Male Sexuality


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At first glance the sexual male seems easy to understand, but beneath the surface lie complexities that disrupt lives and relationships. Respected psychologist Michael Bader takes an honest look at the nuances of male sexuality, addressing issues such as sexual boredom, internet sex, and sexual fantasies that can leave women bewildered and men ashamed. Illustrated with engaging examples from his practice, Male Sexuality gives readers, both women and men, deeper understanding of male behavior. Through increased awareness of the psychology behind the sex, Bader aims to enhance individual self-esteem and improve communication in relationships.




Contemporary Male Sexuality


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This accessible guide confronts myths and pressures surrounding men and sex, promoting a positive and healthy model of male sexuality that replaces traditional expectations. The chapters in this book engage with cultural assumptions about male sexuality, from harmful early messaging, to the importance of enjoying intimacy, pleasure, and eroticism over the age of 60. The authors challenge the effects of toxic masculinity and traditional gendered roles in sex, celebrating sexual diversity, confronting double standards, and empowering men and couples to develop an equitable sexual bond. Case studies and psychosexual skill exercises are integrated throughout to make each concept personal and concrete, and incorporate the Good Enough Sex (GES) model to promote an authentic sexual self throughout the lifespan. With a focus on mutual consent and pleasure, Contemporary Male Sexuality offers a new model of male sexuality that helps men and couples achieve a satisfying, secure, and sexual bond, replacing damaging expectations with healthy sexual values.




Reading Your Male


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You can play a significant role in your man's struggle against sexual sin. Reading Your Male is an indispensable resource with practical advice, strong biblical undergirding, and hope for a real solution.




The Sexually Healthy Man


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DESCRIPTION: I grew up in the Southern Baptist church of the 90's during the height of the True Love Waits movement, accompanied by Joshua Harris' bestseller, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. If you don't know what I am referring to, consider yourself blessed. Many of the ideas perpetuated by this culture were infused with fear and shame, offering no practical help or guidance in equipping young people to become healthy sexual human beings. As I approached adulthood, I became accustomed to feeling shame around my sexuality; trying to white-knuckle purity and falling short over and over again. This left me feeling full of self-hatred and hopelessness. I hope for this book to serve as the guide I wish I'd had, providing comfort and clarity to those who find themselves in a similar struggle for sexual health. I have written these essays not only for men but also for women who want to understand what healthy sexuality can look like in a partner. May this book be life-giving to your sexual healing. May courage accompany you as you engage with these essays of spirituality, sexuality, & restoration.ENDORSEMENTS: "Most of us have some sense as to what God says about sex. Few of us have a sense of what sex says about God. In The Sexually Healthy Man, Andrew Bauman shows men how sexuality can be a window into understanding God more deeply; as well as understanding the glory and strength of our own masculine soul. With a rare blend of disarming vulnerability and trauma-informed clinical wisdom, Andrew lovingly helps readers understand the real nature of sexual brokenness. Best of all, he sets men on a proven path to living wholehearted and free in a way that will make us all think differently about sex, spirituality, and restoration." - Michael John Cusick, CEO at Restoring the Soul, Inc. Author of Surfing for God "The Sexually Healthy Man arises out of the immense courage of therapist, Andrew Bauman. The title may seem like an oxymoron to any man paying attention to a newsfeed or a mirror. It's tempting to see the debris of sexual harm around us and within us and respond with despair or minimization. Andrew invites us to an alternative path that is both unflinchingly honest and hope restoring. This is a generous book, full of stories and wisdom. The Sexually Healthy Man can guide you to personal healing and, in the process, it might also enliven you to be a participant in the seismic cultural change needed in our world today."- Jay Stringer, M.Div, MA Author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing "As a young therapist, I devoured Irvin Yalom's The Gift of Therapy - winsome and wise letters to his therapists and patients nudging them along in a journey of healing. Like Yalom's short letters, Andrew's essays are deep but accessible, courageous, and compassionate, offered out of the experience of a seasoned therapist. They're engaging invitations to heal our systems and ourselves by addressing our stories, our bodies, and our fears of sex and sexuality. What a gift!" -Chuck DeGroat, PH.D.Professor & Author "As a blogger who often has to pick up the pieces from women betrayed by the men they loved, this book made me hope again! What would the world look like if men would humble themselves, be honest, and reclaim health and wholeness? Let Andrew Bauman lead you on the messy road toward healthy sexuality--and real intimacy between the sexes." -Sheila Wray Gregoire, ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, Author of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex




Sexual Fluidity


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Is love “blind” when it comes to gender? For women, it just might be. This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context-dependent nature of female sexuality. Lisa M. Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groups, and, most important, different love relationships.This perspective clashes with traditional views of sexual orientation as a stable and fixed trait. But that view is based on research conducted almost entirely on men. Diamond is the first to study a large group of women over time. She has tracked one hundred women for more than ten years as they have emerged from adolescence into adulthood. She summarizes their experiences and reviews research ranging from the psychology of love to the biology of sex differences. Sexual Fluidity offers moving first-person accounts of women falling in and out of love with men or women at different times in their lives. For some, gender becomes irrelevant: “I fall in love with the person, not the gender,” say some respondents.Sexual Fluidity offers a new understanding of women’s sexuality—and of the central importance of love.




