When My Parents Were My Age, They Were Old


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This tongue-in-cheek celebration boldly goes where no book has gone before--right into the heart, soul, and "easy-fit" wardrobe of the generation that invented sex, drugs, and rock and roll to reveal exactly how 76 million baby boomers are handling middle age. Line drawings.




As My Parents Age


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For most of us it is not the "ifs" but the "whens": when I notice the first signs; when we mourn the role reversal; when my children need me too; or when I don't know how to pray. Those are just a few of the fifty-two reflections on the changes, challenges, and blessings of loving your parent as they grow older. Their lives--and yours--begin to change. Knowing that you are not alone, that others have been where you are, is encouraging and uplifting. This is not a how-to, but a me-too, as you see yourself and your own situation lived out in the stories of others.




Teenagers 101


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If you have ever found yourself second-guessing how you’re raising your teenager or even at a complete loss for how to deal with some of the problems and situations they are dealing with in today’s complex world that barely resembles the one you grew up in . . . you’re not alone! As a parent, of course you want to see your teen succeed in school and in life--and you’re always willing to do your best to help--but where do you start? How can you relate? What can a parent do that they know will make a difference? Maybe you don’t know the best answers, but one of their teachers might!Veteran high school teacher--and a parent herself--Rebecca Deurlein has spent day in and day out watching kids interact with peers, make decisions, deal with difficulty, accept or deflect responsibility . . . basically being parents’ eyes and ears--and there’s so much she wants you all to know about your kids! In Teenagers 101, Deurlein examines how we can support our teens as they cope with the challenges of the modern world, and offers to parents everywhere practical strategies for getting teens to:• Be self-motivated• Take responsibility for learning• Puzzle through problems• Become their own advocate• Present themselves well• And much morePacked with engaging anecdotes and backed by years of experience, Teenagers 101 is the crash course all parents must take in order to learn the skills their kids need to thrive in college and beyond.




My Parents Were Awesome


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NEWSFLASH: Your mom and dad weren’t always parents. They used to be people—and they were awesome They bathed you. They fed you. They raised you to become the person you are today. Your parents are an integral part of your story. But guess what? They have a story too—one that started long before you entered the picture. Before embarrassing fanny packs and Lite FM, there was a time when Mom and Dad were young and carefree—just like you. They were also fun and flirty, full of hope and desire and effortlessly cool. Based on the wildly popular website, My Parents Were Awesome shares heartwarming and hilarious essays by sons and daughters—including Jamie Deen, Christian Lander, Dave Itzkoff, Katherine Center, Laurie Notaro, and Holly Peterson—who’ tell tales of their folks before babies, mortgages, and receding hairlines: the mom and dad who traveled by VW bus to see Led Zeppelin for $1, the grandmother whose halter top and shorts belied her perfect demeanor, the father whose wanderlust passed down to his equally nomadic daughter. Accompanied by treasured vintage photographs, these stories will make you laugh, melt your heart, and spark your own reflections of Mom and Dad. “Jimmy and Paula” by Jamie Deen “Eleanor and Johnny” by Jennifer Mascia “Steve and Teena” by Mike Adamick “Tony and Leeka” by Aaron Khefeits “Bruno and Elena” by Elia Bazan Garcia “Richard and Jennifer” by Christian Lander “Bob and Kitty” by Mindy Raf “Elaine and Jerry” by Mike Sacks “Josephine and Jim” by Salena Landon Reese “Lil and Jon” by Sara Benincasa “Seymour” by David Kamp “Christy and Teddy” by Kambri Crews “Joe and Patricia” by Tom McAllister “Ron and Sherry” by Rebecca Serle “Chuck and Debra” by Alex Blagg “Bob and Leslie” by Bex Schwartz “Gerry and Maddy” by Dave Itzkoff “David” by Jackie Mancini “Seymour” by Philip Glist “Patricia and Jerry” by Mandy Stadtmiller “Deborah” by Katherine Center “Carol and Jimmy” by Laurie Notaro “Heather and Ian” by Gabrielle Nancarrow “Phil and Karen” by Mollie Glick “Marty and Aveva” by Rachel Shukert “Azra and Ilarion” by Veronica Lara “David and Maria” by Anita Serwacki “Wayne and Margaret” by Hanna Brown Gordon “Martha and Jim” by Kate Spencer “Roger and Terry” by Kyle Beachy “Diane and Michael” by Leigh Newman “Kevin and Moira” by Ben Craw “Pete” by Holly Peterson “Martin” by Bradley H. Gendell “Addie and James” by Meg Federico “Dolores” by Durga Chew-Bose “Terry and Kathy” by Brandy Barber “Jim and Kathy” by Jennifer E. Smith “Hazel” by Rachel Fershleiser “Andrei” by Alexandra Stieber “Jud and Claudia” by Ryan Doherty “Kathryn and Phillipe” by Kathryn Borel “Astrid” by Ophira Eisenberg “Don and Corinne” by Rachel Sklar “Panfilo and Leonina” by Giulia Rozzi




Running on Empty


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A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it.




