Will Our Love Last?


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Am I with the right person? Will our love last? Men and women in love are haunted by these questions. Love -- especially why it blossoms in relationships and why it later dies -- is a mystery to them. Will Our Love Last? A Couple's Road Map solves this mystery by giving readers a new understanding of love -- an understanding they can actually use to evaluate the soundness of their relationships and to answer confidently the crucial questions that mystified them before. Based on hundreds of cases in his twenty-four years as a marital therapist and twenty-nine years in his own happy marriage, Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., explains how compatibility is the key to lasting love. He shows how compatibility on three major dimensions -- the Practical Dimension, the Sexual Dimension, and the Wavelength Dimension -- is essential to the mutual understanding and affirmation that keep love alive, and he leads readers through a simple but systematic procedure for assessing their compatibility with a romantic partner in these crucial relationship areas. Dr. Hamburg introduces a new technique, The Hand Rotation Exercise, to help readers express their degree of compatibility and then convey that visually to their partner. In addition, he presents two new original techniques for working through relationship conflicts and coming to agreement on difficult issues: His Way/Her Way and The Long Conversation. Written in a clear, direct style that is free of jargon, Will Our Love Last? empowers readers to make important relationship decisions that are intellectually and emotionally informed. Will Our Love Last? will help couples trying to decide if they should take the next step to a more committed relationship. It will aid individuals embarking on a new relationship, or who are between relationships, to evaluate the rightness of a new or prospective partner. And it will assist people who are already in committed relationships to make an honest assessment of their prospects for happiness with their current partner. People have it in their power to make sure that they truly are with the right person. Will Our Love Last? shows the way.




Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time


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"A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils."—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. "Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it."—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon "[A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered."—Publishers Weekly "Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst."—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review "[T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic."—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com




What Makes Love Last?


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"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships"--




Making Love Last Forever


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For years Gary Smalley has helped millions of couples throughout North America enrich their relationships and deepen their bonds of love and companionship. In this extraordinary book, he shows you how to stay in love through all the stages of life. From first attraction to lifelong commitment, Gary's proven techniques and practical advice show you how to pursue and keep the love you want, and how to energize your relationship with enduring, passion-filled love. In this book you'll learn how to: Understand and use love's best-kept secret Deal with the number one enemy of love Turn headaches into more love Increase your energy to keep loving Find the power to keep on loving your spouse Use normal conflicts as doorways to intimacy Read a woman's built-in marriage manual twelve ways Divorce-proof your marriage Develop the five vital signs of a healthy marriage Respond to your partner's number one request Find the powerful secret to great love Bring out the best in your maddening mate With humor, empathy, and insight, Gary Smalley inspires you to fall in love with life and enjoy the deep satisfaction of a lifelong love. Down-to-earth examples, touching personal experiences, and inspiring spiritual principles will motivate you to bring about positive changes in your marriage-whether or not your mate is a willing participant. You'll learn how to tap resources at hand to help you follow through with your journey-and make your love last forever.




Making Love Last


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With thirty years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist, Laura Taggart understands the unique struggles of newly married couples who find marriage much more difficult than they imagined. Failed expectations, unanticipated conflict, and disagreements about money, sex, children, and more have many young couples assuming they made a mistake, married the wrong person, or just weren't ready. As a result, one-third of all married couples divorce before their ten-year anniversary. In this practical and hopeful book, Taggart offers the wisdom and help she would share as a counselor with a couple beginning their marriage. She helps couples examine their true expectations for marriage, provides six action steps for improving the way couples relate, and gives couples a new picture of what it means to enjoy marriage for a lifetime. Each chapter includes discussion questions for couples or small groups as well as additional questions for personal reflection.




The 5 Love Languages


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Over 20 million copies sold! A perennial New York Times bestseller for over a decade! Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today. The 5 Love Languages® is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work. Includes the Love Language assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one.




