken heart can never take. Untangling is the book that helps you move forward without going back. That starts at an ending and ends at a beginning. And helps us each find peace with all the things we do, and did, when love was leading us.




Untangling Relationships


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The No-Nonsense Guide to Divorce


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The straight-talking guide to divorce by a seasoned family lawyer. The No-Nonsense Guide to Divorce: Getting Through and Starting Over is the straight-talking, reassuring book you need now if you find yourself facing divorce. Written by an experienced family law attorney, the book is an often blunt, sometimes funny, always empathetic look at one of the most challenging time in your life. The book begins with a list of rules to help you through the tough parts. They’re reliable, time-tested, formulated from the author’s 27 years in practice. In a clear, concise, and contemporary voice, author Lori Hellis offers step-by-step, start-to-finish advice on the many phases of divorce. She covers the full spectrum of divorce issues from beginning to end, from how to start and what temporary measures to take to deciding child custody and parenting time, calculating child and spousal support, and dividing property and debts. The book contains essential information for anyone during a divorce and includes specialized chapters for divorcing seniors, gay couples, and military members. It’s filled with concrete advice, sample documents, and hilarious and sometimes cringe-worthy examples from the author’s years as a practicing divorce attorney. It’s the perfect blend of how-to and what-not-to-do.