Mothers Before


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Who was your mother before she was a mother? Essays and photos from Brit Bennett, Jennifer Egan, Danzy Senna, Laura Lippman, Jia Tolentino, and many more. In this remarkable collection, New York Times–bestselling novelist Edan Lepucki gathers more than sixty original essays and favorite photographs to explore this question. The daughters in Mothers Before are writers and poets, artists and teachers, and the images and stories they share reveal the lives of women in ways that are vulnerable and true, sometimes funny, sometimes sad, and always moving. Contributors include: Brit Bennett * Jennine Capó Crucet * Jennifer Egan * Angela Garbes * Annabeth Gish * Alison Roman * Lisa See * Danzy Senna * Dana Spiotta * Lan Samantha Chang * Laura Lippman * Jia Tolentino * Tiffany Nguyen * Charmaine Craig * Maya Ramakrishnan * Eirene Donohue * and many others




Grown and Flown


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PARENTING NEVER ENDS. From the founders of the #1 site for parents of teens and young adults comes an essential guide for building strong relationships with your teens and preparing them to successfully launch into adulthood The high school and college years: an extended roller coaster of academics, friends, first loves, first break-ups, driver’s ed, jobs, and everything in between. Kids are constantly changing and how we parent them must change, too. But how do we stay close as a family as our lives move apart? Enter the co-founders of Grown and Flown, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington. In the midst of guiding their own kids through this transition, they launched what has become the largest website and online community for parents of fifteen to twenty-five year olds. Now they’ve compiled new takeaways and fresh insights from all that they’ve learned into this handy, must-have guide. Grown and Flown is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to—and through—high school and those first years of independence. It covers everything from the monumental (how to let your kids go) to the mundane (how to shop for a dorm room). Organized by topic—such as academics, anxiety and mental health, college life—it features a combination of stories, advice from professionals, and practical sidebars. Consider this your parenting lifeline: an easy-to-use manual that offers support and perspective. Grown and Flown is required reading for anyone looking to raise an adult with whom you have an enduring, profound connection.




They're Your Parents, Too!


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Your parents are growing older and are getting forgetful, starting to slow down, or worse. Suddenly you find yourself at the cusp of one of the most important transitions in your life—and the life of your family. Your parents need you and your siblings to step up and take care of them, a little or a lot. To make the right things happen, you will all need to work together. And yet your siblings may have very different ideas from yours of what’s best for Mom and Dad. They may be completely uninterested in helping, leaving you with all the responsibility. Or they may take charge and not allow you to help, or criticize whatever help you do give. Will you and your siblings be able to reach an understanding and work together, or will the challenges you face tear you apart? Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the “old” family to the “new” one, especially for adult siblings. Here you’ll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including • Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out? • How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles? • How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment? • How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs? • How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore? • Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst? Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They’re Your Parents, Too! offers all the information, insight, and advice you’ll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents’ place as the decision-making generation of your family. Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.




My Dead Parents


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Named one of Esquire's "Best Nonfiction Books of 2018" "Sharp and searching...a potent look at the fraught, painful, and complicated relationship between parents and children, and the mysteries — revelatory, difficult — that can and cannot be solved." — Boston Globe Anya Yurchyshyn grew up in a narrow townhouse in Boston, every corner filled with the souvenirs of her parents’ adventurous international travels. On their trips to Egypt, Italy, and Saudi Arabia, her mother, Anita, and her father, George, lived an entirely separate life from the one they led as the parents of Anya and her sister – one that Anya never saw. The parents she knew were a brittle, manipulative alcoholic and a short-tempered disciplinarian: people she imagined had never been in love. When she was sixteen, Anya’s father was killed in a car accident in Ukraine. At thirty-two, she became an orphan when her mother drank herself to death. As she was cleaning out her childhood home, she suddenly discovered a trove of old letters, photographs, and journals hidden in the debris of her mother’s life. These lost documents told a very different story than the one she’d believed to be true – of a forbidden romance; of a loving marriage, and the loss of a child. With these revelations in hand, Anya undertook an investigation, interviewing relatives and family friends, traveling to Wales and Ukraine, and delving deeply into her own difficult history in search of the truth, even uncovering the real circumstances of her father’s death – not an accident, perhaps, but something more sinister. In this inspiring and unflinchingly honest debut memoir, Anya interrogates her memories of her family and examines what it means to be our parents’ children. What do we inherit, and what can we choose to leave behind? How do we escape the ghosts of someone else’s past? And can we learn to love our parents not as our parents, but simply as people? Universal and personal; heartbreaking and redemptive, My Dead Parents helps us to see why sometimes those who love us best hurt us most.




Marital Conflict and Children


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From leading researchers, this book presents important advances in understanding how growing up in a discordant family affects child adjustment, the factors that make certain children more vulnerable than others, and what can be done to help. It is a state-of-the-science follow-up to the authors' seminal earlier work, Children and Marital Conflict: The Impact of Family Dispute and Resolution. The volume presents a new conceptual framework that draws on current knowledge about family processes; parenting; attachment; and children's emotional, physiological, cognitive, and behavioral development. Innovative research methods are explained and promising directions for clinical practice with children and families are discussed.