Better Love Next Time


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Better Love Next Time offers help in coping with the pain and heartache of a bad breakup, but more than that, it reveals how to overcome the lingering damage that a broken relationship can leave behind – how to heal your romantic soul. J.M. Kearns presents a simple (and entertaining) way to diagnose what went wrong, so history won't have to repeat itself, and explains how to decode the "guide to compatibility" written in your own past. Witty, frank, and full of real-life stories, Better Love Next Time ensures that when you do find a new love, you will arrive whole, renewed, and empowered to make it the one that lasts. In Better Love Next Time, J.M. Kearns discusses: how to deal with the "wall of pain" that is a broken heart, and what is waiting beyond the wall why "falling in love" too often doesn’t lead to love; and how to change that how our attempts to avoid being cheated on again can make us choose exactly the wrong partners the real key to faithfulness in a partner the surprising toll that cheating takes on the cheater how a mismatch can trick you into feeling inadequate how to replace what you've lost after a breakup how good matches go bad – the ultimate scoop on how to make your next (good) match last. "Read it, people. J.M. Kearns's new book called Better Love Next Time... The book's main premise is that people often repeat the same mistakes in successive relationships, but if you can diagnose what really went wrong with your exes, you can have better relationships in the future." — Erin Meanley, Glamour.com "If you're searching for love, then you should start with this refreshingly intelligent and insightful dating guide." —Shari Low, Daily Record "Self-help books often make me skittish - but not this one. Kearns's advice is sound and good: he tells us to look inward, to be honest with ourselves, to stay the course. A chapter called How Good Matches Go Bad is, alone, worth the book's price...He says our demons will invariably rise up and try to disrupt ...It's important to learn to step back when you sense trouble 'and ask yourself, who is talking here?' Are there old grudges in play? Old hurts stinging? False lessons echoing that have nothing to do with the two of you?" —Susan Schwartz, Montreal Gazette




Getting the Love You Want


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I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship.M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled A remarkable bookthe most incisive and persuasive I have ever read on the knotty problems of marriage relationships. Ann Roberts, former president, Rockefeller Family Fund




Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person


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A collection of essays extended from The New York Times' most-read article of 2016. Anyone we might marry could, of course, be a little bit wrong for us. We don’t expect bliss every day. The fault isn’t entirely our own; it has to do with the devilish truth that anyone we’re liable to meet is going to be rather wrong, in some fascinating way or another, because this is simply what all humans happen to be – including, sadly, ourselves. This collection of essays proposes that we don’t need perfection to be happy. So long as we enter our relationships in the right spirit, we have every chance of coping well enough with, and even delighting in, the inevitable and distinctive wrongness that lies in ourselves and our beloveds.




How Two Love


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Getting together with a partner may be easy, but staying together is anything but. So how do you keep a loving relationship alive, and your sexual intensity fully charged? How do you grow as a partnership, rather than grow apart? How Two Love sets out with a bold ambition; to offer the tools and guidance you need to solve these problems, turning the practice of love into an art. How Two Love is a celebration of our relationships, not as a formula, but as a work in progress, messy and complex and wonderful. With a transparency that refreshes, and a lightness that will leave you smiling, internationally respected author and educator Jan Resnick turns his extensive experience of psychotherapy and couples counselling into a series of charmingly recounted stories from his consulting room. He brings together surprisingly connected themes and lessons learned from a career that spans three continents and four decades. Described as "the book that, now in my sixties, I wish I had read in my twenties," by notable psychiatrist and author Richard A. Chefetz, MD, How Two Love doesn't seek to diagnose or judge. It isn't a textbook reserved for specialists and professionals. Resnick's audience is far broader. As Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist and author Nancy McWilliams, PhD, wrote, How Two Love is for "anyone who has ever been in love, wanted to be in love, lost a love, or suffered for love." The first offering in his Meaningful Living Book Series, How Two Love is a powerful and transformative guide made for two, a reminder that, in love, every wound, every mistake, and every missed opportunity is an occasion to heal, to grow and to learn. In its pages, Resnick has deftly created a detailed roadmap, revealing how you can avoid the pitfalls that lead to breakdown and emotional injury; while raising the deeper issues of desire, the loving sexuality of a long-term partnership, and, most importantly, what makes love work over time.