Sons, Lovers, and Fathers


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In Sons, Lovers, and Fathers, noted French psychoanalyst Didier Dumas dares to explore all the dimensions of male desire and sexual pleasure. Not another book about technique of playboy fantasies, Dumas's work will help men who are liberated - but still sexually inarticulate - express their deepest feelings in a new way. This is a book for young men constantly overwhelmed by porno-erotic imagery who don't know what to make of their feelings or how to handle themselves in a world of plastic supermodels and pumped-up superstars. And it is a book for women who are baffled by the men in their lives and their inability to speak about or even understand what they feel. This book will get people talking: man to man, father to son, and lovers to each other.




The New Male Sexuality


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The New Male Sexuality addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them. Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences. the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling. Clear, comprehensive, witty, and refreshingly realistic, The New Male Sexuality is destined to be a classic of the nineties and beyond.




The Gender of Desire


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Here, one of the world's pioneers in the field of masculinity studies explores the construction of male sexuality, pornography, and sexual violence. Michael S. Kimmel analyzes what male sexuality is, where it comes from, how it works, what affects it, pornography's impact on it, what fantasies men have about sex, what people think about sex, and how male ideas about sex affect what men actually do. Provocative and wide-ranging, these essays make important contributions to sociology, queer theory, American studies, history, and studies of gender, sexuality, and gay and lesbian issues.




Understanding Male Sexuality


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The main ideal of this book is to delve into the exploration of male sexual desire. where stereotypes often portray men as being obsessed with sex. but is this representation accurate?.Moreover "Understanding Male Sexuality" doesn't just stop at exploration; it offers practical guidance for readers seeking to transform their romantic lives for the better. By fostering a greater understanding of their own desires and those of their partners, readers can cultivate more fulfilling and meaningful relationships.Crucially, this book also addresses the sensitive issue of sexual dysfunction, offering insights into how a deeper understanding of male sexuality can help in the healing process. By fostering open communication and dispelling myths surrounding sexual performance, readers can embark on a journey toward reclaiming intimacy and experiencing greater fulfillment in their romantic lives. Through its blend of empathy, insight, and practical advice, this book serves as a beacon of hope for those seeking to navigate the complexities of intimacy with confidence, compassion, and authenticity.Let's explore the myths and truths surrounding male sexual desire, and how this would help change your romantic life for the better.




Understanding Male Sexuality


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This book provides the detailed information that parents were often uncomfortable explaining to their male children, or perhaps didn't know themselves, that school classes providing sex education somehow failed to mention, and even information that high-school buddies did not seem to know. There will also be ideas that even wives and other long-term partners never encountered before. Every man knows he has the same sexual body parts the other guys have. However, every guy at some level is also convinced that his own situation and what he faces sexually is unique, and that he is therefore somehow different from every other guy. Sex in all its forms always seems to get guys stuck somewhere between the emotions of total terror and unbelievable joy. Each of us possesses a set of unique sexual turn-ons that work for one person but perhaps not for others. For men, turn-ons tend to be heavily focused on the visual, and it usually does not take much for the male-arousal system to spring into action. All many men need to do is see a pretty woman and their sexual-arousal systems are off to-the-races. The system in place that sustains the human species is a most remarkable piece of biological engineering. It has to function well at all sorts of levels beginning with the process of why human beings should be programmed to seek-out and have sex with mates, with the goal of keeping the human species successful over long periods of time. Many men struggle throughout their lives, perhaps through several marriages or other long-term relationships, without ever mastering the finer skills in the art-and-science of lovemaking. Most of these men would have far fewer continuing-relationship issues if they were at all willing to objectively examine their own lovemaking skills. Sexual technique is an important part of this, but it is only a component of the broader set of issues that make relationships work. My advice to a man entering any relationship with a potential sexual partner is to have fun, but proceed slowly, carefully, and deliberately, and do not be afraid to reveal a good deal more about your sexual inner-self than you thought you would. For a man, this is usually about slowing everything down. Slowing down has benefits for both partners in terms of ultimately building a more powerful sexual experience. Learning to appreciate, indeed, learning to enjoy sexuality is the key for dealing with fear, angst and self-doubt. That is the reason I wrote this book. I will take you, the reader, to places you have never been before. So, sit back and enjoy the ride.